There's this guy and he used to be my friend and he really liked me. I liked him in the beginning but then I didn't like him anymore and I didn't know how to let him down easy without breaking his heart so I didn't tell him that I didn't like him anymore. I guess he thinks that I started a bunch of rumors about him which I didn't and he says I broke his heart. He already turned the whole grade against me and then he told my (now ex) boyfriend that I was using him. (That's why he broke up with me) And I am getting mad because I want to know why can't he just forgive and forget. He's even arranged 2 girls to beat me up. I have been really nice to him here lately and then when I come to him with my problems he laughs. It hurts a lot. Mostly because he told my boyfriend that I was using him. How would I convice him to forgive and forget?
2007-06-07 18:46:13 · 8 answers · asked by Molly ... 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I don't want to MAKE him forgive and forget. I want to convince him that it would be better if he did.
2007-06-07 18:51:27 · update #1
You can't make him forgive or forget. He's got to be able to forgive you on his own, but he will never forget.
2007-06-07 18:49:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must speak to him exactly as you are saying it here. with the truth, tell him you want him to understand how things happen. It also sounds strange because on one hand you say they were only rumors and at the same time you say you want him to forget and forgive, He doesn't have anything to forgive if you really didn't do anything. so the one who could be mad , could be you, cause he told your boyfriend you were using him. Is a whole misunderstanding so talk to him with the truth and you Will get more.
2007-06-07 18:58:17 · answer #2 · answered by hope55 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people can't handle rejection. This guy obviously can't. Have you tried getting him alone and explaining things to him. If you did do something wrong, you should try to be brave and take responsibility for it & tell him you're sorry. If he treats you bad, why would you even bother to talk to him about your problems? Surely you would know that he will laugh at you? Or are you just being hopeful that by making him feel sorry for you, you'll win him back over?
Unfortunately, you may just have to deal with it & get on with your life.Try to be patient. Things will slowly change, although it wont be overnight.
2007-06-07 19:25:58 · answer #3 · answered by eviichristensen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No wonder you don't like this guy. He's psycho. Getting girls to beat you up and interfering with your relationships? If I were you I'd get your rents and the school involved.
He's bullying you. And as long as he feels he can get away with it, he'll keep on doing it.
If you did start the rumours, come clean with everyone, but avoid this guy as much as possible. It you didn't, then make sure he knows he's got the wrong target. Either way, he's taking it out on you and you need to get help as soon as possible. And you need to stay away from him. This guy might blame it on a broken heart, but most guys mope around listening to "Love Stinks" and play video games and watching burp 'n fart comedies and action flicks until they feel better---not pull a Fatal Attraction! He's a total psycho.
Your gut was right on this one. Seriously, get help.
Next time, be as upfront and as honest as you can right away.
2007-06-07 19:07:17 · answer #4 · answered by mithril 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's hurt. you hurt his pride and that is a big no no with men. he will probably carry a grudge for awhile. if that other guy dumped you because of a rumor, he's a d i c k. when you hit about 15 you will realize how dumb the whole thing was.
2007-06-07 18:59:59 · answer #5 · answered by richie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to sit down and apologize for being such a jerk. Own up to your bad actions and ask for a truce.
2007-06-07 18:56:16 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Belle is oh so right, and remember, you brought this all on yourself by not being straight with him. No wonder guys are so confused by girls!
2007-06-07 18:51:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why you will do this
2007-06-07 18:50:30 · answer #8 · answered by shafi0247 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋