My hubby and i have been married 3 yrs.We met while i was pregnant with my ex.bfs child(close friend of his)started of as just friends then started dating ect we fell head over feet.Anyway my ex.bf and i could not stand each other at the time and were playing the blame game not pretty situation i hated his guts swore he would have no part in his childs( sons) life.I got married my hubby soon after i gave birth to my son i made sure(harassment ect) that my son had no real/consistant contact with his bio father we even moved to different state.Problem is now my hubby is the only dad my son knows and our marriage is in big trouble constant fighting suspect hubby cheated?Hubby actually told me to go back to my ex.bf siting thats where i belong?
2007-06-07
18:38:00
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The biggest issue is that i am about to finish college with major in business and dont want another child .
2007-06-07
18:46:59 ·
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You need to talk this over with your husband seriously. It seems he has other things on his mind. Why is he saying you belong to your ex-bf?
He could be having an affair that's why he wants to get rid of you. Find out what he his plans really are.
2007-06-07 18:51:42
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answered by Anonymous
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It is completely understandable that your husband may want to be close to his parents but there comes a time when you need to start a life of your own and grow up. He can still be close with his family even if he lives in a different city. His parents are not going to be around for ever and you are his family now. You are trying to make a better life for yourself and he should stand behind you. To have a good relationship both sides need to compromise. I believe that you can't have a good relationship unless both sides take in consideration each others feelings. I would really think about what you want in life and try to work together. Maybe your first step could be to keep up the job hunt and get a place together on your own.
2016-05-19 21:17:42
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answered by delia 3
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The two of you should seriously sit down and talk about what you guys really want. If a divorce or separation is whats decided, then do what you have to do. If you suspect your hubby is cheating, you should get proof before actually accusing him, because all this does is cause the other partner to suspect you and loose trust in you if all you have are suspicions and not facts. While talking, if the two of you decide to split, ask your husband about your child. Ask him if he wants to still be a part of his life, and then ask your self if you can handle him being a part of your child's life and not a part of yours. Extremely tough decisions to make here, but the sooner you two figure it out, the better for all involved. Good Luck with this, I hope all turns out well for you guys.
2007-06-07 18:48:51
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answered by dbd25305 3
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Your son's father has every right to see his child and have a relationship with him, even if you are not with him. What makes you think you have the right to keep his child from him? You are very selfish. You have started this whole thing out wrong and you are suffering the consequences for your bad behavior.
You need to give the father access to the child for visitation.
2007-06-07 18:47:20
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answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7
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Wow you've really made a mess of things. Don't you think it's time to grow up, you have a kid. You don't need a man in your life, but your child does need a male role model. If you have close male relatives they could help instill proper values to your child. Don't go back to your ex, and if you're not happy in your relationship then maybe it's time to go. But don't stay because of the kids.
2007-06-07 18:47:20
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answered by ginnyp82 2
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You two need to calm down and have a nice peaceful chat with eachother sitting down. Discuss whats the problems and dont use the words 'you' or 'i hate' or 'it really annoys me' otherwise the argument will go bad.
If you two start yelling, try to be the mature adult and calm your voice. He would soon follow your example and do the same.
Find a medium in this argument. Compromise and remind yourself why you married this man every time you start yelling.
2007-06-07 18:43:45
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answered by Anonymous
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it really sound like both of you have some issues that you need to work out get some counseling to deal with what going
on as for the child father, i would not have shut him out of
his child life regardless of how you felt.. because he had
a right to be in his life. and now the children will be
in the mess that you adults have created. timet to grow
up and be adults.
2007-06-07 18:51:32
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answered by luckystar 6
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1-800-springer
2007-06-07 18:49:02
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answered by mercedesofladies36 2
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