I posted a question about being young and unprepared for my child. Almost ever answer said "You weren't ready for sex, You should have used protection..." and so on and so forth.
At 21 living on my own for 3 years now with my boyfriend working full time and going to school full time we HAVE BEEN responsible and I have been on birth control... switching from one method to the other is how I got pregnant....
Why do people assume if you say your un-prepared and pregnant it means your a whore who doesn't use a condom?
2007-06-07 13:44:52 · 10 answers · asked by Poestalker 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
No one is fully prepared to have a child even those who have had them before. I'm sorry people made you feel bad. My husband and I were not prepared to get pregnant. I was coming off of Depro and was going to go back to the pill but in between that time we immediately got pregnant. It was not planned ( we were going to wait another year). Now then to suggest my husband who is well into his 30's and me well into my 20's close to 30's should not be having sex is ridiculous. My friend had a baby a few years ago when she was only 22 and was living with her boyfriend. They have managed to work it out and she loves her son with all her heart. It is a bit freaky but things will work out. Now both my husband and I are excited and can't wait for our baby to be born. I wish you luck.
2007-06-07 13:54:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think anyone said that you were "a whore who doesn't use a condom." They're just saying that if you aren't ready for a child, then you're not ready for sex. It's the truth. You make decisions and weigh the good and bad. Besides, everyone knows to use a back-up method when starting a new or restarting birth control.
2007-06-07 13:49:10 · answer #2 · answered by Aaliyah & Natalie's Mommy 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am very sorry that people were rude to you when you were just looking for some advice. Sometimes people just assume that it was from not using protection. Unfortunately, this is the case with many questions on here. It sucks, I know.
I saw your previous question but didn't answer because I didn't know what advice to give you. I decided to answer this one because I wanted you to know that not EVERYONE assumed you were irresponsible. Actually, after reading your question I didn't jump to that conclusion based on how you wrote out your question. You just seemed scared, which is totally normal!
I'm sorry I couldn't be of more help and I'm sorry other people weren't either.
It sounds like you have a lot of people there to support you and that is great! There is nothing wrong with moving in with your parents for their help. If they are willing to help you then more power to them.
Good luck sweetie. Everything will be fine, and I'm sure you will be a great Mom. You're just scared. It will pass especially when you see your little baby.
-Brit
2007-06-07 13:53:41 · answer #3 · answered by Positively Pink 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Girl, don't worry what people say. I am going to be 20 on saturday & I am a proud mother of 3!!! YES 3!! Had my first baby when I was 16, 2nd when I was 17 a month before my 18th birthday & had my last in August of 06. I'm not sure why people think the worst, it's hard to say. It's just human instinct to poke fun & talk about other peoples mistakes.
I never had anyone say anything to my face but plenty talked behind my back. Believe me I have heard it all from my parents, Grandmother, & sister. I hear i'm stupid and all that other crap. ESPECIALLY becasue my babies ALL have different dads... thinkin bad about me yet??? Lol , well many have.
It's not like i went around with many people and just got pregnant by some random guys. Each guy i got pregnant with was intentional by me & my partner, they were all long term relationships , 2 of which ended either while i was pregnant or RIGHT after I was pregnant. My baby girls father is still with me now & we are happy as ever. People still think bad of me & I'm sure are continuously tlaking bad about me. Its just the way people are!!!
When I see a young mother though they always ask me how I did it. I think they should be proud of their children,
Girl please don't think of it as bad luck...it's a blessing in disguise!!! & you and your boyfriend are handeling it VERY well!!! & taking the nessesary precautions....I am now!!! so i'm proud of myself as well!! lol Hope things keep going well for you!!!
Forget what people say...one day they will have to deal with it, & they will see no matter your age...sometimes your never ready for things that can change your life forever!!!
Best wishes from my family to yours!!!
2007-06-07 13:56:16 · answer #4 · answered by Valerie G 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Because alot of people on here are young or ignorant. Some of us are here to help you, others are just stupid with nothing better to do than put down other people. I think there alot of people on here who have been trying to conceive for a long time, and they are upset and jealous that you can get pregnant by accident when they have been trying for so long. It's nothing personal, they're just venting their frustration.
Congrats to you and your boyfriend for taking responsibility for your own lives! Good luck!
2007-06-07 13:59:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
i am the same way i am not 21 but i am not a whore and have been with my boyfriend and responsible i was switching pill brands and forgot that i was and me and my boyfriend has sex now i am pregnant and unprepared take it from some1 who know ur not a whore people just like to think the worst!!
2007-06-07 13:50:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
are you and me the same person a few years apart? im 23, living with my boyfriend for over 2 years, we are using protection, but switched from the pill to the nuva ring...low and behold we are pregnant. being in our early 20s biologically we are in our prime for this to happen, so maybe yes, we shouldve tried to be a bit more careful but that certainly doesnt make us stupid, or whores or irresponsible. people just like to judge, it makes them feel superior, especially on the computer where they dont have to deal with confrontation face to face. its cowardly really
2007-06-07 16:31:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
LOL...we live in a stereotypical world. Although in defense...that is usually the case. It does seem though that people do forget that not everyone falls into that stereotype. Well good luck!
2007-06-10 15:08:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
people just assume the worst sometimes. i am a 22 year old mom of 2 and unfortunatly i look alot younger lol. i've heard so many rude comments i can't even count them. don't worry about what other people think. good luck =)
2007-06-07 13:54:58 · answer #9 · answered by The Spazz 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because people are ignorant.
2007-06-07 13:49:23 · answer #10 · answered by PinUpGal 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋