Long standing animosity, bitterness, resentment, weeping , wailing , and gnashing of teeth. Should I give up ? Is there ANY HOPE to bring people and families back together that would sooner dance with the puny devil and go to hell before they forgive and forget ? Do you know of families like that ?
2007-06-07 13:34:55 · 9 answers · asked by dave777 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Believe it or not the best way to start is ask God to give You a love for all those involved and for you to forgive them.
I worked with a lady who was always mean to me. I didn't even like her and I knew that wasn't what God wanted and I asked for God to show me how He saw her....that helped me to love her and God changed my heart....funny thing happened after that out of the blue one day she walked in and said that she was going to be nice to everyone from now on. By the time I let there, we were actually friends.
2007-06-07 18:17:49 · answer #1 · answered by Jan P 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First do a lot of praying. Yes I know families like this. There are many all around the world, including mine. You may never get every one back together but if you go slowly and take it step by step try getting two of the most willing in the same room, invite them over for dinner. Make sure you stay in the room for a little bit so everyone can get comfortable then find a reason to leave the room. Stay gone until you hear laughter or tears and hear the words Oh so silly, all these years wasted. Believe me you think it won't work but it did wonders in my family. Now we only have one remaining who refuses to speak so we will leave him on the outside looking in, until he is ready to come to us. It usually does work. To get people to start talking of others bring a persons name up and say you saw or did something with the person. How well they are doing. "Aunt Sally looks so good now that she lost that weight". Curiosity kills the cat. Good luck and my prayers will be with you & your family.
2007-06-07 13:45:58 · answer #2 · answered by datprw 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't give up. I saw this in my family many years ago, and it had gone on for maybe 30 years. One day my dad invited his brother and family up for a cook out and things got patched up. Don't wait for death... take the first step. Do something "neutral". Meet at a neutral location. Since I don't know exactly what the problem is, I can only be generic.
2007-06-08 10:44:58 · answer #3 · answered by RB 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I was in one. Mines came to a bitter end, but yours doesn't have to be that way. If u have a church home and both are willing to speak to the paster of ur church go seek help. U go first and then bring ur spouse in, then the children. Hope everytthing works out for u.
2007-06-07 13:40:33 · answer #4 · answered by jazzy2 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
With God all things are possible. I think we all have family issues, all we can do is pray then try to do the right thing. As far as it concerns you; be at peace with everyone. If they want to remain grouchy--well, there's nothing you can do about that. Read the bible for comfort, Proverbs and the new test. Talk to Jesus. Ephesians 4;31.' let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger and clamour and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice.'' wouldn't it be nice if everyone did that?
2007-06-07 13:43:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
one person cant do it alone they all have to be willing and if it is that bad then they will never be willing. People are to stubborn to put away petty differences and get along even if it does ruin there family..Just try to live a positive life and dont let it tear you apart. Dont yourself play a negative part in it all try to get along with everyone.. But give up on the getting them to get along unless they are all willing.
2007-06-07 13:38:58 · answer #6 · answered by superthunda 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my family somehow pulled it off a couple of times actually
2007-06-07 13:38:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is always hope and you should never give up.
2007-06-07 13:37:06 · answer #8 · answered by Dirk Johnson 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
PRAYER will help.
2007-06-07 13:46:52 · answer #9 · answered by Jeebes 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋