my sisters child is getting married?

Question

my sisters child is getting married and she says no kids on the invite it just says me and my husband i have 4 kids one that is 21 and the 17 and twins that are 11 the 21 year old is not invited and my 17 year old can not be left with just anyone he is autistic and has diabeties so i have to be with him what do i do . I called my sister and told her but she says no kids do i just not go...helppp

Answer 1

Do like I did when that happened to me. I took the $150 I was going to spend on the wedding gift and our entire family went to the zoo and out to dinner for the day. If she says anything about it, thank her for the lovely day with your family, those days never come often enough and we enjoyed it so much. my sister and brother in-law and their 2 babies also joined us. We had a blast and didn't miss out on the wedding at all. It ended up to be their loss, not ours.
Good luck with your decision.

Answer 2

Your sister apparently loves this guy or why would she be getting married. You have kept silent all this time so telling now would do no one any good. Perhaps you alone could get some counciling so that you don't have the wrong feelings toward your boyfriend. Because your sister is marrying this guy doesn't mean you have to like him. You just stay your distance. If you are serious about your boyfriend and plan a life with him I suggest you tell him about your abuse as a child. You don't have to go into detail. Just say it was a friend of the family and you never told your parents. Perhaps he will be understanding and give you support and even go with you for help. You don't have to make an issue with your family about this. If this is not the guy you want to spend the rest of your life with you may want to deal with it another way. Regardless get help for yourself.

Answer 3

Many people have weddings and do not invite children. I know it is your sister's child but if she made an exception for you other people would complain. If the 21 year old was invited then your other children would be upset.
I think you need to make every effort possible to go to the wedding to keep peace among the family. Can the 21 year old watch the child with autism? What about respite care? I teach children with autism and many with severe medical conditions as well, so I know that there are avenues to persue as far as child care.
If none of this is possible then tell your sister you are sorry that you can not attend and send a gift.

Answer 4

if the 21 y/o is not going can they supervise the others? Is there any other person who could watch them just long enough for you to attend the ceremony. I have a special needs child also, and have missed out on some things, and it sucks.

If you cant get child care then you cant go, its not your fault. I dont know why people dont like kids at weddings, I have never had a problem with it.

Answer 5

I know you want to go to her wedding and I can also understand her not wanting kids at her wedding. Try your hardest to maybe find some one that has worked with autistic kid maybe a teacher or something. If that doesn't work then you need to honor your sisters wishes. She will understand why you could come. After all she is the one that said no kids.

Answer 6

your sister is being unreasonable and rude. Your 21 yr old is not a kid, neither is your 17 yr old (regardless of his handicap) Are any other adult cousins being invited? Is it a samll affair, or have they overivited and are trying to cut the guest list at the expense of family.

If its a small wedding and they can't afford to add to the guest list, ahve the 21 yr old stay with the other kids, he should know how to take care of his brother by now!!!

Answer 7

i think when they meant no kids they meant no lil lill ones under 18 ask her to spesify for you and explain your situation. i dont blame her for wanting a screaming child interupting things for her its her day i would call her and ask if you can bring your 21 yr old and the 17 year old and find a good babysiter for the twins

Answer 8

Perhaps I'm a little sensitive because I have children, but I think that's wrong.

Your children are not babies or toddlers. They are old enough to behave, the fact that you are her aunt and they are her cousins, you should all be welcome.

If you can't take your children and have no one to watch them, you will simply have to explain you can't go. Although, they should already realize this.

I can't imagine my sister not attending my daughter's wedding. Good luck.

Answer 9

If you can't go then you can't go. It is very simple. Send an RSVP that says you unfortunately will NOT be able to attend, and you wish them much love and happiness on their special day.

Answer 10

well the 21 n 17 ur old can go..but it must b an adult invent so its her day so honor her wishes