How do I tell my wife she's getting a little "chubby"?

Question

Without her getting angry and abusive?

She's had a few too many happy meals. . .

My body is carved up like a marble statue, if you're wondering.

Answer 1

There is nothing more embarrassing to be seen with a chunky woman if you have a great body yourself. If I see you walking down the street with her, I would think you are with her cause she's supporting you or that you are in the closet.

She needs to get that stomach band or that other drastic operation. Obesity, chunkiness, etc........... is a weakness. She needs to get with the program or else.

Do not accept any excuses as fat people always use excuses to justify their LAZINESS--- she'll loose the weight or she's history.

Answer 2

If you have a mirror in your house, I'm quite sure your wife is aware of her expanding waist-line. Telling her that she is chubby or getting chubby doesn't address your real issue(s) with her weight. If you are concerned about her health, maybe you should indicate that you, yourself, want to start getting in shape, and tell her your plan of how you intend to do it. Then ask her to come along with you and make it a fun way for you to spend time together. Make it a date. Exercise and dietary changes are most effective when done with a loving partner's support and effort, not by offering obvious statements or negative judgments about weight gain or appearance. Remember to be kind, set a good example and be a loving partner in the path to better health for both you and your wife. Good luck.

Answer 3

dont tell her...if she has put on a few pounds im sure u have too. tell her u want to start going bike riding, or walking n that u would like her company so that the 2 of u have something healthy to do together. its good for couples to do stuff like that together cuz then theres a sense of responsibility to do it for the other person too. she might think its a little weird, but whatever u do, dont tell her that u think she is lookin a little chunky or u will seriously regret it. tell her u think u have put on a couple pounds ud like to shed, she will probably say "no u look great, its me who needs to lose a few" and u say "i love u the way u r, but if u think u have put on a few, lets really do this n start working out together, itll b fun" also try having lower cal dinners, n slightly smaller portions. make small changes so u dont feel deprived or punished. make sure to compliment her! even if u cant tell shes lost weight tell her she looks beautiful n has a great glow, that u can see it in her face. it will keep her motivated.

Answer 4

TELL HER. Women let themselves go (some men too) and then wonder why their husbands aren't attracted to them anymore! If people were more open to discussions about these things they would have a better understanding of what the husband/wife wants. If someone is not attracted to someone how can they help it. I wouldn't be attracted to my husband if he was chubby and I tell him when I see that he is getting chubby. There are so many men out there that have mistresses and you think they are an asshole (I don't condone cheating btw) but then you see their wife and she is obese, doesn't fix her hair and dresses in Mom jeans, I mean come on!!!

Answer 5

This is a challenging question! In reading some of the other answers, I find it very interesting that women get so defensive about their weight. It's such a sensitive issue for them. Guys need to learn from that before proceeding. We are each and every one of us solely responsible for our own weight.

Us guys want to love our women but generally, being fat is a turn off for most of us. It's like her saying that she doesn't care about us! Marriage does not grant her (or him) a life time pass to stop taking care of her appearance (including weight). What if she smelled? Are you ladies saying that guys should give her a pass on that too?

But there are no easy answers with this one.... Good luck! Hahaha!

Answer 6

Then don't say anything. If she's eatting happy meals maybe that's a suggestion for you to jump in and make dinner for once so she's not buying fast food. That's the best way to help her with out getting her upset.

Answer 7

You're not going to be telling her anything that she doesn't already know. Trust me. Women know their body and know when it doesn't look the way it used to.

Why don't you try improving your marriage and her body at the same time? Suggest you guys start taking walks/jogs/hikes together. Get a family membership at your local gym. Doing it together will give you guys quality time and her some exercise.

Or you could always get a dog so she has a companion to run with if you're as douche bag-ish as you sound and wouldn't want to do it with her.

Answer 8

your bodies like a marble statue, huh I bet, if you are insane you could bring this up. You will never hear the end of it. Because then she will start with the "am I fat", "do I look fat" "do I look like I have lost any weight". OR since your so FIT, you could say hey honey wanna run with me today or I got this new power walking routine going wanna try it. Watch your back on this one. She will ALWAYS remember the time you said she was FAT.

Answer 9

Your wife doesn't need to be told that she's getting a little "chubby." She already knows & the last thing she needs is for her husband to tell her what she already knows. When she's truly ready to lose weight, she will & then you can support her with lots of compliments. I'm assumimg you haven't gained any weight since you got married, right?

Answer 10

She knows. If you say something you're in for a lot of trouble-you know that already.

If you want to be supportive of your wife, why don't you decide to be healthy. Eat right, exercise. Ask her to exercise with you.

I'm not saying this will work, but it's definitely a way around the "chubby" conversation.