how do i get my 21 year old daughter to move out i live on a fixed income and she refuses to help out?

Question

i have ask her for 50..00 bucks a week and she just flat out says no she know that my income is limited but doesnt care please help

Answer 1

Wow.

If you want to be harsh, you could change the locks while she's out.

If you want to be fair, you need to stand your ground and tell her what is up. If you want to be even more proactive, have a list of affordable apartments in your area.

My grandmother did that to me, and as much as it made me mad I'm glad she did.

She needs to respect you, and she obviously doesn't. So you HAVE to be tough! Let her know you love her but she's gotta go!

Answer 2

You and I both know your not going to kick her out or you would have already done so and wouldn't be asking on here.
You are not emotionally prepared to see her begging in the streets. But you can sit down with her and work out a budget.
Explaining that 25% of her income should go for housing.
At that age just leave is not something they can actually know how to do. Apartments are expensive and she probably doesn't know the first thing about how to go about getting one.
I remember a friend for his son purchased or helped him purchase a small used mobil home and put it in a park. Which is start up and temporary. They don't need to start out with a 3000 sq ft two story house. Make the total 25% of her wages. Then tell her 25% of her wages should go for transportation. To see that she can get back and forth to work. I learned that in a class on how to get out on your own.
Foster parents at 18 you have to leave and have no idea how to do it. So they give the children classes in Votech to teach them a trade. Let them get a job and find them housing.
If she is low income state agencys help with rentals such as apartments. But to get an apartment you have to have good credit. Not having established credit yet can be a problem.
I waited tables and rented a room. Then went to Votech and got a two year course in Accounting that pays 42 to 35,000.
per year. Then I later purchased a home but those same standards I kept in mind and told them I can only afford a house that has payments of my one weeks wages.
It was a small townhouse, 2 bdroom 1 bath but it was mine.
Now I am selling it to get a 3 bedroom 2 bath ranch style.
But it has to go in baby steps not there is the door.
She needs counseling and help to decide what she wants to do and then work towards that goal. Start out by what do you make per week? Let's find you a place for that amount?
Mobil homes make sense because they can be a great starter home and you can later sell them for the down payment on the house you want. Moving to a cheaper area.
Who can afford an apartment in New York? They start at a million dollars. Or California? I know a family who moved to Oklahoma to get their kids in an area where they can still afford to buy their own home. Were mobil homes are still under 10,000. And nice parks are $100. per month.
McAlester Oklahoma they are really growing and so is Muskogee and land is cheap and jobs available.
So for her maybe moving is an option?
There is lots of options but just kicking her out you know you won't do.

Answer 3

Sometimes people have to have something firmly explained to them. Ask her one more time for the $50 (certainly MORE than reasonable). Explain to her that if you do not receive it, you will be calling the police to remove her and her belongings from your home. It sounds harsh, I know, but some people can't take a hint, and require the proverbial hit over the head instead.

Answer 4

Tell her straigh forwardly that you need her to move out because she's an adult and is not contributing to the house hold. To be fair, give her a month to find a new place. If she doesn't take you seriously, tell her you will have the locks changed by a certain date and make sure you do it!

Answer 5

If it was my daughter, I would give her two options. 1. get a job and help out with groceries here and there or 2. get a job and move out on her own. If she doesn't want to participate in the family than she can go be on her own. Everyone deserves to do a part to help.

Answer 6

Simple - confront here, and tell here that she has a month to start helping out. Here is the key - have here sign a rental agreement as a tenant.

Now you have a legal document you can use in court, or even have her evicted with. Remember, she is an adult, and you have to treat her like an adult for her to act like an adult.

Answer 7

Tell her you cannot afford her and that she has 10 days to relocate or you will have the local sheriff remove her to a homeless shelter.

Answer 8

Personally, you can't kick a family member out that is too attached, particularly part of your own family, your daughter. She probably hasn't hit that level in her life where she realizes she need to move out. If you push it onto her too fast, she may not be able to cope with the real world and you may regret the push. It's best to give her some bait, like a fish. Encourage her in what type of career she wants, possibly she may want to pursue a career in a nearby state. This will give her responsibility and at the same time she will feel like you are not kicking her out, but instead she HAS to move to pursue her passion. Slowly, she will adapt to her independent lifestyle and depend on you less. You may want to see what her friends are like. Her friends may be on the same boat, staying and home and not helping out. If that is the case, you need to make sure her friends are not a big influence on her but rather you are. The more you try to push her out, the more she will ignore you and feel you are just getting you out of her life. Remember, she's a female, they have emotions and feelings. Be sensitive, try different approaches. Take her out, try to understand her, maybe shes not opening up to you. If she really understood your problems your own daughter would have no obligation helping you out.

Answer 9

Tell her to get out period. if she refuses call the police to get her evicted

Answer 10

I agree with dances