No college, Stay at home Mom for 12 years, divorce, Have to get a minimum wage job, worked my way through jobs the next 10 years, Finally got to the right job, that made it all worth it, a hard job, but good pay, benifits, retirement. Would be able to give kids , future grandkids, any help, or financial support they would need. New husband would not have to work so hard, could buy new truck, and we could take trips, and have a better life.
All that is gone, and now I am forced to go out and get a low paying job again, with no hope of ever having the type of job I wanted, or thought I would now have. Don't tell me different, because my resume sucks, my job skills aren't good, and I'm not feeling young enough to start over with any kind of school!
I need to get a job, but put it off everyday! How can I get over the loss, and have acceptance, and get on with life, and do what I have to do?
2007-06-07 12:46:14 · 8 answers · asked by Sunday 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The job I had was mail carrier!
2007-06-07 12:55:40 · update #1
We didnt get a new truck. I just know he would want one, if we could afford it. He does work hard. And I had the postal service job, and didn't make it, so why would I apply with the postal service.
2007-06-07 13:07:05 · update #2
The absolutely FIRST thing you have to do is believe in yourself, and that you can get any job you want.
Setting yourself negatively with "my resume sucks" and "my job skills aren't good" aren't really answers - they're excuses.
You're just projecting your anxiety and frustration onto something else, and blaming that it's kind of "out of control."
2007-06-15 04:19:42 · answer #1 · answered by Ironic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may have asked this question before, I may have answered it before. I had a similar experience. I cried for days and days, literally. I could not stop crying. You just have to get up and start over. There really isn't just one right job out there. You have a new husband, you say. When you next get a good paying job, don't tell him not to work as hard. He should be working just as hard and you should hold off on any new expenditures until you've had a couple of YEARS at the new job and still feel fine about it. As you can see, it just made it worse to have every single thing (the better life) hanging on that thread which turned out to be just a thread!
If your resume sucks and your job skills aren't that good and you aren't feeling young enough to basically LEARN, then you're less likely to be valued on a job. So think of everything you do as something that will make you a more valuable employee.
Take the civil service exam. Take any exam you can think of. Use your computer to look into distance learning. Take a night class. If that effort is going to break you, it's because you're trying too much too soon. Start with one step at a time.
Apply for a job at the post office.
Learn good office skills.
Get an e-mail newsletter every day reporting jobs that are available in your area. At the very least, it will remind you when you get the listing every day that there are jobs out there every single day of the year! Indeed.com is the one I have been getting.
Look into volunteer work that is related to what you want to do.
Start practicing right now how to make an excellent cover letter and hire someone to help you with what you think is a pathetic resume.
Read the classic job-hunting/career book, 'What Color Is Your Parachute?'
Budget your money now so that you can take this kind of thing in stride. Tell your husband to return the truck. Better yet, tell him to get a better job himself!
2007-06-07 20:01:04 · answer #2 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Trust me it is going to be hard. I know, for I lost mine and I still think about it. I did not have any college either. It is hard to take a job you don't like with less pay, but sometimes we have to. Just keep thinking this is for your kids and you will continue to search for a better job. I do not care what people tell you about your age/college, still keep trying to get another Dream job. You did it one time you can do it again.
One more note-- you stated you do not feel young enough to start over with any kind of school---One of my best friends at the age of 46 went to one of them training centers to assist nurses (took her one year) and she loves it. Please never think you are too old. You are just a lot wiser as my friend says.
I hope this helps. Good Luck and I will be praying for you and your family. :)
2007-06-15 10:44:27 · answer #3 · answered by LRB330 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apply for United Postal Service or UPS. They pay well and benefits are good. Or you could become a state worker, apply online.
There are plenty of good jobs out there you just have to be ambitious enough. Don't give up.
2007-06-07 19:55:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you need to focus on your future right now. try and find a job that can train you do advance with the company. a lot of places will give you a lower job but you can work your way up.do not let yourself just worry about the lost love you have the rest of your life to find someone new.
2007-06-15 15:16:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about getting over the loss right now just get on with your life and you'll get over it later.
2007-06-07 19:51:31 · answer #6 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you have talent, skill and determination you will make yourself another great job.
2007-06-07 19:55:10 · answer #7 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the way i see it be the dream jobs competition and steal their clients! That will teach them ! Ha Good Luck
2007-06-07 19:53:45 · answer #8 · answered by Agent99 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋