Do you think a husband should be able to spank his wife when she disobeys?

Question

When ever I break my budget and use credit cards without consulting my husband he goes ballistic and now is threatening to spank me like a child if I don't obey.

He is in charge of the money and I do screw up his system when I don't tell him I spent more than my allowance. I forget or sometimes just don't want to hear him nag me so I keep it from him until the credit card bill comes and I have to face the music. This time I charged over $1200.00 and he said next time I would be spanked since I am acting like a spoiled brat!

Answer 1

You sound a lot like my ex-wife. I think a spanking is perhaps exactly what you need. Do you think he likes treating you like a child and watching every penny you spend? NO, he doesn't. He would much rather trust you and feel confident that you not out there squandering your retirement money on a pair of shoes or ear rings. C'mon, you're on the same team. Work together. If you don't then I predict you will be his ex-wife also.

Answer 2

You MUST be kidding, right? Allowance? Spank you? What century are you two living in? It sounds like you are both engaging in some bad behavior. You shouldn't spend more than your family's budget allows, and he shouldn't be such a control freak by setting limits on you and threatening to spank you. Marriage is a partnership, not a parent-child relationship. If he threatens you again or if he actually does spank you, call the police and report him immediately. This is a form of abuse.

If he doesn't see the light then get the heck out of this marriage as fast as possible. Nobody should have that much control over anybody. This is ridiculous.

Answer 3

Well, I do believe you need to think about the marriage. How are you spending the money and on what? If your taking care of the house, kids (if any) and the bills, Hes overracting and you too need to talk or maybe more. But If your out shopping, and spending away money that can be used for greater good of the household and you to, then you shouldnt be spanked, but you should know better, grow up already. How would you like to work all day, putting money away for him and he goes out spending it away like a teenager. But If hes embarressing you in any way, there needs to be something done. Ive been w. my husband for 6yrs and the idea of him raising a hand (besides in the bedroom) is totally uncalled for. Leave the Spanking to the Bedroom and try talking and compromise ...

Answer 4

I do not agree with him spanking you but if I was him I'd take away your credit card. I would be really upset if my husband spent $1200 on the credit card without telling me!!! That's alot of money to disappear and not know that its gone. I find it quite archaic that you have an "allowance" too. It sounds to me like you being "kept" as a child.

Answer 5

Oh how I wish I could have spanked my ex....but then again she was such a disgusting pervert she would have liked it.

Honestly? If there weren't so many laws against it, a proper Biblical spanking would do good for a lot of people I know!

Too many people today are just plain spoiled BRATS who have no respect for work or money.

Answer 6

Well if you don't want to be spanked then that is assualt. If you allow him to have 100% control of the money rather than have a shared and mutual arrangement, then its not a 50/50 marriage. You are giving control to a controlling person and it will get worse I promise, I watched my mom go through the money control thing with my dad eventually he damn near beat her to death. Don't tolerate it now, or it will be worse later.

BTW allowance? Tell him he treats you as a child by granting an allowance when you work just as hard even if it is at home and when you have a shared responsibility for the money you will act like an adult.

Answer 7

I think sometimes men like to spank like this. I have had it happen and I think he got off on it. Your spending sounds excessive. He might just really think you need a good tush spanking. I kind of agree, but then I spend too much too. Nothing like that though. Not good, stop now. Pick up a fetish, buy a whip and let him spank you. Yes that is it. Make it a pretty one with feathers on it.
And tell him you are so very sorry.

Answer 8

Is he serious about this? Did he ever show any signs of physical abuse? Does he really get so mad? It's hard to tell from your question if he really means it or he is just kidding.

I say, if he hit you in the past or abused you...... you should watch out.

If he is frustrated and not sure how to handle your spending habits, you need to try to make a budget to which you both agree to.

My ex husband used to spend a lot of money. It used to make me so stressed out. I didn't know how to manage my stress.
Money is number one cause of divorce. If he is not serious and just frustrated, for the sake of your marriage, stop this nonsence.

Answer 9

spanking his wife is still "domestic abuse" you are not married to have him as a daddy. put him in jail if he touches you in a physical way and NO it is not ok for him to spank you, by him saying that to you is a good indication he is abusive and he is looking for the reason to take it to hitting and using your spending as one, now here is what will happen, you over spend again he may hit you then it will scare you and then you will not spend any more but then he will hit you for other reasons, its a never ending cycle, you will lose all self respect, confidence etc and he will gain the power over you and treat you any way he pleases, do yourself a big justice and leave before he gets stupid and you become a statistic. here is the number for the domestic violence hotline [phone]-SAFE

Answer 10

"Do you think a husband"... NEVER! Never, EVER, lay a hand on a woman!

But (there's a but here), what are you doing charging $1,200 on the credit card? Don't you have other bills to pay, money to put on a mortgage, a child's college nest egg to plan for? $1,200 is RIDICULOUS. STOP spending!