what should i do about my husband?

Question

Okay i don't know about you other wifes have the same promble. I'm pregnant and you know that some woman become more horny and some become more less horny. well i'm one of the ones that aren't that horny that much anymore. and my husbands wants to have sex every day and i don't want to if i don't give him sex than he gets in a pis*** off mood all day. most of the time i give in but i just dont understand why he has to have sex every freakn day. and if he don't get his way than he is in a bad mood for the rest of the day because he didn't get what he wanted. but the more he pushes me that he wants to have sex the more i don't want it and more when he gets mad about it its bullshit

Answer 1

I was one of those that was not in the mood. I just got grossed out thinking about doing it when theres a child inside of me. My husband was all over me. I gave into him once or twice to shut him up but after awhile I was just like, "hey listen, I'm pregnant and I don't feel like it right now, I got a lot stuff going on now and a lot of changes in my body and my last priority is your damn penis. If you loved me you wouldn't push this all on me right now, cause I'm carrying your frigin child and you should have some respect for me." He finally backed off after that. I look at it this way, if he got old and got impotent I wouldn't be able to sleep with him and that would be okay cause we're married and it shouldn't be all about sex. I married him for better or worse...not until I can't get any sex any more!

Answer 2

This is a very serious issue, and I have been in your shoes. It can turn into long-term resentment and mental issues about sex with your husband. Right now you don't feel like sex; how will you feel with a demanding newborn, no sleep, sensitive boobs, and a traumatized vagina? Solve this issue before it gets worse! I can't say I have an answer, dear. He needs to understand the physiological changes you are going through--get him some documentation from pregnancy books or your OB. He may become more understanding when given "concrete evidence" that you are not just moody. Try some rules for awhile so there is less blame going around. Sex once a week, and you'll get him off some other way once more per week. Other than that, tell him to take longer showers and use more soap.... After childbirth, you can get your doc to order no sex for a period of time. Typically it is 6 weeks, but if you have a doctor's order for more, he can't argue with it. In my (bad) experience, his pushiness and "sex-starved bad moods" bred resentment that continues to piss me off every time he comes on to me-- three years later. It is to the point that if I am cuddly or anything to him, he perceives it as an invitation for sex, which it usually isn't, so I have a tendency to be rather stand offish altogether. It is not good. Don't let this happen to you!!

Answer 3

Ok, this might sound a bit radical, but tell him its ok if he "wacks off" as long as hes just thinking about you. Trust him to only think about you. I mean, he could just as easily imagine a different person when you two have sex. so just tell him its ok and that you are seriously tired, so he should respect your wishes, and youll respect his, its ok for him to relieve his tensions that way.

He probably wont know what to say, and hell probably go grab a rag after he gets over what you just told him. Oh, and on boys night out I guarintee you that youll make wife of the year status for saying that.

Answer 4

God gave him two hands, tell him to use them. Don't let him make you feel bad over this when your body is going through so many hormonal changes.

Answer 5

Its your choice.
Have sex and have your husband in a good mood or don't have sex and have him in a pissy mood.
You don't get a third option because that's life.

Answer 6

Don't hold back from ur husband pray & ask God to give u the desire to be with ur husband during ur pregnancy u don't want to open a door 4 satan to tempt him into cheating please seek God's will 4 ur life