She left me for another man just over 3 months ago after 23yrs being married. After she left I used to text her or e-mail at work we used to have good conversations, nothing lovey dovey just about general things. But she left work and could not e-mail her anymore. Anyway whilst texting her one day, she sent me her new e-mail address, so we started e-mailing again. However this was very sparidick. I later found out that this man she is with does shift work, nights & days. Some days she would e-mail during the day others at night. So me thinks she ony e-mails me when he is at work ? Still can't work out his shift patterns though. Also met her a few weeks ago for a drink & chat, and i sware there was still something in her eyes for me. But maybe this was just wishfull thinking. Talks broke down when I saw she was wearing his engagement ring. She as been cold with me since with hardley any e-mails or texts.
2007-06-07 11:40:25 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I love the saying, what goes around comes around. be happy your rid of her. you deserve better.
2007-06-07 11:47:10 · answer #1 · answered by ducky doo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's tough when a spouse or significant other leaves you for someone else. It's almost as if they're saying that you're not good enough. It kind of sucks reading a lot of the questions out here because I've lived a lot of the tings people are writing about. I know it's easier said then done, but you need to move on. If you live in the past, you have no hope for a future. I can't imagine erasing 23 years of marriage. I only had to say good-bye to 3, and it was hard enough. It's obvious that she's moved on and that she's not coming back. Right now, just surround yourself with the ones that TRUELY care about you and are gonna see you through this.
2007-06-07 18:50:16 · answer #2 · answered by Eli 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would hope she still loves you and has a sparkle in her eyes for you after 23 years. That is a long time. And, it sounds like she is having a hard time letting go of you...but also is not willing to give up the new boyfriend for you either.
Maybe it is time... that you do a little reverse psychology. Try not writing/calling/texting/meeting her for 4 days... and see if she reaches out to you. If not, extend it another 3 days....
Keep yourself really busy! And, hopefully you can get through this.
2007-06-07 18:45:44 · answer #3 · answered by Allison 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you better try another road. Seems that she might not even be sure what she wants to do. Under these conditions, the only thing I can foresee if you pursue trying to get her back is more suffering for you.
I am sure there are plenty of good women that will like to have a nice husband. Look around you might be pleasantly surprised.
2007-06-07 18:47:06 · answer #4 · answered by gracegptx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's over! WAKE UP. She is not interested in you anymore. I don't mean to sound harsh but you have to face reality and get on with your life. Stop worrying about what shift the boyfriend is working and go find yourself someone new. The sooner you let it go the better off you will feel . It will take time but what you're doing is prolonging the inevitable. Move on, my friend.
2007-06-07 18:46:35 · answer #5 · answered by Ronin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry , I've been there, where you are! She is gone she gave her heart over to adultery! she will not be back. Same situation with my wife, she married him 6 months after divorcing me. OH" but all while she kept hanging the bait out there for me, up until she was remarried. She emailed me all the time, until it just stoped like a bomb hitting its destination. Don't let her play you, get an attorney fast.
2007-06-07 23:06:02 · answer #6 · answered by fstmx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she's playing a fun little game with you. She's planning on using you as her safety net if the new boyfriend doesn't work out. I'm not one who likes divorce but, I can not tolerate people how have affairs. Give her a choice him or you. If she doesn't make a decision soon find someone else.
2007-06-07 18:53:49 · answer #7 · answered by SAS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE THE GIRL ALONE!!! Your a safety net and nothing more to her. She talks to you when she's bored and then basically flips you the birds with a smile any other time. Man, drink heavily for three days....cry....and then get the hell up and move on. There's too many women out there to get all messed up over a tramp!
2007-06-07 18:47:54 · answer #8 · answered by hotmama_tattoo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say but I would write this one off. You where being used again for a time in the event that her new relationship did not work out, it now appears that it has. Find someone new and now. hen if this thing she has does not work out, and she suddenly wants to come back (for security) you can have your revenge in that no you have someone
2007-06-07 18:46:02 · answer #9 · answered by Pengy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey,man sorry to hear about your situation.But she is not coming
back.I went through it about 7 months ago.I finally
had to realize that it was over.It was like 15 years
didn't mean anything to her.Its going to hurt for a while
but one day soon you will wake up and you will start again. Stay up bro..
2007-06-07 19:09:32 · answer #10 · answered by jg6277 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is going to be tough but...ignore her and she'll want you back. act like it's no big deal. you have to do the opposite of what your normal emotions are telling you or you don't have a chance. she won't butter up to the other guy if you ignore her. when she emails you just say "hey that's great. listen i have to go. i'll talk to you soon". it will work. stop doing what doesn't work. do what will. take my advice. i've been through 2 marriages and when i ignore them, they come running. when you cater to them, it shows them you're weak and it's says to them "I know i'm an idiot. the world is full of beautiful women and i have no self esteem to think any of them want to be with me other than you". Get it. email me at ou812aswelldork@yahoo.com and let me know how it goes. trust me on this one brother. what you're doing isn't working? that's the only chance you have. you won't lose her. she'll chase you.
2007-06-07 18:49:46 · answer #11 · answered by survivor 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋