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Whatever they say i'm still going to join. Should i convince them? Or what should i do?

2007-06-07 11:22:33 · 21 answers · asked by patrick e 3 in News & Events Current Events

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I would say you must do what YOU want to do! You live your life for yourself ...not your parents. I am certain they are worrying that you will be sent to a war zone????
I would stick to your ambition and join the army if that is what you want and reassure your parents that this is what you really want to do.
If you are 18 they cannot stop you!
I had plans at 17 to join the Navy and train as a nurse but didn't in the end because my Mother got upset and didn;t want me to join. I am 39 now and still wish i had done that! So please don't live to regret missing this opportunity. Go for it.
I am certain they will be proud of you! I know i would be.

Ignore the twats that are making negative comments. You sound a considerate and caring lad that just needed some advise!
You will be ideal Army material...it's twats like them that wont be! *LOL*

Go for it mate!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

2007-06-07 22:13:18 · answer #1 · answered by laplandfan 7 · 2 0

I would think very carefully if I were you. The Army is in a dire state at the moment and I'm sure your parents would rather have a live coward than a dead hero. Just think about what you read. The MOD will not support you or your parents if the worst happens. If you want a military career, try the Navy or the RAF. You will get the comradeship without the continual detachments to places like Iraq and Afghanistan. I speak as the mother of a Royal Marine and I can assure you that the Army will not look after you. Look what happened to Col Mendonca - you go into battle with your hands tied behind your back. No wonder your family is worried. I am ex RAF and so is my husband. I served in Aden when things were pretty bad, but nothing like as bad as Iraq and Afghanistan. Nowadays, nobody gives a shite about an 18 yr old being killed. This is why the likes of Col Tim Collins and Col Medonca (inspirational leaders) have resigned.

2007-06-07 18:35:04 · answer #2 · answered by Beau Brummell 6 · 1 2

It depends probably on what regiment you may join as to whether they will or wont keep on at you. Not all the jobs take you into the firing line.

A mothers natural instinct is to protect but you have to find your own way in life and if your determined to go in, make sure its for the right reasons, not just because they are telling you not to.

Go to your local recruitment office, if you haven't already done so and find out about your options for a career with the qualifications you may already have. That may make them feel better if you have got a clear idea on what you want to become. Good luck..

2007-06-07 19:08:25 · answer #3 · answered by christine m 3 · 1 0

For someone to make a commitment as you want to the armed services, you must have thought this out completely and thoroughly. If you are sincere about your desire, your mother and sister have to understand. If you are of age and can enlist without parental involvement, the best thing you can do is talk to them about what your goals and plans are. This decision can't be one that was haphazardly made. They may not like it because they fear the worse for you and that is understandable. You will have to empathize with their feelings, and allow them their tears and concerns, but if this is your decision - only you have the say so. Good luck.

2007-06-07 21:02:41 · answer #4 · answered by THE SINGER 7 · 1 0

Your mum and sister don't want to lose you (in some meaningless conflict in Iraq or Afghanistan), like many other mothers and sisters have with their sons and daughters, brothers and sisters.

Only you can decide whether the army is for you. It is a great career option but with risks.

Whatever you decide good luck.

2007-06-07 18:43:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

I went through the same thing with my Dad when I decided to join the AF. He was dead set against it. I was polite, loving, yet firm. I did it anyway.

Part of your family's fear is obviously that you could get killed or hurt, so be understanding. Once I was in, it didn't take very long for my Dad to turn around on his feelings. There wasn't a prouder Dad anywhere. So if this is what you want, be kind and understanding with your family, but go after your dream.

2007-06-07 18:33:29 · answer #6 · answered by kathy_is_a_nurse 7 · 2 0

Being a mom myself I can understand why your mom and sister would be concerned. However if your mind is set on this then explain to them that you love them both but this is something that you feel you have to do and that you would like their support on this but if they do not support your decision you are still going to go and do what you believe in. They may be upset for awhile but in time they will come to support your decision.

2007-06-07 18:33:31 · answer #7 · answered by dustystar 4 · 1 0

They dont want you to because they love you and are worried. I would feel the same. Just tell them you love them, respect their veiw, but still are.
Eventually your mum and sis will be so proud, invite them to your passing out, and they will be bursting with pride. Go for it, you cant let it put you off.

2007-06-07 18:34:25 · answer #8 · answered by babyshambles 5 · 1 0

If your 18 there's nothing they can do about it, although i expect the reason they don't want you to,join is because they love you and don't want you to get killed, understandable really. But if its in your heart to join then you should. Good luck.

2007-06-07 18:29:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2 0

Nobody wants to think of their family member going into the Army, but I'm sure they'll be proud of you. Just make sure it's really what you want to do.

2007-06-07 18:29:26 · answer #10 · answered by SaraB 3 · 1 0

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