They are old classmates, coworkers, and Army buddies that I still keep in contact with via myspace. I have never had an intimate relationship with any of them. I have never given him a reason not to trust me. We've been married 5 years. His reasoning is that if I feel like I need to have guy friends, then he has failed as a husband.
2007-06-07 11:12:27 · 16 answers · asked by missylit 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, he does have friends who are girls on his friend's list. The difference is, I have met all of them, and he has not met any of mine. Would love to introduce them, but they're spread out across the world.
2007-06-07 11:23:22 · update #1
I think many of you have a different perception of myspace than we do. Myspace lets us keep in touch with people who otherwise we would never talk to anymore because of distance and time. I'm not on myspace having deep, intimate conversations or "hooking up." People who do that disgust me. A simple "hey, how've you been?" or "how's the family?" or "do you ever talk to so-and-so anymore?"
Of course I care more about my marriage than I do a stupid myspace account. What an immature statement.
My husband even has my password, so I literally have nothing to hide.
My problem is that I give in already to everything that he demands - I stay home with the kids on the weekends, I gave up my single girl friends, I gave up all my guy friends that I had before we met.. and now this. I feel like he wants to erase my history and completely control me. I want to be a good wife, but I'm so tired of being the one who sacrifices when it should be a two way street.
2007-06-08 03:43:10 · update #2
If it bothers him, sure. But, he needs to do a bit of spring cleaning himself.
2007-06-07 11:31:26 · answer #1 · answered by treasuredwife69 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I respect and try to honor my husband, as I am sure you do yours. My question is what brought this up, after 5 years of marriage? So you made the effort with his friends and your friends are scattered. In My space, is there an option to co-mingle the sites? How about the option of starting a Yahoo group exclusive to you, your husband and all of your friends from both of your -my spaces. Might be an option to keep the friendships and settle any discomforts your husband has, he can also interact and get to know them as well, set a planned reunion date. Husband can meet them in person then. Most husbands, even the insecure ones are willing to make concessions that are reasonable, see if he will meet you half way. Could be you husband might just need a little more personal one on one time with you. let him know he is special to you. Husbands like love letters too.
Hugs
2007-06-07 11:44:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I think MySpace is a relationship DESTROYER. I think if that stupid site is causing ANY kind of rift in your mariage, you BOTH should just get rid of it. Seriously, we're talking about marriage here. Do you really want to put a damper on your relationship for some guys you never see anyways? But in the same respect, he should get rid of his too. It doesnt matter who's met who or not. Gotta look at the bigger picture here.... It's your MARRIAGE. Now if he starts doing things like wanting you to quit going out with your friends, or seeing your family and such, then you guys have a big problem. But for this... I just think you're (both of you) better off just ditching the site.
2007-06-07 11:55:41 · answer #3 · answered by Loren J 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well the fact that he has female friends on myspace makes me say yes it is unreasonable.
That being said, I think it is inappropriate for Married people to have friends of the opposite sex. An occasional contact with old friends is one thing. Having them on myspace contacting you regularly is an entirely different matter.
If he expects you to loose the guy friends, then he should loose the gal pals.
If my hubby had old gal pals that he was in constant contact with, then I would be upset. If we ran into an old friend at the grocery store and stopped and chatted for a minute, then I would not be threatend by that. But I would not be in constant contact with old guy friends.
2007-06-07 11:37:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
i could say they deleted it. or have a placing that deletes issues after some days. or it continues to be pending yet your myspace does not inform you anymore. myspace has equipment faults, who's familiar with. purely wait it out, and if no longer, re upload them next tiem they log on.
2016-11-07 21:29:07 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think in your paticular situation he's being a little insecure. Maybe you could introduce them over the phone or something to put him at ease a little more.
2007-06-07 11:27:14 · answer #6 · answered by Luv2RIDE 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Aren't you both a little too old for myspace anyway? Your husband is just asking you for respect and thats not wrong. Be mature and suck it up.
2007-06-07 11:35:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
There shouldn't be a problem with what you're doing.
As long as you're not having cyber sex or anything ya know?
I got rid of all info of my old guy friends when my ex told me to. I still regret that - they were great friends....
My hubby now - he doesn't mind cause he knows I won't cheat.
2007-06-07 11:22:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
Usually when people are defensive about their privacy they have something to hide.
I think generally My Space Accts are used to hook up with other people
2007-06-07 11:32:12 · answer #9 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like he has a personal problem. I would not delete my old Navy buddies. Married men and women are allowed to have friends of the opposite sex.
2007-06-07 11:19:24 · answer #10 · answered by Poppet 7 · 2⤊ 4⤋