Divorce question... Mostly for people who have been divorced?

Question

Now i am not divorce and i don't plan on it however its like the new thing to do around here. Even our favorite tv, movie, book author, chef, recording artist,singer, basketball star, pastor and list goes on is doing it. Not say that i want to follow the trend but i am sure they said the same thing but look what happened some have even been married for 10years are more. My questions is what is the legal process of going through a divorce (just in case) and what are somethings to avoid so my husband I can be truly married for all eternity until death do us part.




Please donot post anything nasty are i will report you. Thank you all YMCHILD.

Answer 1

Brutally honest communication is the cornerstone of all successfull marriages. His needs\her needs.....

Answer 2

I'm a firm believer in like attracts like. So if you are following the thought process of divorce, likely, you will attract it into your life.

Legal process, contact an attorney, file the right paperwork, write up an agreement on division of property, hopefully you won't argue about it and then wait for it to be final. Some states have a rule about living apart for X amount of months before you can file for a divorce, other insist on mediation.

Reading material to consider:

Five Love Languages, Gary Chapman
Relationship Rescue by Phil McGraw
Getting the Love You Want, Harville Hendrix
A Couple's Guide to Communication, John Mordechai Gottman
Love in the Present Tense: How to Have a High Intimacy, Low Maintenance Marriage, Shechtman
Divorce Busters by Michelle Weiner-Davis
Till Death Do Us Part (Unless I Kill You First) A Step-by-Step Guide to Marital Conflicts, Jamie Turndorf
Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman

Answer 3

The legal process for divorce itself is pretty simple, you just have to file some paperwork. What is difficult is the whole division of property and the custody of the children - and this varies on a case-by-case basis. Things to avoid? I don't know. In my own marriage, it helps to remember that it's a "package deal" - I might not like this or that little thing, but it is a part of a bigger whole. Having respect for each other is important. Thinking about what would make the other person happy.

Answer 4

I'm trying to understand, using your personality, how to answer your question.
For one thing, you should refrain from marriage for a long time as you are covering all the eventualities.If I were your intended and read your question, I would think " gold digging opportunist". You show elements of distrust and fickleness; your warning, for one and the last sentence in the paragraph - having the words "truly married till death do us part" and "legal process for divorce".
In one sense, it looks like you're viewing your situation not in a matrimonial sense but a business sense and maybe that's the scene your life should be set in.

Answer 5

Each state is different. It only took 3 months to divorce in Nevada. Things to avoid? No one can truly say. Some people just grow apart. Some think they are "Gods" gift and cheat every chance they get. There are so many things that can go wrong. All you can do is keep your communication open and love each other. Once the lies start, you might as well kiss it goddbye.

Answer 6

The easiest divorce is the "no-fault". This is when the respective couple lives seperate and apart for about 18 months, then files through a service or lawyer divorce papers. A one time court appearance is needed (if there are no contested items) and the matter is settled.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

I truly wish I could pinpoint WHY people divorce. I was married to the woman I loved, and expected to be with her until death. We had ups and downs over the years, but I never expected she would cheat. I was involved with our children, (umpired little league games, camped with boy scouts, worked school carnivals, went to parent-teacher conferences.) I always worked full time, never cheated, never ever hit my wife, and always kissed her goodbye when either of us left the house. Weekends, I usually had her pot of tea ready when she got up, always shared housework, and often cooked meals. NOTHING guarantees that a marriage will last. All YOU can do is treat your spouse like they are your BEST friend. Be the best spouse you can be- and hope.

Answer 9

Well I would say as long u both have love for each other nothing can come in between and the 3 most important thing is trust , honesty and love

Answer 10

unfortunately nothing is guaranteed, so i would not worry about the future...just live day by day. The only advice i can give is to make sure that you are not totally dependent on your husband and that you do not lose your identity in your marriage. Just make sure that you are always able to take care of your needs whether it be emotional, financial or whatever. Also, take care of yourself physically. Focus on yourself and be happy with who you are.

Answer 11

With these 3 Cs, you shouldn't need a D(ivorce).

Communication
Commitment
Compromise