we are out on a date and he starts looking at other girls, and basically i just want to slap him right then and there. He starts denying it as any guy would do. But why that is what i want to know.
2007-06-07 10:11:13 · 34 answers · asked by confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Becuz men are purely visual creatures. If they see something pretty they look at it. Just how us girls love to look at something shiny (how many times have you passed by a jewerlers and stopped to check out all the glittery stuff?) and men like to look at pretty things.
Don't confuse this with him not appreciating how beautiful you are...just realize that it is part of the male psyche.
If this is really bothering you I suggest you talk openly to him about it. Let him know your feelings. But at the same time try to understand that it is part of his DNA as a guy. Just remind him that when you are with him...you want him to only have eyes for you.
Good Luck.
2007-06-07 10:15:51 · answer #1 · answered by ☆ Heavenly ☆ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk to him calmly without getting mad. Guys don't mean to look in most cases. They just think and act differently then girls. We don't turn our head at a good looking guy because we aren't wired that way. Guys struggle with that type of thing and I am sure he doesn't mean to hurt you. He is going to deny it because they don't see it as a problem / and or they don't want to hurt you. Like I mentioned before, I would try to talk to him-not right after it happens or in the middle of a date-but at a time that you can really open up.
I think you should read "Every Mans Battle" by Stephen Arterburn. I would get to insecure sometimes about that type of thing. This is a book for guys but it helped me to understand that for them it really is a struggle, not an act of pure flesh with no self-discipline.
Men have to teach themselves to not be like that, and it's not easy.
2007-06-07 10:19:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal to notice someone attractive. If he's going out of his way to look at other women, then that's disrespectful of you. Some men have a tendency towards that more than others. My husband doesn't do it but I know some do and don't mean anything by it. If you seriously tell him it bothers you, he should be willing to try and not do it in front of you. It's rude. My husband does get distracted by a lot of movement. I position him to face the wall or other less distracting places when we're in a restaurant. That works pretty well.
2007-06-07 10:17:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow. That's totally disrespectful. But a lot of guys would deny it because no ones going to admit that they're checkin out other women right in front of you. Saying that he did would send a message he doesn't care about the relationship at all. It still is no excuse though...
2007-06-07 10:16:31 · answer #4 · answered by spacemonkeypeter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he really doing it, or are you just imagining it. Sometimes we women read waaaaaayyyy too much into things. No more accusing him of it, whether it's justified or not. If that keeps up, he'll end up divorcing you at some point. Honestly, we women look at men as well sometimes. Some say they don't, but let's be honest. We all do at times. No more talking to him about your feelings on the situation. Chances are he feels you nagged him too much about this already.
2007-06-07 10:15:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what i have been with my hubby about 10yeard i am 24 and we have 3 kids 2gether and well same thing here he does it all the time but when i ask he was like it is not a big deal and its like like he want to sleep with her thats what he tells me but u know what it makes me mad as well and girl i know what u are going throu but it dont bother me that much anymore .... i joke about it when i catch him i just say hey u want me to get her # for you then he stops ... so i really think it is a man thing no matter how you look they are goona still look they may do it when u are there or now but guys are guys ! and i am sorry because i know what u are going throu i have been there but like i said i learned to joke about it and not let it bother me ..... good luck
2007-06-07 10:18:04 · answer #6 · answered by melindatucker83 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all did you have a talk with him and tell him how you feel about him looking at other women around you. well if didn't you should because if he truly loves you then he would stop his flirting ways. Because you should be the only woman getting that attention
2007-06-07 10:19:56 · answer #7 · answered by crazyloving 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok.....first of all...he IS ur husband, right?...That should answer everything, but I will proceed...
It is in a guy's nature to look at females, it is not always intentionally. Their eyes just seem to float around a lot. That's all! All that matters is that he knows where home is...if he is comin home to you every night, kissin u, holdin u, makin love to you.....then why worry! why put urself thru this stress, which is only gonna put him thru hell cus he feels the one he is in love with, does not trust him...
2007-06-07 10:15:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Scientific answer: Males profit by spreading their seed around
as much as and for as long as they can with as many as they can. Even if he doesn't do anything it is an ingrained behavior.
Females only have a limited number of eggs which they are born with and lose little by little. Males produce sperm their whole lives and spread it around to those most fertile.
My answer: Science has mostly been created by males.
2007-06-07 10:19:18 · answer #9 · answered by Pen 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Set you boundaries and do not let him get away with it! It is disrespectful to you. Of course he will continue, but he does not have to be obvious about it. He is a guy, and that is one of the things guys do which annoys girls. It could be worse, he could be checking out other guys. But seriously, set your boundaries and stick to them.
2007-06-07 10:23:40 · answer #10 · answered by planomac1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋