Should I Divorce?

Question

My wife and I have been married for two years and we can't seem to get along. We have a one and a half year old daughter and we've only been in our home for a year. We are miserable together and we finally got a little violent in front of the baby so that was the icing on the cake. Any advice? Should we stick it out because things may get better? Should we face reality and end it already?

Answer 1

get the book "his needs, her needs" and read it.

You two obviously never learned to communicate. Brutally honest conversations are the cornerstone of all successfull relationships. You need to listen to your wife and her needs, you need to be brutally honest with her about your needs.

Learn to communicate and you can work this out and be really happy.

Marriage is hard work!!

Get at it!!!

Answer 2

counseling counseling counseling...if you want to save the marriage. There's obviously some disconnect. Here is what I see, you've both been through some of the most stressful events that can happen to two people. Marriage, buying a house and having a baby. There are a whole lot of changes going on.

You both need to really understand what is going on. My guess is that you're both caught up in everything that is happening, and somewhere lost each other. Make an effort to find each other before losing each other permanently.

Answer 3

Please read this you should never stay in a marriage just for the kids. Because when you do that things always screw up, you should stay in the marriage only when the both of you get alone and your love is strong. Maybe you and your wife should get some counseling. If that don't work then you need to get an divorce. Because being marry suppose to make you happy not making you angry

Answer 4

Don't end it until you get some marriage counseling. It helps when an un-involved 3rd party can look at the problems and evaluate them without bias.

You married for a REASON, right? A counselor may be able to help rediscover that reason and help it to grow. You owe it to your baby girl to give it a real, honest try before letting go.

Good luck & God bless.

Answer 5

Don't end your marriage until you have exhausted all efforts to fix the problem. Please try marriage counseling - you may be surprised that it works. Most companys provide Behavorial Health Services and sessions are super cheap - like $10. Also try church or the internet. You do not want to wait until you two hurt each other or until your child is old enough to pickup on what is going on. Children can be scared by arguments and violence.

Good Luck!

Answer 6

Been there done that. It's not good for the child to see you argue. Maybe you can consider counseling. If you both love each other you shouldn't have any problem with trying to save the marriage.

Answer 7

marriage is a two way street i suggest counceling atleast try really hard on a relationship especially since you have children together before giving up. you can just put it all on your wife you both are doing something wrong obviously so go to counceling and work on it before giving up dont be a quiter!

Answer 8

try counceling, you liked each other at some point and now a pour child who didnt ask to be born is the one that gets hurt in the end,

Answer 9

If its getting violent, end it before you do more damage to each other or end up in jail.

Answer 10

My question is... why is everyone so quick to just give up? If you have to ask this question... then you probably have already given up. I suggest counselling.