My wife of nine years left me for a guy she only knew for three months. She keep telling me how much better he is then me. I cant get over her. She broke my heart in a million pieces. Right when i start feeling like im getting over it... It just hits me again. How can i get over this women?
2007-06-07 09:30:03 · 19 answers · asked by chriswh90 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You will always love her. Yet the only thing you can do is try to think of other things. Did you ever think of taking a vacation? If you are still living in the house or apartment that the two of you shared, try moving. I know it sounds extreme but even the smallest things to remind you of her will make it harder to forget her. Also, try going out. Not extreme partying but once a week or every other week,go out with your friends. Try to be social again.
The worst thing you can do is wallow in your own self pity or let her take over your life. Because one day, you will meet someone better someone you truly love and who loves you back. And when you meet her, if you are still hung up on your ex-wife, you could miss out on the chance to be with her. Not everyone woman is like that. You just have to find the rest of us. It wont be easy, but its worth it.
2007-06-07 09:44:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT FIND SOMEONE ELSE FOR THE SAKE OF FORGETTING ABOUT HER!!! ALL THE NEW GAL IS THEN IS A REBOUND!!! And then you risk hurting her like you were hurt.....It took me a loooooong time to heal and rediscover myself. Soul searching , if you will. Most importantly forgive her,though she is cold and heartless and you wish she would burn in........but I digress.Forgive her and wish her the best . Not for her but for you. Because when you can do that then you can move on and leave the past in the past. My ex cheated on me on for the longest time I was taking it out on myself. But finally after more than a year I let it go and the funny thing is when I did I ran into her 4 years later. She was 60 lbs heavier, one kid at her side and another one in a baby carriage crying and it looked like she was losing her mind . When I was walking away And got far anough away from her I was laughing my *** off and relieved that she DID cheat on me. It was a blessing in disguise.And like the second person to answer, Kim, said. Find a hobby and do things to help you feel better about you. And know that what comes around goes around aaaaaaaaaannnnnnnd she will find out the grass isn't always greenier on the other side.
Don't let it get you down, Bro. Take care of yourself, Peace
2007-06-07 09:50:13 · answer #2 · answered by scott b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will get over this woman eventually. It takes TIME. I don't know how long, but all I know is that the only thing that cures a broken heart is TIME. You should keep yourself busy as much as possible. Go out with friends, do things you enjoy, go travel, spend time with your family. While other people tell you to go out & start dating other women, you might not be ready for that yet. You need to wait until your over her to be able to date again (the right way). Like i said, KEEP YOURSELF BUSY so you are not sitting around thinking about her all the time.
2007-06-07 09:39:26 · answer #3 · answered by sugarBear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stopfeeling sorry for yourself, you will never gain from it but only punish yourself. Be sure she did not choose to fall for the other guy, these things happen. It is better to be without the loved one that doesn't love you anymore than having your partner staying because of guilt.
You have the choice, feel sorry for yourself and loose out on live or put the past behind you and move on.
I do not say move into a different relationship but find hobbies or activities that keeps you busy, find new friends. Soon you will realize that there is a life after... but only if you move on
2007-06-07 09:46:10 · answer #4 · answered by Janine J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to forgot is starting a relationship with someone that you might not expect to. Someone who is really hot or something that will focus your mind. I am a guy and i had kind of the same situation but the girl was cheating. Where I went i could remember her and then i remember when i saw her kissing with someone else. But after a story with a really hot girl that i never dream having something it made me forget things and have it as a bad old memory and nothing else.
2016-05-19 02:35:29 · answer #5 · answered by ashton 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take time for yourself and allow yourself to heal and get over the sitution before you start dating because you will run the risk of comparing other women to her. Join some type of activity group, a gym, try online dating, or going out with group of friends.
2007-06-07 09:36:29 · answer #6 · answered by llexiann30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason she thinks he has so much more than you, is that theres no commitment or duties yet between them. My ex did the same thing my freind,and your soon to be ex isnt worth your worry. Theres a good song i really liked after the divorce was final called Girlfreind by steve holly i think fun song to listen to. Sorry for your time i know how rough that can be....
2007-06-07 09:47:05 · answer #7 · answered by keithleyjustin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to forgot about someone who broke your heart is find another pretty face to look at. I also recommend joining a gym and getting plenty of exercise. Spend time with your close friends go out have some fun and live a little, you deserve to be happy.
2007-06-07 09:34:34 · answer #8 · answered by JillardG 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Find a hobby, join the gym, self improvements. Get busy. Dont dwell on her honey you are giving her exactly what she wants to see you suffer over her like a lost puppy. Get yourself to a good point in your life and move forward, take the lessons you have learned and keep them close but dont make other women pay her dues.
2007-06-07 09:33:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You wont get over it... but you just have to move on. Unfortunately time is the only thing that can help you out, and its gonna tick slow as h-ll. Trust me.
You obviously loved her.
To be honest you'll probably always love her.
But realize she didnt think you were good enough for her and thats not somebody you need to be with. So love her with all your heart cause you cant stop that and trying will only remind you how much you still do.
But love yourself too... and realize somebody out there is willing to love you just as much.
2007-06-07 09:37:25 · answer #10 · answered by frankee_77 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋