I admitted to my wife that at my last job I was like a kid in a candy store. There were always sexy women around. A few there were incidents involving other women. But, our relationship has drastically changed since then. Now, I want to go back and she is threatening to leave! Please advise.
2007-06-07 09:27:39 · 14 answers · asked by Dr. FeelGood 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well duh! she cant trust you anymore! you screwed up, i bet if the situation was switched around youd be upset with her too......and what exactly do u mean a "few" incidents with other woman....the answer is right there! if you would have said an incident happen ONE time then she would be able to forgive u but since u said their where a FEW incidents how can she trust u now? you could have stopped after the 1st incident but you CHOOSE not to and thats ALL YOUR FAULT sorry to say, but its the truth!
2007-06-07 09:33:18 · answer #1 · answered by Sweety Pie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you both have different ideas of just how the relationship has changed! It sounds as if you are sorry for what you have done, and want to make amends.She, on the other hand, also seems to be sorry for what you have done, but no longer wants to be a part of it. I really can't say that I blame her, because in the back of my mind, I would always think that if you were in that situation again, you may do it again. I know that this is not the answer you were hoping for, but if you really do her to trust you again, you will have to prove to her that you are trustworthy.
2007-06-07 09:40:00 · answer #2 · answered by sparrow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry Dr! Looks like it's too late for you to fix what you did. It's good that you owned up to it, and I hope it's a lesson to you. If it was only one time, then you might have had a chance. How can you expect her to be able to trust you after you cheated on her numerous times? Would you trust her if it was the other way around?? The only kind of woman who would take back a guy who cheated is a woman who is weak and insecure. She obviously has not seen a change in you. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Honestly man, how did you expect her to react???
2007-06-07 09:37:42 · answer #3 · answered by Spicy!!!!! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If there is no fixing things, be strong and move on.
And unless you're actually having sexual relations with these women, don't tell your next girl about them. There is nothing wrong with looking but I know, as a woman, I don't want to hear about the sexy women that surround you all day. Have some consideration for your next partner and respect for your relationship.
2007-06-07 09:39:37 · answer #4 · answered by keli 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did you lose your brains along with your wife at that place of work?i mean-like, DA, I'm sure she did trust you, but you just took the trust out of your relationship.you really put your foot in your mouth about your job, to your wife.i bet your one of those guys who takes there wife out to dinner or something, sees a beautiful women, and drulls all over him self, and talks about how beautiful she is all night long?you were just plain rude and stupid about what you said, do you really love this person called wife???????then use your head before speaking.if she told you that about her work, how would you feel?would you take the chance and let her go back to work there???i think maybe you need to get down on your knees and beg for forgiveness,start treating her like a queen and the women you love, make her believe shes the only one you want?????
2007-06-07 09:43:05 · answer #5 · answered by debbie d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she should leave, sounds to me with the short sentences you wrote that you want to go back because of the eye candy.
marriage is a two part program, give and take,, not take other woman,
cant have your cake and eat it too,.
2007-06-07 09:31:43 · answer #6 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry pal why shouldnt she leave you. how can she ever trust you again. if you want to be with your wife how could you have been with other women. Hope she does leave.
2007-06-07 09:33:01 · answer #7 · answered by llexiann30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok Dr. Some stones are better off left unturned.
2007-06-07 09:30:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dr. my advice to you is if you love your wife respect her feelings and value her opinion
2007-06-07 09:34:00 · answer #9 · answered by mrsknowitall 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparantely she doesnt feel that your relationship has changed. It should be evident in your actions. But apparantly it is not.
2007-06-07 09:31:33 · answer #10 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋