My wife isnt in love with me but she wants to stay together for the kids plus she cant make it on her own
2007-06-07 08:53:38 · 20 answers · asked by brian c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't know how to live with someone who no longer loves you, but when you find out, please let me know. I'm starting to think that I'm in the same situation. Best of luck.
2007-06-07 09:11:44 · answer #1 · answered by K9Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should you pay for your wife's lack of loving? Sounds like your wife wants her cake and eat it too! Love is a choice, not a feeling! If your wife has chosen not to love you, then she should be responsible for the consequences. Is she handicapped or mentally impaired? If the answer is no, then she needs to do like all the other women with children do. Get a job! No, you shouldn't live with someone who doesn't love you, especially where kids are involved. You are only responsible for a portion of child care. You are not indebted to a unloving women for life. Seek the advice of an attorney and find a woman who is crazy about you.
2007-06-07 16:24:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh hell no!!! First of all the kids will feel the tension and the non love in this house and it is not in there best intrest. If she cant make it on her own that is he problem not yours hey that could help you get custody of your kids. I dont care who you are everyone deserves to be with some one who loves them and if they are not they need to move on and find the ones who do. If you live with a person who does not love you you are not living. I promise you I know I was there twice. Then I found my hubby now and when I think of all the time I wasted with these people it makes me sick. I know what love is now and I wouldnt give it up for nothing. Do what YOU have to do to be happy and take care of your child. You two are what is important. Tell her to go get a job and get out.
2007-06-07 16:04:52 · answer #3 · answered by lyttledarlin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not too late to turn your marriage around. What's best for the kids is for you two to stay together AND to love each other. A good first step is to start acting like you love each other. Buy her surprise gifts, leave the occasion love note in her purse, go out alone together on dates, spend more time together, call her sometimes during the day just to say hi, etc. Act how you did when you were dating, when she fell in love with you the first time, and she will fall in love with you all over again.
2007-06-07 16:03:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
hmmm well your wife doesn't love you...then move on...yeah i know its hard...been there done that...but staying together for the children isn't exactly doing anything but hurting em in the long run...your wife sounds selfish to me...she wants what she wants...she wants you to be the baby sitter, financier, while she is footloose and free from responsibility of money and possibly taking care of the children...just my opinion...my husband didn't love me but wanted to stay cause it was easier for the children. it was a nightmare to say the least. like I said just my opinion. Been there done that, good luck. remember "this to shall pass"
2007-06-07 16:21:24 · answer #5 · answered by leisa k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either agree to stay under the same roof and lead your own separate lives, if you can handle that...With the exception of raising the children...or insist she gets into some type of training program so that she can live independently. Your child support will help her as well.
Good Luck To You!
2007-06-07 16:02:14 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ShadySadie♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand the kid's part. I think she kinda using you. That's very selfish on her part that she used the kids as an excuse it really she wants you to support her.. She is holding back you back.Just tell her you will help with the children(OF COURSE). Tell her to go find a job and you will just help with the children. You deserve to be happy. Your kids deserve a happy family. Good luck. I wish you the best.
2007-06-07 16:01:55 · answer #7 · answered by scoopie110 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not fair to live in a loveless marriage - ESPECIALLY if you have children. Kids are soooo smart these days and they pick up on everything. Do you really want your children to grow up thinking that is what marriage and love is like? I think the best example is to leave the marriage and support your children. It is better to be a product of a broken home than to grow up in one....
So you deserve better, she deserve better AND the children deserve better....
2007-06-07 16:21:04 · answer #8 · answered by Lady 205 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What she can't make it on her own ? I would never stay with someone that doesnt love me ! You dont say how old the kids are . She can get a friggen job if the kids are older .
2007-06-07 15:58:02 · answer #9 · answered by wishingstar5555 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Brian, I think you need to think about you and your kids. I would suggest that you both go to counseling and try to make things work out. However, if you or she is not willing to put in the hard work to keep the marriage working, then you need to consider a divorce. Why should you remain in a loveless relationship?
2007-06-07 15:58:07 · answer #10 · answered by Scott O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don`t, your choice. she seems to want her to stay together, not 4 the kids, but because she`s being awfully selfish, because she`s scared, the kids r yours too but u r yours, kids will suffer, makes u both selfish. She will be able to makeot on her own ,she has to learn to trust herself , don`t b a punk and leave all on her give it to the kids and you too learn to grow up seperarely
2007-06-07 16:03:55 · answer #11 · answered by miranda1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋