wat to do when pregnant at 13?

Question

my moms 29 so not exactly the best role-model

Answer 1

steps to help.

1.breathe
2.pray
3.talk about it
4.think about it
5.cry
6.relax
7.think of other options (giving to people that can't have children, give to adoption agency, etc.)
8. talk to the father
9.talk to parents.
10.talk to jesus


maybe you should talk to a psychologist. no offense. but i would have the baby. babies are a gift from GOD. no babies are a mistake. if you go through with it, you will have a child to love and nurture.


if you have an abortion, that will be one precious life not alive.


if you give it away, at least it will be to a loving family.

Answer 2

I actually work with teenage parents in Vermont so you are not alone. I have worked with girls who were younger then you when they got pregnant. I think the first question to ask yourself is how do you feel about this pregnancy. I don't think anyone can tell you whether you should keep the baby, get an abortion, or put it up for adoption, I think that you need to make that decision for yourself. I would find an adult who you feel comfortable talking to about your situation and maybe you can talk about your options and which is best for you they may even be able to connect you to people who work with young parents who will not pressure you in either direction. I think some important things to keep in mind from my experience is that I have not seen a father of the baby of a mom your age stick around so you should not make your decision based what the father wants. Also you need to be able to finish school and finish growing up yourself so if you keep the baby you will need a ton of support from family or friends. One option some of my young parents have done is they have had their parents adopt the baby so they can still be part of the babies life but can still grow up. Being a young mom is never easy. It will be harder than you think so think about it wisely. After the baby is born or if you have an abortion you need to find a birth control method that works for you. In addition the sooner you make a decision the better off both you and the baby if you decide to keep it. Finally I think it is important to ask whether the sex was consensual. If it wasn't then you really need to talk to your parents. In many states at the age of 13 sex is not consensual. Good luck in this vary difficult decision.

Answer 3

You're young, but you can be mature and responsible at 13. Here's a way to start: Tell the responsible adult in your life - whether a Mother, Father, Aunt, etc. Let the person in charge of you know what's up. They can advise you as to what to do from then on. If you have no person that you feel you can talk to, try the Guidance Counsellor at your school or a teacher that you trust. You will need to see a doctor, if you haven't already, and you have a lot of choices to make, so it's best to get prepared for what is going to happen and what you plan to do. Good luck.

Answer 4

Hun you have a lot to think about. Can you afford and do you have the support to raise the baby. If not there is adoption. There are many family's out there that can not have kids and would love too. Don't listen to the ones that said you screwed up because that is only if you don't try. You will have to put more effort in to things like finishing school and going to collage but you can do it. Many have. Keep your head high go to all your doctor appointments and do what the doctor says. I wish you the best with this.

Answer 5

I know what you are going through. I know you are probably thinking about abortions and everything but that is not the right road to go. I am 13 and my twin sister had a baby recently and she loves being a mom. She is now homeschooled and takes care of it with a little help from my mom. If you haven't told a parent or someone you trust, you should immediately. You need someone to help you. Good Luck!

Answer 6

I wouldnt consider aborting it, it didnt decide to be concieved, what i would do is if you havent told your mom or a guardian tell them NOW so you can get the proper care from an obgyn or midwife who will supply you with prenatal vitimins. If there is complications such as the baby may be disabled or may be stillborn i would then consider the abortion but do not do it if it is going to be a healthy baby, mary gave birth to jesus at 14, if money is an issue i would then consider an adoption, do what you think would be best for you life and your babies life.God bless and good luck on your decison making

Answer 7

I wouldn't say get an abortion or anything I don't believe in that no matter your age. You just need to sit with your parents and I'm sure they will help you out a ton, you need to pray, and you need to prepare yourself emotionally. There are many options you have to continue going to school and everything so you can at least finish school and you need to make sure you find a way to do that. I do wish you luck and let this be a lesson to think about your actions because they all involve consequences. Good Luck!

Answer 8

Give the kid a chance and give it up for adoption, you can give the baby a better life. By getting an abortion, you are just hiding from your problems and nothing is going to get solved, you'll just get depressed and killed a life. Then after that, stop being a slut. At 13, you should be in school, not sleeping around.... "Because knowing is half the battle."

Answer 9

Talk to your parents. They will be upset, but they love you. Then decide what is in the best interest of both of you. My advice is to arrange an adoption with a family friend, or through your doctor. You could even arrange it so you would be "Auntie" to the baby so that you could have a relationship with it. You are way too young to raise a baby yourself unless your parents are very, very helpful. You should also tell the baby's daddy. His family might want to know.

Answer 10

A good first step would be to call 1-800-395-HELP. They offer free, confidential counseling about this kind of situation every day. And they'll be a lot less judgmental than some of the people on YA...
I'm always available by email if you want to talk.
<3 Kelsey

Answer 11

Go to your parents and tell them about what your condition and have them help you through it. If you are afraid to go to your parents, talk to an aunt or someone who is an adult that you know and are close to. You have many options, but as someone stated, having a baby at your age is a health risk for both you and the baby. I don't support abortion, even though that is also an option. Find a teen pregnancy center in your area if you have no where else to turn. You don't have to go through it alone.