why does love die down?

Question

why are we madly in love with someone (bf, gf, future spouse) n then after awhile it dies down?
I've been married for 3 yrs, and with him for 4, in the beginning it was awsome....now it's still good, but nothing like before. Why does that happen? Is there a way to reignite the spark (without doing anything weird) ?

Answer 1

When you first go out with someone everything is new. Even when you're in your first few years of marriage. This newness is what is exciting. You spend your time learning about each other and discovering all there is to know.

Several things happen as time moves forward.
1. Couples often allow their lives to become routine and sometimes become set in their ways.
2. You learned all the basics about a person and forget to look deeper.
3. Couples often forget to add romance into their relationship when they become comfortable with each other.
4. Being spontaneous often gets forgotten.
5. We allow the stresses of life to build up and affect how we treat each other.

Ways to keep your relationship strong.
1. Take time to spend with each other.
(do an activity the other person likes then switch and then find one you can both enjoy)
2. Be spontaneous. (plan a nice meal at home with candle lights, music and let your imagination flow.)
3. Plan a weekend away. Changing atmospheres can do a lot relax the relationship and give you quality time together.
4. Take time for yourself. Do something you like or hang out with a friend. (You need to remember not forget you in the process)
5. Spend some quite time together. Go out to a lake, take a blanket and watch the sunset. Take a walk around the neighborhood.

How you feel is bound to change. There is no way to go back in time and feel the same level of excitement about a person like when you first met. Now is the time to start learning how to live a life time together and work on keeping it interesting. Look for things that you admire in that person and share it with him. Learn something new each day and don't forget to stop and admire the small things.

Answer 2

Love dies down because you let it die down. Try and remember all the places you used to love to go when you first started dating, go to these places. Remember all the things you did to show him you cared, do these things and add a new twist. If used to write him cute e-mails write on a post-it instead and stick them in places he'll be sure to see. Then, after a while, remember all the things he did that made you smile and feel loved, ask him why he doesn't do those things anymore. He'll realize that recently you've been so great to him and he'll try and make it up to you by doing something great in return. Hope all goes well. ~Taylor

Answer 3

Because people fail to understand that love is not a feeling, it is a choice. the "spark" you speak of is a mutual attraction, newness and what happens when something is no longer new? That "feeling" fades. Marriage is a commitment and love is a choice, you have to choose everyday to be married and to love your spouse...choose to make the marriage the very best it can be...don't look to him to fulfill you or vice versa...be the best person you can be and love them for the person they are....no more no less.

Answer 4

Well in the beginning it is always more exciting.To get things exciting just take a few days off work and take off for a romantic get away even if its only one night to a near by town.

Answer 5

Passion (is the spark in one life)

Though it does take two to make the relationship work....

Stress, finances, kids, ect...

Help in the wear and tear of a relationship.....

Communication is the key...

and Again it takes two to make the relationship work....

Some Humans can not function in a relationship, while under those conditions.....

Not realizing that by doing so another issue would soon arise a (DIVORCE/ SEPERATION) .....

COMMUNICATION and PASSION is the KEY to any relationship.....

Answer 6

Love think to die out while dying take place. besides the fact that nevertheless, why will he want to run removed from his mom, particular that's infantile, i think that is a demonstration for you, certainly one of those individual he's. through fact if his mom is dying an he do not want to be around his dying mom, nicely something is incorrect..through fact of this if something is incorrect with you, who's you, he will wanna be around in case you're suffering? i think of you could attempt to forget him an get somebody who cares.

Answer 7

The new wears off and you enter the "comfort zone"

Answer 8

because it is not new any longer