2007-06-07 06:47:46 · 26 answers · asked by ryan j 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yep, it's on the rocks all right. Guess your going to have to sleep with her now that he out of the picture!
2007-06-07 06:50:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
ok, everyone is assuming that this is one question. To me it sounds like two distinctly spearate statements. So let me approach it as if this is the case.
1) if your wife just broke up with her boyfriend, then you must have an open marriage. This being the case, I recommend supporting her in her time of pain.
2) your marriage is on the rocks (I know, I reversed the order). The question here is why. Is your wife taking her splitup out on you? Is she projecting the negatives about her ex-b/f onto you. If so, let her know this is not fair and that you are not her ex-b/f but are there for her. Let her know you still love her but will not be her punching bag. People tend to lash out at those to whom they are closest, if you tell her this is how it feels I suspect she will apologize and no matter what, I am sure she apprciates you being there for her.
Now, lets look at this like everyone else has, as if it was a single question. Why is her breaking up with her b/f putting your marriage on the rocks? Or is the fact that she had a b/f in the first place the problem at all. If her B/f was a result of the problem(s) that put your marriage on the rocks, then you need to determine what that problem(s) is and decide if it is worth trying to find a solution. Does "boyfriend" indicate a lover? As you said they have broken up, I am guessing yes. I ask because my girlfriends are not always lovers. In fact, none of my current girlfriends are my lovers. My wife is my current lover (occasionally at least). I would think that her leaving her b/f would have a positive effect on your marriage, so what else is wrong?
I think I have covered all the major possibilities with your original question. More details or a more specific question would allow for a more percise answer.
2007-06-07 14:09:57 · answer #2 · answered by s1lvermidnight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that your marriage has been over if your wife had a boyfriend- if you are looking to reconcile- the first thing you have to do is figure out why you were broken apart in the first place and see if you can both talk about the problems and come to some kind of solution on how to move forward from them- it has to be something you both want- or it will not work-
2007-06-07 13:52:46 · answer #3 · answered by kuriositykittykat 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had an X like that. She suggested that I didn't love her
enough to fight for her. My answer to her was that I could
not whip every "whore hopper" in the world. If this is her
first fling and you can get over it thin I'd say give it another
try if thats what she wants. If you want a faithful wife find
a deferent one. Good luck.
2007-06-07 14:05:54 · answer #4 · answered by wayne g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have a marriage, you have a one-night-stand that is in overtime.
If you had guts enough to be happy, you would risk loving someone. You would find out the joy and pain of being devoted to one person, and you would be a man worthy of respect.
The way it is, you sound bitter, mean, shallow, and cold. You and she (and he) all deserve better for yourselves.
Good luck with your life.
2007-06-07 13:58:54 · answer #5 · answered by Lottie W 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your WIFE just broke up with her BOYFRIEND hello two very important words in that sentence. Do you deserve to be treated like that? hell no, don't let her walk all over you. Leave now! and find someone who will treat you right. You'd be crazy to stay with her after this.
2007-06-07 13:51:02 · answer #6 · answered by Jersey Style 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wife and boyfriend shouldnt be in the same sentence....if theres anything left to save...then try, but ultimately it comes down to whether or not u and ur wife are willing to work together to fix things. if not, move on.
2007-06-07 13:51:10 · answer #7 · answered by ilovemysoldier 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats all the details you give?? how can we help.. your wifes's boyfriend?? mayeb you shoudnt be married to somone he had a boyfriend while they are married to you! seek some couciling and maybe think about divorce. adultery is serious and painful, its aslo against the law
2007-06-07 13:51:02 · answer #8 · answered by erica b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's time to sign those divorce papers and go make new friends... Be more positive with yourself. Your better than that!
2007-06-07 13:54:14 · answer #9 · answered by Charley 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get some balls and leave unless u love being abused or u have a open marriage.
2007-06-07 13:56:26 · answer #10 · answered by luv_badgirls 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋