when did you stop caring what other people think?

Question

is that when you really start living,and just be who you want to be?

can a human ,who is sane,ever stop caring what people think?

but if you did not care what people think,it would be really horrible for other people to be around.I know a few.
so,its good there is some kind of respect,for yourself and others.

interesting about-the world is YOUR oyster.
good answers.

Answer 1

We never stop caring what other people think. It is part of our biological and psychological survival mode. BUT the ability to categorize what people think into:
A. Constructive
B. Destructive
and then act based upon the category is what self-worth is all about.
If you feel very self confident, you will probably act in two ways:
1. If someone takes the time to think about me, they are using there own energy and that is good, even if the thoughts are bad, they are still using their own energy and determine for yourself if the comments are worth looking into or just ignored.
2. If the comments are constructive you will probably see how to incorporate into your being. If the comments are destructive, they will wash out of your thought process as soon as they have been put into that category.

If on the otherhand one is low in self confidence, the two categories do not exist. Rather there is only one category and the following thoughts will surround the comments made:
1. Wow, am I really ...
2. God, I didn't know I was so...
3. I'm gonna cry
4. (to ones self) Oh, please help me I don't want to be disliked, etc.

Development of self confidence that you are a good person, worthy of being who you are comes with time, practice and learning to accept yourself!

As for your original question you really do start living when you have self confidence and are not worried when your boss says: "I want to see you in my office in 10 minutes" or someone you love (including friends) say, "Sorry, cannot go to the movies with you tonight, something came up."

You have come up with a very interesting topic, thanks.

Answer 2

I work in a busy hospital and can say that the reason there is such a shortage of nurses is that we are so over worked and under staffed sometimes to a dangerous level that tending to every whim is just not possible. I agree that being caring does not cost a thing and that if a nurse is aggressive then he/she is in the wrong job. BUT. . i feel there is no respect for nurses anymore and that relatives and patients can be demanding to an outrageous level. Patients and relatives can spend all day complaining about that they didn't get their cup of tea half an hour ago when there are minimal staff running around like headless chickens trying to give drugs answer phones, answer doors, contact doctors, transfer patients, admit patients etc etc not to mention the mounds of paperwork which has to be filled in as a legal requirement. Then to top it off if there is a medical emergency the only staff there is have to tend to that and everything else gets left which causes a backlog. I don't think that they have stopped caring i just think they are just fed up of the constant battle every day, its easier to walk away from the job.

Answer 3

I just started living when I noticed how hypocrite most people are. Then I could relax about the things which made me feel anguished. I believe if we started being more sincere about our human condition, we would be happier people. I mean we all have our own fragilities, fears, frustrations, guilties, but you just can deal with them when you stop pretending that you are fine all the time, what is the posture that the other people expect from you. To stop being cynical about yourself is the first step to release yourself from the external pressure upon you. You will never be in peace with yourself while you let other people tell you who you are or who you should be.

Answer 4

When I was 21 years old. I was a non-sabbatical officer on my university's student council and had to attend a meeting packed full of students.

Stuff had been printed about me in the college magazine; in essence, saying I had worked as a topless waitress in a sleazy pole-dancing bar on the Orange Strip in Orlando, Florida.

I was so afraid of being questioned and humiliated over this that I skipped the meeting. Afterwards I regretted this decision and hated the fact that I had displayed a yellow streak.

As long as you accept responsibility and accountability for your actions then it becomes less important what people think of you.

By the way, I didn't work as a topless waitress. I worked as a pole-dancer....

Answer 5

It's only a good thing to stop caring about certain opinions of others - like, the person who bullied you in school or the friend who has a problem with a certain important part of you. If you stop caring about negative opinions (which you can do nothing to fix) then you will be happier. If you stop caring totally you will be cut off from society. Either way, I don't think it's something you can just force yourself to do - (to, if you do care, force yourself to stop.)

Answer 6

That's been happening to me for the last 20 years - I'm 40 now. It's been a gradual process - I think as my life goes on I'm more comfortable with what I think (of me) and what others think doesn't matter so much. There are still times when the opinions of those who are close to me have relevance to what I do and how I feel but they are fleeting and emotionally bound. And this is despite living with a control freak. I have a good sense of self.

Answer 7

I never did care what people thought because I wasn't exposed to TV and the media as a kid. My parents just said, be yourself, think in your own way, and live life.

Your question comes out of a society that is slowly becoming more and more self-conscious and paranoid thanks to today's media and consumer driven social atmosphere.

Imagine the world is empty and you are the only one around. That is how people don't care about others opinions (hence the term 'the world is YOUR oyster)

Answer 8

I stopped caring what people out side of my family thought when I realized that because I was disabled people would make snap judgments based on how I looked and walked not on who I was. That was about age 7, but things still haven't changed a whole lot. People still look at me and make assumptions about my mental capacity. They ask my daughters questions they should ask me. They act like my brain is directly attached to my legs, so if my legs don't work my brain doesn't. My disability isn't' caused by a brain injury it was caused by a misinformation of my left femur. People aren't t even polite enough to ask before making assumptions. I would rather they ask and get correct information rather than assume that I can't think and process correctly.

Answer 9

Well, it depends. R u really that brave to do all of those things that you've wanted to do, and not care about what others say? I'm not. Most people are living, but not to the full. Who cares what people think about you? You're you, who are they to judge you? In a couple of weeks time, I hope to be saying that for myself
:)

Answer 10

Yeah after 7 years of not seeing my mom and having people wipe their feet on me like a carpet, Seeing my mom was the triger, mY students took me out to dinner who live in an arab country and the whole country looked at us and i told them that people talk and say all kinds of things, and that's because they have no life. It will fall on their heads in the end.