My husband has forgotten my birthday for the last two years, Christmas well the gift part mother’s day (this year was my first) and he believes that a women’s place is to cook clean and do everything around the house and work- he has gotten fired from the last 6 jobs and his contract is not being renewed because his boss feels he is not motivated enough. I am so mad!!! And now I am just ferrous because my bday was June 4th and I got nothing!!! Not even a stinking happy birthday- and it’s marked on the calendar on the computer!! We have been marriage for one I have done everything he’s wanted plus throw a surprise party for his mother he wanted, made a big deal for xmas as it was our sons first- I am so frustrated and he thinks I’m over reacting!!! There so much more but I one have 1000 characters…. what can I do!!!
2007-06-07 06:33:05 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wow! And he is still walking around healthy and breathing? He makes sure his mother gets a big party and you get nothing?
You need to put your foot down now! We teach people how to treat us and you are letting him walk all over you. Tell him exactly what you want from him and this marriage. If he can't meet your needs, then you need to reevaluate your relationship. He needs to at the very least, treat you with respect!
Good luck! Happy Belated Birthday =D
2007-06-07 06:51:55 · answer #1 · answered by QT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! I am so sorry! You are definitely not over reacting! I would be sooo mad! -By the way, happy birthday!- I dont really know what to tell you to do. I wish I could tell you something that would just fix everything, but no one can. I would suggest that you go to some marriage counseling together. You are very right to not want your son to turn out like that, and the sad thing is, he might if his father doesnt change! Your husband needs to realize that how he is acting is not okay in any way and it never will be! He needs to understand that he is going to end up affecting your child in a negative way. Was he like this before you got married? You need to tell him that he needs to change the way he treats you or you will have to leave him! No one deserves to have to go through that and if he loves you he will have no problem changing! Marriage is all about compromise, you give some and you get some. There are just certain things that married people are supposed to do for each other and certain things that are not acceptable! He is not being a very good father if he thinks its okay to treat his sons mother the way he does! If things dont change and you do have to leave, at least your son is young. I was almost 2 when my parents got divorced and I dont remember anything about it. I was really lucky, my father and step mother got along very well with my mother and my step father. They were always very nice to each other and never said anything bad about each other for me. Really the only things I can think of to suggest would be to first try marriage counseling and mabey counseling for both of you on your own, or get a divorce. I am really sorry for you. It breaks my heart to hear about people going through stuff like this, especially when you have a child cought in the middle. I know all of this has got to be soo hard, but you have to stay strong for your son and do what is best for you and your child! I really hope things work out for you! Good luck! : )
2007-06-07 07:00:34 · answer #2 · answered by Love-A-Bull 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can pack your stuff and move out for a while! If you leave him, he will realize how serious you are and maybe he will stop taking you for granted.
Or.....
You can stay right where you are, and continue to live exactly the way you are for the rest of your life. Trust me when I tell you - your son WILL pick up on these behaviours and treat women the same way!
Good luck!
2007-06-07 06:45:40 · answer #3 · answered by Kailey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think theres a woman alive that could really answer this. Men are just selfish!! Happy birthday by the way. Mine is Monday and I too know that I will not get anything!!
2007-06-07 06:43:43 · answer #4 · answered by Marygoroun(d) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
was he always like this? did he buy you things when you where dating? if he has always been this way than I 'm sorry to say but maybe you thought you could change him once you where married...as you can see that doesn't happen....if he was not this way and it is something that occurred after marriage than well it sounds like either he needs some therapy on his own or the 2 of you should be going to marriage counseling......yes I would be upset by his actions or lack there of, but like I said if this is the way he has always been than not much you can do,he may never change...how long did you say you have been married for? 1yr? .you wrote "we have been marriage for one"?
2007-06-07 06:50:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that he is seriously disconnected from you and your marriage. Unless he has a major ephiphay, it appears your marriage is on a countdown sequence to termination.
I am sorry for you.
Find your path. Prepare for the next phase of your life.
It will not include your husband.
2007-06-07 06:41:40 · answer #6 · answered by Raintrain 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
divorce the selfish cad
2007-06-10 22:42:02 · answer #7 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋