Well, I'm getting a divorce for my xgirlfriend and now she has a boyfriend. I went running last night and they were walking in MY neighborhood. I did a double take. First time in 1 1/2 months, won't speak to me. Quite honestly, she looked awful, was wearing a track suit-never used to wear those, looked like she had put on 20 lbs and the guy she was with was an older, short out of shape mexican/arab looking guy. I almost laughed my self to sleep last night. She acted absolutely embarassed when i ran by her twice, like she knew she messed up. What should i do about this? anything, its like i've made a huge comeback in the looks dept. Grown my hair longer, got a tan, lost weight, wear contacts now, its like she was shocked at how different i looked. I could pass for a surfer and this happens?? She stuck arnd while I was married for 5 years, dated her before i was married too. Now I have a kid, but my divorce will be final before the end of summer. Do I still pursue this girl?
2007-06-07 06:27:49 · 8 answers · asked by ilosthernyc 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i don't know why, but it was perfect before. I really still love her. She told me in February that she needed a break and that she didn't want to talk about us until i had a seperation agreement, I have that, now I'm just in the between stages of getting divorced, about 2 months. this is unreal. I can't believe she bailed on me. She moved to NY to be with me 3 years ago and now she won't speak to me at all.
2007-06-07 06:48:14 · update #1
just to add, the kid is with my ex wife, i'm in love with my ex girlfriend who i saw with another guy last night. I didn't want to split with my girlfriend, she told me she needed some time to not think about the situation. That I needed to get my separation agreement, which i have, before she would even think about talking about us again. I love my ex girlfriend. it was perfect I just can't belive this is happening. she never told me it was ever over.
2007-06-07 07:08:07 · update #2
she's obviously not too happy about herself if she gained weight and was embarrased to see me.
2007-06-07 09:21:23 · update #3
Speaking as one just recently divorced. GIVE YOURSELF SOME TIME DUDE! Take some time off from the 'relationship merry-go-round'. Get your life together, learn to be alone, (this is the hard part) and if it is meant to be, then it will happen. If you are looking and feeling that good about yourself, then move forward in your life. Not backwards. It is hard to learn to be comfortable alone. I am struggling with this myself. But we often make the same relationship mistakes we made in the marriage all over again with different people. Take some time and date 'lightly' a bit. You may discover you have out grown her.
2007-06-07 06:55:52 · answer #1 · answered by Raven 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok! Listen, what ever happened, happened. Obviously she is hurting big time. What were the reasons for splitting? I mean if you really think about it. If you left her obviously she is going to want to find some other love right away to fill that void. But let me tell you something, that's not going to work. You guys have a kid together right? If that's the case, work that crap out. I'm only saying that because I am going through the same thing. My husband left me being 4 1/2 months pregnant and we have a 3 yr old together and has a new girlfriend. But it is what it is. If i can say one thing. Divorce doesn't change the problem. You can't keep putting band aids on the wounds and expect them to heal. Nothing changes. So if you ever decide to be with her (which i think you should) you need to forgive, let go of the past, and start fresh. If you don't, she'll be sorry in the end when she realizes she's not happy with that person. It's you she really wants. I know.
2007-06-07 06:55:52 · answer #2 · answered by valrasmv<3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Move on. Your not even the same person according to your own words. Go find the woman meant for the surfer.
2007-06-07 06:32:14 · answer #3 · answered by Brian M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do whatever makes you happy... remember there's lots of women out there, after your divorce is over I suggest not going into another serious relationship for about a year, live the single life and date other girls, you might find a better one. there's a lot of fish in the sea waiting for you to throw your line there way!!!
2007-06-07 06:39:03 · answer #4 · answered by Marty B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has a boyfriend. Obviously she moved on with her life while you stagnated thinking you had a relationship with her. You blew off your marriage for this girl and she kicked you to the curb. Karma is WONDERFUL.
2007-06-07 07:45:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on.
2007-06-07 06:31:30 · answer #6 · answered by deborah g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bask in your glory my man. Enjoy the moment!!
2007-06-07 06:32:31 · answer #7 · answered by spjp p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she has a new married boyfriend.....
2007-06-10 22:39:39 · answer #8 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋