i've been talking to a man who's married and so am i . just friends , platonic. no advances has ever been made. he has this really cool car that i said to him some day if you have the time i'd like a quick ride in it. we had lunch together tuesday , and he said after work he'd give me a ride since i treated him to lunch.i got busy and and left work work with out telling him. yestarday i bought a ice coffee at a fast food place across from where he works , and he came in and asked what happened , but upset. i told him what happened and i was sorry.we hung out for an hour , and he wants to make tuesdays our lunch days.i enjoy his company , he's a lot of fun to be with.we connect well.i'm not sure what he wants , maybe he doesn't know. he told me yestarday he loves talking to me , and he loves our friendship.
2007-06-07 06:03:00 · 7 answers · asked by pitbullmom 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he didn't get upset , like that upset. i could tell it was bothering him.
2007-06-07 06:38:46 · update #1
he's never touched me , and he knows as much about me as i do about him.
2007-06-07 06:44:29 · update #2
Although it is just a platonic friendship, you guys are really playing it too close for comfort. I would take a step back or you might give him the wrong impression of what you want out of the relationship, or one of you, if not already, might start to catch feelings for the other. Besides put yourself in your husbands shoes, if he was carrying on with a co-worker of the opposite sex this way or any female friend, I don't think you would like that too much.
2007-06-07 06:14:52 · answer #1 · answered by sxysil01 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He looking at you harder than any friend. To make a standing date? thta's wrong and you know it is, if your hubby had some hottie he had a standing date with you would kill him. true?
He's working his way into your pants, he's taking the slow mathadical approach. Walk away from him NOW. If he got upset because you didn't make a "DATE" he's starting to posess you.
You really need to stop now, and he'll tell you he just wants to be friends, but when he starts touching innocently at first he's moving in for the kill.
You going on about his car is like an old pervert with candy. I bet he lets you do most of the talking also. I bet you both have a lot in common also?
You need to do some soul searching, would you tell your husband everything that's happened including the Tuesday dates? If your answer is no for any reason deep down you know your cheating on him, maybe not physically yet but emtionally your doing the nasty.
The next question can your husband have that hottie play date on Tuesdays also? If the answer is no wellyou should be getting thte picture by now.
Sweetheart your being played. Trust me
You want to know what makes me know so much? I was him at one time, only I had enough morals not to mess around with a married woman. I played the slow roll game, get to know them well. I bet you've told him your likes and dislikes, depending on how long this has been going on he knows as much about you as your husband. The reason for a specific date is as he makes his move on you, it will be on a tuesday because your used to being with him on that day, so it's the best chance for him to get into your pants.
Has he started to lightly touching you? like touching your hand during a conversation, or touching your leg or hair. he's getting you used to his touch.
2007-06-07 13:25:27 · answer #2 · answered by walker9842 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know that what you are doing is wrong, otherwise, you would not be asking...This is an emotional affair and the minute you've crossed the OTHER line it will be twice as hard to walk away. Women get more intimately attached and before you know it you'll be having dinner and happy hours w/him two years later. Trust me when I tell you it will be very very hard. It was one of the most difficult things I had to do. But you know what? I still think about him and believe that I may not have been as strong if I slept w/him.
Think about it. Whether you are happy in your marriage or not, he is also married and don't think for a minute he will leave his wife, because he would have done so already. Don't let a few moments of passion hurt you for the rest of your life. Good luck.
2007-06-07 14:05:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go any further than just friends. I had this same situation and we went further and it ruined my life. It's okay to have him as a friend. Your husband needs to know that you are friends as well otherwise you are having an emotional affair. It sounds like he likes you more than just friends, but DON"T do anything with him. If you need to you need to cut it off complete if it gets weird. You don't want to screw up his life or yours.
2007-06-07 13:25:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you should be careful. Enjoy the friendship but be honest if you ever feel like it is going too far for your comfort zone. And always respect his wife and his marriage, even if he doesn't want to.
2007-06-07 13:08:20 · answer #5 · answered by cap_pilots_lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To have lunch with you on Tuesdays like he said.
If it gets weird stop having lunch with him, but he may just like having a female friend.
2007-06-07 13:12:10 · answer #6 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he loves being with you.
2007-06-07 13:07:02 · answer #7 · answered by Caesar Jeff 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋