how can i overcome my shyness?

Answer 1

You have taken the first step in wanting to over come it, it is only a little step, and little steps are all you have to take to over come shyness.
Secondly you need to start thinking positively, Asking 'How can I overcome my shyness?' is like asking 'How can I not lose a game of draughts?' The opposite of shyness is being confident. Asking 'How can I become confident?, or 'How can I gain self confidence?' is like asking 'How can I win games of draughts?' It is a subtle difference but gradually it changes the way you think, and it is the way you think which makes you shy. You have to substitute thoughts such as 'I can't,' and 'I won't' into 'I can,' and 'I will.'
Someone answered a question in which she took a course from the British Institute of Practical Psychology to remove her shyness, that course doesn't seem to be available anymore, but there are good books about like 'Feel the fear, and do it any way' by Susan Jeffers, or Stop thinking & start living by Richard Carlson.

What you need to do to become self confident is start doing those little things which you don't do, maybe you can say 'hello' back when someone says 'Hello' to you, but are too shy to say it first, then perhaps that can be your next step.

As you think about these little steps you are going to take, keeping thinking 'I am going to do this.' Everytime you think it consciously you are changing the nature of your subconscious mind so that eventually it tells you you are self confident, in the same way it has told you you are shy.

You are fortunate, more fortunate than most of those people who you think have a lot of self confidence, for as you gain in self confidence you will see that they lack self confidence to some degree themselves, whereas the sky is your limit.

Answer 2

I also had the shyness disease. I have to work on it all the time. I joined dance teams and teams at school that involved interaction with many kids and getting up in front of crowds. I would recommend that the best way to get over shyness is put yourself in situations where you don't know anyone and if you don't talk to someone that you will be totally out of the loop.

Answer 3

Take public speaking or debate courses if you're still in school, or join a drama club. If that is a bit too much to start, joining clubs about your interests helps you to interact with people with similar interests, so conversation will come easier. If out of school, clubs also can be helpful, like book discussion groups. Getting interested in politics is also good, besides holding meetings, political groups are always looking for people to get signatures on petitions, so you have to talk to strangers, but always in a public setting where it is safe.

Answer 4

Either.

Join a club were you will meet other people to whom you can talk to, same sex or mixed it is up to you. Like a fitness club.

Or

Take on another persona. Put up a shield to hide your shyness behind and become the life and soul at parties.
I learnt how to tell filthy jokes and it worked for me.

Have you heard this one? There were these two blokes.........

Answer 5

My brother used to be shy. He totally changed when he joined a drama club. He is now the life of the party. You can try that.
Note: it is good to be shy about some things. I hope you do not lose all your shyness!!!

Answer 6

take a risk and always think, "30 years from now, no one will remember if I screwed up or said something wrong or didnt do the right thing. The only thing that will matter is what I learned from it all."

I know it sounds dumb, but I honestly always tell myself things like that before I go out with my friends or make a speech or talk to someone I like.

Answer 7

If you are in college...sign up for Communications 100 which includes interpersonal communication, group communication and public speaking. Once you get to public speaking you should be okay.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

Get of the internet and go to a pub with a couple of your girlfriends. Be careful and sensible though.

Answer 10

thankyou for asking this question for it represents a lot of people, me being one of them. I especially love the advice given to you by Doctress, it just seems hard to do. Hope she gets the 10 points.:))