Who has fallen out of love with their spouse?

Question

Can ot be renewed? or saved?

Answer 1

Fall back in please we need you folks to stay together and give hope to others that people can maintain a marriage, or rescue it.

Answer 2

You don't really fall out of love, but life gets so busy that you stop paying attention to each others needs. Between, paying the bills and raising the family love takes a back seat. So you need to bring love out of the background into the foreground.

Another thing many of use don't realize is that as we grow older we do change as people. We are not the same person we were when we met. You might not think so, but it is true. So its time to discover this new person. And you might like somethings about him and hate somethings about him, but be positive.

Third thing, relationships is a cyclical process, you fall in love, grow apart and then fall back in love again. Sure you have to put an effort into it. But in the course of your life and relationship you will go through this process several times. All married couple go through it. Some have the patience to stick around and put in an effort but most bail out the first chance they get. Hope this makes sense, good luck.

Answer 3

Were you "in love with your husband" or did you just "love him". There is a difference. If you were in love with your husband then you still are. True love nevers dies. It just fades a little. But there is much you can do to get it back.

Me and my husband adore one another, but ever now and then the marriage would get a little stale. Kids, jobs, family stuff like that can wear a marriage down.

Women in a marraige are usually:
-Girlfriend
-Fiance
-Wife/Mother
-And then's there's that Physco heifer that comes out occasionally.

Men in a marriage are usuall:
-Boyfriend
-Finance
-Husband/Father
-And that stupid ******* that shows up sometimes.

Girlfriend and Boyfriend are all the way at the top and almost forgotten about.
What me and my husband did is we started dating again. We miss the people we fell in love with.

Unfortunately with the our daily lives it's hard, but at least once a month we re-create something special we did when we dated. It's amazing what is does. We laugh, cry, giggle, slow dance and have the best sex.

It's gotten to the point now that we flirt everyday now. We say things like "Hi Cutie", "Hey, do you have a Boyfreind" We wink, blow kisses and leave little notes. It's sounds corny but our marriage is stronger than ever and I found an old friend!!

Good Luck

Answer 4

Me.

I think it can, if the elements that caused you to fall out of love with your spouse are no longer in place.

In my case, the things that kept making me fall out of love with him just kept happening, and ultimately, I lost interest in renewing or saving the relationship. It seemed like it would require more energy than the relationship itself was worth.

Answer 5

You haven't so much fallen out of love as you have opened your eyes and seen your spouse for the person they really are, not the pie-in-the-sky fantasy of who you thought they were or could be changed into. That fantasy person is who you fell in love with. This is life. Give up the fantasy and ALLOW yourself to fall in love with the real man that you married. Real life-changing, life affirming, life-time lasting love is deep, abiding and kind, not purely sexual or electric like in the beginning. That was a spark. An electric shock. Short term stuff. Mature love is the real bonfire of life. If he is a decent person, you will be very glad you stuck around and taught yourself to simply love him for who and what he really is. No spark can begin to compare to the happiness and deep-in-your-bones kind of contentment that this kind of long burning love brings. I hope you find it.

Answer 6

I believe that with everything else in life you have to work at it. I have been married for 23 yrs and there has been times that I have wondered the same thing. Love grows, it matures and is not the same way it used to be when you first fell in love. I think and I hope that you both work at keeping the relationship fresh, new and exciting as it can be. Good luck to you.

Answer 7

it all depends on the issue at hand I think. I am in a similiar situation only I have been with him for 12 years and have 2 children and a home that we both share.
I think that it is important to work on things to make it last but if the same issues keep surfacing (like mine) then it is best to part and still be friends. I am battling this situation right now so the best of luck to you.

Answer 8

You never truely fall *out* of love. However, having been at the point of not wanting to continue my marriage, I will tell you that it is possible to *try* to save the relationship. It will take a lot of work on both partners part. I will let you know if it *can* be saved once I know.

Answer 9

I did fall out of love with my spouse. I just got so tired of trying so hard to keep us together when he wasn't wanting to help I just fell out of love with him I look at him now as nothing more than a friend there is nothing there.I don't even think about the past with him . There is just plan and simply nothing there.

Answer 10

I think people don't understand the changes that happen to love more that "fall out of love".

"Being in love" is about thinking that the fairy tale life you want will happen with this person
"Loving" is accepting a person for who they truly are.
I think people think they have "fallen out of love" because the passion of the unknown is gone. I think its just that you are no longer "in love" with the dream and are accepting of the reality of being with this person. Just because the thrill is gone doesn't mean the love is over.

Answer 11

I think that is a question that only you can ultimately answer.

What made you love your spouse in the first place? What has changed since then?

Were you ever best friends, as a base to your relationship?

Good luck.