My youngest son who is 17 y.o. is openly gay to anyone who cares to listen and the other son who is 20, insists to me he isn't gay but tells others he is. The youngest son says he has known since he was 7. I somehow missed the clues. I don't know how to react to either of them about their lifestyles because they're so secretive.
2007-06-07 05:51:03 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
That is entirely up to you and how you wish to handle the situation. You sound like you are a little embarassed of your children, and I would reccomend checkout out P-FLAG; parents and friends of lesbian and gays. If you aren't sure how to cope with being the parent of one or two (not entirely sure-ha!) children, they will help you out a lot.
http://www.pflag.org/
2007-06-07 05:56:55 · answer #1 · answered by Karma Police 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well, you sound pretty much okay with the fact they are gay. You should always be proud of your kids for not being afraid to be who they are, and to be honest. Most teens are very secretive about their personal lives sometimes, I dont think there is any specific way you need to react to their lifestyles. But does it really matter what some close-minded, ignorant people think about your kids? No, it doesn't. Talk about them as anyone else would talk about their children, because yours are normal, even if some people don't see that. Love them, and talk them up even more. Your children will notice that.
2007-06-07 06:10:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The same way you would if they were straight, but with different pronouns.
One helpful thing Miss Manners suggests, that I use all the time, is to add something like, "Some people are really rude and asks [fill in the blank] when I say that." The other person automatically decides they don't want to be grouped in with "some people", knows you won't answer, and bites back the question!
2007-06-07 06:00:31 · answer #3 · answered by GreenEyedLilo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you blame them with the attitudes of so called straights and a mom that doesnt even understand her own sons. Tell other people to go home and shove their heads up their back end because it is no business of theirs. Why should they push into your life and the lives of your sons ? They are just ghouls looking for something nasty to talk about.
2007-06-07 15:28:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be open and honest with them... in return eventually they will be the same with you. They are probably still nervous with how you are accepting the news. I know it took my mom some time, she says she was cool with it from when I told her, but she was really nervous when people would say, "oh we know this girl that would be perfect for you son..." she didn't know what to say at first. She finally got comfortable enough with everything, as we are rather close, and now she has no problems with anything. :) So it just takes some time for the comfort level to build. Just be there when they need you and they will be there when you need them. :)
2007-06-07 06:00:01 · answer #5 · answered by Jyse 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
They are your sons. How else should you react, but to tell the people that yes, they are gay, and that you love. The last thing your sons need is for you to be ashamed of them. Be proud that they are honest enough to accept it. A lot of gay men have removed themselves from their families!!
Get involved in their lives by asking them questions, and tell them that they are more then welcome to bring their lovers home to meet you, and that you accept that they are as they are!!
2007-06-07 06:06:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just learn to accept their lifestyle and remember if they are happy and healthy then that is all that really matters. It is no one elses' business so therefore you dont need to give anyone an answer.
2007-06-07 06:15:14 · answer #7 · answered by nickle 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell them to remember to vote for gay marriage because you would like for your sons to have the opportunity to see your sons marry their boyfriends.
2007-06-07 06:01:44 · answer #8 · answered by What'd You Say? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sounds like it's merely a sign of the times. one son perhaps feels a sense of protection for you while the younger has accepted his preferential situation as fact and feels you will either accept it or won't.. they both understand they can't change how you feel. it could simply be the way they grew up and the 'crowd' they hung out with.
2007-06-07 06:02:31 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Rude questions don't deserve a polite answer. Others aren't entitled to any personal information whatever. Just be proud of their accomplishments that any parent would be proud of.
2007-06-07 05:59:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋