i have a freind who has many many hard problem that make him so week and always gloomy i told him many times many sloutions and encourge him many time but he now sees life black full of strong people who take the right of the weeker how to encourage him and bring the smile again to his face?????????
2007-06-07 05:39:40 · 5 answers · asked by Adham 1910 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
he has his own choices in life.. he has the power over what kind of person he can be, but let him understand that life isn't always that great.. it is complicated and it has a lot of ups and downs.. let him see that these problems are just tests or challenges that make him stronger and realize his mistakes in life.. set out a good example for him.. go out and make him relax and have a look in the beautiful side of life.. people are people.. but how you see life as it is makes you who you are and makes up what you believe in.. if he's a Christian then let him be open about God and Christ, he'll manage to be strengthened if he just believes.. good luck!
2007-06-07 06:22:35 · answer #1 · answered by linkin4eternity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a friend, you should never lose hope. I'd like to give an example, Will and Grace, remove the jokes away and all the sarcasm, you'll see that there are four people, despite of circumstances, will be there for each other and be happy for one's joy. They'll laugh it through or just be there. You need to be strong for him. Be with him and show him that there nothing to lose hope. Let him see the bright side of life, constantly be with him as much as you can [the chances might be higher if there are plenty of you and some might be fun and all that]. Help him stand up and he will see that he can do this and be optimistic knowing you guys are with him all the way.
2007-06-07 13:07:00 · answer #2 · answered by Bill [borrowing] 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the hard problems. If they're medical problems, or maybe he lost a family member etc. - things that he had no control over, then by all means help him by just being there.
But if he brought his problems onto himself - bad choice of other friends, poor grades because of laziness, unsettling home life because of his mouthy behavior - well, that's another story. If he brought his sorrows on himself, I'd distance myself from him - his problems can easily become YOURS.
Yeah. it's hard being a friend.
2007-06-07 12:53:53 · answer #3 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is solely responsible for his choices. He chooses to be unhappy; he chooses not to do anything about his problems. All you can do is be a supportive and empathetic friend, but it's up to your friend to change his life.
2007-06-07 12:47:55 · answer #4 · answered by Michelle H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you will need a very good G.P. who does not dish out pills as though they are smarties...... but can refer your Friend, and you hopefully, to a GOOD Counselor.
Good Luck to you both.
2007-06-07 12:51:56 · answer #5 · answered by susan8589 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋