my bf is such a great guy!! We'll be getting married in a couple of months. I feel extremely terrible because 6 months into the relationship i cheated on him and he loved me enough to stay. I haven't cheated since. I can't say i have an excuse for doing what i did I guess i can say i was being selfsiha nd immature. What happened was that i went out with another guy after my bf & I had an argument. Nothing happened between me and that other guy but we kissed. I haven't seen the guy since and it was a one night of going out thing i didn't "see" him over a period of time or anything like that. I kept it from my bf and he found out i went out a night when he was looking for me so eventually he figured out himself that i was with someone else that night. I didn't spend the night with the guy but it was bad enough i went out with him. Now that my bf & i will be getting married i'm scared that later in the years he may want to get back at me & do the same to me just out of revenge.
2007-06-07 05:14:49 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm very confident he wouldn't cheat on me but- i'm scared that he will. I love him very much now and even though i'm sorry for what i did and haven't done it again i'm scared he will leave me for another one. HELP!! he's moved on about the subject and i trully feel he has forgiven me but- i feel i can't forgive myself. I feel that i don't deserve him
2007-06-07 05:16:41 · update #1
Don't beat yourself up about it hon, you are only human. You concentrate on your wedding, and the man you love, and the one that obviously loves you enough to ask you to marry him. We all make mistakes, and he loved you enough to forgive you, and move on and ask you to be his wife. Keep that in mind, always be good to him, and he'll be good to you. It's you that needs to forgive yourself, put it in the past, and be happy! Plus, it was only a kiss right? There's alot worse! Have a beautiful wedding!
2007-06-07 05:24:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Big Red Flag. You must adress your poor self esteem issues before you marry or you will be dooming your marriage to faliure. It is not what your boyfriend will forgive and forget it is your own guilt that you need to deal with. All of life is a crap shoot sweetie and what he may or may not do somewhere in the future is not something you can forsee or should be worrying about. You need to forgive yourself and to realize that you are not yet married to him and therefore cheating is not an unforgivable sin. You love him now and he loves you. He says he understands and forgives you. Take him at his word. Now you forgive you and realize the past is past and unchangeable. Don't worry about it. The future is a clean slate. You say you do not want to cheat on him, good, don't. Now forget the whole thing. You need to do this so that you can go into the marriage as equal. You deserve him every bit as much as he deserves you. You are not only good enough for him but now you have tested and proved to yourself that it is him that you really want. This is a valuable lesson. Now move on before you mess things up real good.
2007-06-07 05:23:23 · answer #2 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't be so hard on yourself, you are not giving love enough credit. True love is hard to come by & it seems as though he is willing & has worked out things with you. He loves you. You're getting married in a couple of months. You say you feel you don't deserve him. He has proven that he is committed to you, you can trust him, depend on him, & when things get bad (you cheating) he's still there & loves you enought to go through that pain with you. What kind of man do YOU feel that you deserve in your life? If he makes you feel good,& he wants to spend the rest of his life with you. You deserve him!! Try to focus on the positive of your relationship/marriage.
2007-06-07 05:45:36 · answer #3 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jellybean,
Know that your fear has nothing to do with him; it comes from the possibility that you, yourself could once again cheat and you are projecting it onto your bf. Make a vow to the relationship ( one day at a time ) not to epeat the behavior when you have an argument with him; resolve instead, to discuss how you feel when you get into an argument and you may find that your feelings are no different than anyone else's who feels hurt .Know also that when someone expresses an opinion that is different from yours that it isn't an attack; it's simply their view.
2007-06-07 05:22:25 · answer #4 · answered by Master Ang Gi Guong 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I'd focus on what you have right in front of you now...you can't focus on the "what-ifs" of life. This man loved you enough so say we can work through that...Everybody is not out looking to get even with people have wronged them....some people are truly good people who realize every body makes bad choices....Girl be true to this guy and give him all of you....if he trust you after finding out you went out with another guy then at least give him the trust he is giving you....TRUST HIM...he hasn't given you a reason not too....good luck
2007-06-07 05:26:21 · answer #5 · answered by Lil_MissVal 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
first relax
second relax
third-it was a test-and the next time you argue say to him I need to know you love me-right now i feel-----
communications is the key
yet also have a higher relationship that you can trust in with all your heart and soul-& for him to do this too before you marry it is vital-in forgiveness and trust=you will never be let down by Jesus= I prayed-Jesus, I am sorry I have let you down-even with one lie, come into my heart and help me do better, be my friend, amen.
in amazing grace that saved me Revelation 3 (verses 19&20) He loves each of us & knocks on our heart door to come in and forgive sin when we repent-even of one lie, and Jesus says then I will begin a fellowship with you as my friend, when you ask me in. praying for you, David
2007-06-07 05:20:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 23:03:01 · answer #7 · answered by beckim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say we deserve each other because I am a catch but I don't like to brag about it but sometimes I do wonder how did I get soo lucky
2007-06-07 05:21:13 · answer #8 · answered by mrsknowitall 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as you continue to hold on to that quilt, you will not be able to move forward. He forgave you now you have to let it go and continue to prove to him that you can be trusted and that you love him.
2007-06-07 05:25:15 · answer #9 · answered by April First 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he forgave you. stop dwelling on the past and move on
2007-06-10 22:31:56 · answer #10 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋