In a gay relationship, is one of the partners the "male" and the other the "female", or they have similar role

Question

I am curious if this is a myth or reality.
Thanks

Answer 1

myth

just as there is variety in heterosexual relationships, there is also variety in gay relationships

Answer 2

In answer to this question...
all relationships - two adults - have active or passive roles within the relationship...
sex and sexual roles only define a small part of any partnership homo or hetero...
some partners may be more active or passive in the bedroom but in other roles may take the active or passive role...
in the kitchen duties or the affairs of the house --
making arrangements for dinner etc etc--
in many -- if not all partnerships there is a give and take -
relationships with rigid "gender" assigned type roles - are archiac and not a reflection of a workable partnership...
and usually dont last - because they restrict the partners -
a better question would be:
in what areas does your partner -- take the active role and in what areas does your partner take a passive role...

in hetero sex sometimes women are on top - and control the man - or vice versa --
let go of your stereotypes -
witin everyone is a man and a women in the spiritual and emotioanl sense...

peace

Answer 3

In most cases, it just happens that one is more "butch" and the other is more "femme," although that's not always the case. Every relationship has it's quirks. It's whatever works for the two partners. The point of having a gay relationship, though, is that there is no member of the opposite sex. Whether or not they are attracted to each other's personality is their choice. So, in some ways, it's a myth...But in others, it could be looked at as reality. Hope this helps! =]

Answer 4

It's a myth. People are not as hung up on gender roles as they used to be. There may be one partner that is more dominant in the relationship, sexually and otherwise, but in any successful relationship there's a balance. Even most straight relationships seem to have evolved into more of a partnership; how many women still stay at home, cooking and cleaning, while their husbands are off at work, and wait on him like a servant when he comes home?

Answer 5

No, gay men and most lesbians just exist as gay men or lesbians together, butches and femmes come close to having a male/female dynamic but when you get right down to it the butch role is not quite the same as the "male" role, and the femme role is arguably different from the "female" role.

Answer 6

In my experience there seem to be some lesbians and gay men who insist on being the 'butch' or the 'femme' in the relationship, but personally this is far too confusing for my taste, and I widely prefer being an equal in a relationship. There are two sides to every coin, you know. :)

In my opinion, if I wanted to date a man, I would date a man, and if I wanted to date a straight woman, I would get a sex change. I love being in the middle; and all the girls who are here with me.

Answer 7

No...it's a complete MYTH!

In gay male relationships they're BOTH MALE
In lesbian relationships they're BOTH FEMALE


There MIGHT be a minority of gay male or lesbian relationships where ONE partner is ALWAYS dominant...but that's really quite rare.
With most lebian and gay male relationships...both partners take a dominant/submissive role fairly equally. It all depends on the situation at hand.

Answer 8

All relationships are relatively unique. In many heterosexual marriages (did you ever think you'd have to make that distinction?), the man is the stay-at-home housekeeper and child raiser and the woman is the road warrior breadwinner. In others, both have equal roles. Gay relationships are no different.

Answer 9

In some relationships with a butch and a femme it can be like this. The butch can take on the more masculine roll. However it is not like this in alot of relationships. My fiance & I are both have equal roles in our relationship. She was butch, but has since moved turned the femme side more, but even as a butch our role was equal.

Its different in every relationship. Hope this helps.

Answer 10

It depends on the relationship you are in. With me with both play similar roles.

Answer 11

Generally in a gay relationship it is more correct to categorize them as “top” or “bottom” or “versatile” rather then as male or female. Basically they are both what they are. And I am sure you can figure out what each of the roles represent so I will not get into that.

bob