I am in the process of getting out of my current relationship. At soon to be 40 year old lady with a profession (nurse) , I still have not found Mr. Right. I learned that It begins with me and learning to love myself FIRST.This includes pampering myself and treating myself right. This also means that I should have a healthy self-esteem. I am childless. My parents are in the 70's. I reside with them now. However, what if I have to live on my own someday? I'm a little afraid to live on my own because of loneliness but more so for safety reasons and if I get sick (God) forbid, no one will be there to help. Any thoughts?
2007-06-07 04:55:18 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Not every one will marry. Not everyone should. You have a responsible profession, so you don't have to worry about being an airhead, living alone is a probability for any woman since they live longer than men do. When the time comes to live on your own you will be able to. I know I make my plans now, even thought I'm married and hes healthy, I have my list of plumbers and handymen, and snowplows and gardeners.
I have all the procedures for water softener and filters, I keep track of oil supplies and the age of the household mechanicals. Its a big place, but I love it and intend to keep it as long as possible. For safety, have neighbors you can keep in touch with and if not, get one of those things you can wear that will alert people to when you are ill and can't get to a phone. There are some places that have a daily phone call and send someone out if you don't answer.
Being alone doens't mean you have to be lonely, you can take tours with other people, they can be done rather cheaply, and you can take lessons in art or quilting or gardening, or poker if thats your thing. Make friends at church, if you aren't particularly religious choose one that is not too dogmatic, maybe Unitarian or something.
You will manage, most women do, how well you do it up to you.
2007-06-07 05:09:24 · answer #1 · answered by justa 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey, am an rn, too! Am turning 40 July 1st! But, a lady can still be lonely even with children in the house.....(I'm divorced) I have 2 teenagers, and 4 pets...but without a man around right now.....I'm sorry, I would never again live with parents though for a million bucks! Get a dog and u can even take up the hobby of gun shooting, which I can't, because I won't have a gun in the house because of the kids....God, start living before it's over! There are more never married guys with no kids out there than u can imagine! go to match.com and find a man! They are so much fun!
2007-06-08 05:27:34 · answer #2 · answered by Mary H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sadly sound older than your years and I dont even know you. Confidence comes from within and once you realise that with or without a partner you have to look after YOU!! dont rely on anyone to look after you. I would focus more on having a bit of a good time while I was still young enough to do so, revamp yourself, get a new hair do, buy some naughty underwear just in case!!, try on some clothes you wouldnt normally go for, and whatever it is that you have buried inside yourself drag it out and have FUN. Stop being a nurse when you finish work for the day you deserve a life too - Now come on get out there! You will be lonely if you dont do something about it.
2007-06-07 12:09:21 · answer #3 · answered by Magster 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, you are halfway there! You need to find some hobbies and some interests- join a club or two- do things that you enjoy or think you would enjoy. You can meet nice people on the internet just as friends- there are dangers but there are dangers in crossing the road. You need a network of friends that you can rely on- i divorced 4 years ago and although i have a boyfriend now i know if i had to live alone i have enough friends that should something happen to me then someone would know. Make friends pet- thats the best way.
2007-06-07 12:03:41 · answer #4 · answered by Ellie 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well.........sorry ........I'm stuck with this one I'm past 40. Oh well.............
How colorful was that? Relax.........take a deep breath...........not too deep..........don't cough...........and enjoy!
First you got to get your own place............living with the folks it doesn't sound good, it is understandable a transition but you said your a professional person (nurse) Getting your own place creats a new confidence all it's own. If you're scared about living alone, check with a friend at work......room mate with a friend. Invest into a house now..........is the smart thing.
2007-06-07 12:14:57 · answer #5 · answered by John B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get friends, move out, go out and do things don't just sit in your house and you won't get lonely. Your problems seem self induced to me.
2007-06-07 12:00:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i dont know but my b day is July 4th to!
2007-06-07 11:58:52 · answer #7 · answered by Katie Noble 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
so get a roommate.....
2007-06-11 05:25:16 · answer #8 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋