He currently admitted to me that if our relationship didn't work that he would date my bf.
2007-06-07 04:48:55 · 41 answers · asked by confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It sounds like he is a little over attracted here to be making this comment to his wife. It is nice to have best friends but when you are married it is often best to keep things between you and your husband! Often it is our friends that we need to be carefull about. I would not be including her into to many things where you and your husband are involved. continue a relationship but keep it separate from your marriage. Also spend a lot of intimate time and make things intresting with your husband. Communicate and stay close to him and keep your marriage strong. Best wishes sweetie.
2007-06-07 04:59:49 · answer #1 · answered by Lindsey 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The ? is would she date him
2007-06-07 04:51:50 · answer #2 · answered by mrsknowitall 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I have a tendency to be a jealous person. I have had issues with females trying to move in on my husband, but I have never been concerned about my husband. I can totally understand your fear. I would let your friend still come over, just don't put each of them in tempting situations i.e. all three of you have too many drinks, she walking around your house in something slinky. Just watch your husband for signs not just with your friend but anyone. You will probably know if your husband is cheating just by slight changes. And the bigger deal you make about the more you will push him away.
2007-06-07 04:57:32 · answer #3 · answered by thirtytwoflavorsandthensome4 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off is your marriage in any trouble? Second is your friend that type of person? I think you should work on your marriage first. Because there is a reason he said that. Were you 2 kidding around or was he serious? I think you should question him and ask him is there a problem in the marriage. Ask him if he is happy and if he is not ask him if there is something you can do to make him happy. Visit your friend at her house if you are very uncomfortable until you figure this out.
Good Luck!
2007-06-07 05:56:43 · answer #4 · answered by Desha C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did u ask him or did he just volunteer this info? If he just came out and stated your friend is hot and if I break up with u ,I am going to hook up with her. Thats lame. HOWEVER..if u asked him say "if we aren't together would u ever date my b/f/f?" and he said "yeah" then I think u have nothing to worry about. It is human nature to either be attracted to people or not. There is nothing wrong with that. You should allow your friend over . For u to be questioning this so deeply I feel like there may be something else in your relationship that may need attention. You are going to drive yourself crazy worrying about it so I would just trust your boyfriend and your best friend. Don't go looking for things a lot of times you will create an issue that isn't even there. Best Wishes.
2007-06-07 05:33:34 · answer #5 · answered by Barbie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you even ask him and put the thought in his head ? There's probably allot of woman he would date after you . What are you going to do keep him locked up in a room ? Is there guys that he knows that you would date if it didn't work out ? Stop playing mind games .
2007-06-07 05:08:38 · answer #6 · answered by dad 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say if you trust your husband there shouldn't be an issue having your friend over she did nothing wrong. However if your husband is an idiot and would flirt with her or pursue her in any way I would say no. I think it's fine if your husband was just joking or even being honest about thinking your friend was cute or whatever but if you trust him know that you are the woman in his life he has chosen to spend his life with so you have nothing to fear.
2007-06-07 04:57:02 · answer #7 · answered by wolvlynn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend should come to your house, and your husband should be an ex-husband living somewhere else. What a jerk off !! My god, the very nerve of some guys. I'm a guy, and hearing the kind of crap that some guys say makes me cringe inside. Lose him. He's not gonna be worth it in the long run, unless he grows up quick smart !!
Good luck girl :)
2007-06-07 04:54:15 · answer #8 · answered by martinowens5173 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What!?!
If my wife made such a comment to me, I would not worry about the friend. I would have a million questions for her about our marriage.
If your husband is saying that about your best friend, he is looking at other women too and he will eventually cheat. He is not as dedicated to your marriage as a husband should be. He does not respect you and therefore will feel free to cheat.
You might want to re-evaluate your marriage.
Take care,
Troy
2007-06-07 06:01:47 · answer #9 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I can't believe he would tell you that! It is not your friends fault about the way your husband feels! I wouldn't keep her away! If it makes you feel better keep your husband away from her or stay in the same room. LOL ( if there is a trust factor)
2007-06-07 04:56:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋