whats the key to a good and long lasting marriage???

Question

I just want to know what to do or how to do it with my husband?

Answer 1

Communication...no matter what, that is what you need in order to make it work.

Answer 2

LOVE! You should be doing anything to make each other happy and if it's true love, that will happen naturally. Never ever be selfish, because that's when you'll wind up all by yourself.

The really important thing that so many woman overlook is, a man needs to be complimented. They need to hear that they make the right decisions, that they're excellent in bed and that they're gorgeous and they turn you on, etc. You know what he would love to hear.

For example; If he walked thru the door after work and you were in a miserable mood, bitching and moaning and showing how unhappy you are, kids screaming, etc. he would be feeling like a failure and he would hate to come home. That's when he would run to another broad so she could make him feel better. That's a divorce.

Now if he walked thru the door after work and you stopped whatever you were doing and ran to him to hug him, kiss him and tell him you missed him. Also yell to the kids, "daddy's home" so they would do the same and even once and a while whisper that you want to have ___later so go take a nap and I'll cook dinner. Well, which house would you rather walk thru?

That's just an example, you understand my point. Never let him disrespect or take advantage of you. Only together, could you have a wonderful marriage. Good Luck.

Answer 3

My affectionate and sensitive and loving friend, you are very nice to ask such a chivulrious question. Well being a marriage expert, (happily married for 4 years with a lovely son ican advise you on how to keep a good and long lasting marriage.
Step 1- put you husband before everything, and make sure he is treating you the same way.
Step 2- make sure both of you have equal authority in descicion making.
Step 3- don't ignore him, he won't ignore you.
Step 4- It is not bad to be a little exciting in the nighttime if you know what i sayin.
Good Luck!
Sterp 4 was a joke, he should love you even if you don't want to do it

Answer 4

im not married but i think a good way to get a grip on life when youre old and youre like "whoa what happend to me? what happened to us?" is to just think about what it was like before you got married and remember why you got married in the first place. maybe write each other a passionate love letter, sweet and wonderful. then give it to each other and keep it so when the going gets rough you each pull out your letters and i think it will help you get a grip when youre like all wtf with life

i also agree with the other people who are saying communication and honesty. my parents dont really have a "good marriage" or whatever. they pretty much admitted it was a "stay together for the kids" situation.. so i can tell you what NOT to do i guess...

money money money is a bad bad bad thing. dont underestimate its power.. when life gets tough.. some people turn to food or drugs to solve their problems, and let me tell you money is just as bad. do not let it corrupt..

you should alwyas make time for each other, even if it is a silly 10 min. alwyas hold hands during this time. and kiss at least once a day. dont get caught up with the kids and the job and the house, etc. the idea is: investing in your relationship will pay off in all areas of your life since marriage is your "hub" to everything else in life

Answer 5

Two people who are best friends and build their marriage on a foundation of trust, friendship and love. A marriage is much like building a house. You have a foundation, a structure build with supporting framework and the rest is how you make it look and feel.

You have to have total trust as your primary foundation.
You have to build your framing support structure on your foundation through being best friends.
You have to fill your marriage with love which will make it beautiful on the inside and the outside.

If you do the three things above, your marriage will last forever.

Take care,
Troy

Answer 6

always be considerate of his feelings and treat him with the same respect u would like to be treated with. If the two of u are always thinking of eachother then everything else just comes right along with it because ur main concern is what makes the other happy. I'm not saying u wont have disagreements, but most of them, hopefully, will be about who is making who happier instead of all that other drama. communicate, be honest all the time and treat him like ur best friend and not just a man u go to bed with at night. Give him all the things u would want for urself and he'll respond by doing the same for you.

Answer 7

The key to a good marriage is communication, trust and compromise. You need all of these and of course Love. Without love you aren't going to want to do any of the others.

There is a book called "Love & Respect". It would help clarify everything. A man wants to feel respected and the woman wants to feel loved.

Answer 8

communication is the key

yet if all you have is a marriage partner-they will become ones god-and one will sooner or later get tired of worshiping a person or being worshiped

this is the key to life-have the higher love and all the rest will come into order=you will never be let down by Jesus= I prayed-Jesus, I am sorry I have let you down-even with one lie, come into my heart and help me do better, be my friend, amen.
in amazing grace that saved me Revelation 3 (verses 19&20) He loves each of us & knocks on our heart door to come in and forgive sin when we repent-even of one lie, and Jesus says then I will begin a fellowship with you as my friend, when you ask me in. praying for you, David

Answer 9

Always remember that you get out of it what you put into it if you both are putting 150% in then that's what you will guy out of it 150% and a long, happy and prosperous marriage.

If you don't put forth any effort then it will over before the honeymoon ends

Answer 10

the main key is communication!!!!!! Trust is #2...
neither one of you are mind readers so talk about what you expect and want and need... Getting to know each other even years after knowing each other is the key.. People change and so do their likes and dislikes.. Communicate as often as possible..

Answer 11

Lots of communication and lots more patience. Don't get bent out of shape about every little thing (have you ever heard the saying "choose your battles carefully"). If you really beliee an issue needs to be addressed be prepared to discuss it fully, listen to his/her side, and provide alternatives or solutions and be willing to compromise your stance (at least a little). Also, lots of forgiveness. Good luck and God Bless.