i know we have to forgive to be forgiven but is it possible to forgive but not forget or does not forgetting mean you havent forgiven
2007-06-07 01:47:21 · 7 answers · asked by loveChrist 6 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Bear in mind, you are human, God knows that we are imperfect. You can try to forgive, but forgeting is impossible. You can wish them no evil, but not want them in your life. There is no problem with that. You now have the knowledge of what that person is like in your memeory, you are setting yourself up to be hurt over and over again if you don't remember what they are like. God doesn't want you to be in pain or hurt. So, fogive and wish them well and move on.
One of the things as a Christian you are supposed to gain is wisdom, is it wise to allow yourself to constantly be hurt by a person?
2007-06-07 02:48:03 · answer #1 · answered by carrie_penny 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
.....The practical reality is that you can't forget. Long-term memories are more or less permanent, no delete key on that computer! But there are two issues.....
1. What do feel when you do recall what happened? The key to forgiveness is to LET GO of feelings of loss and hurt and anger and blame and revenge. The key is to not care about it anymore. You don't dwell on it anymore. You unburden yourself. You move on. But it's impossible to actually forget.
2. And well you should remember. Trust, for example, is earned. You may have forgiven, but it may be a good idea to relate to this individual differently. You may have forgiven the child abuser, but maybe it's a good idea not to use him as a babysitter anymore.
2007-06-07 08:52:37 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can forgive and not forget. Forgiveness means not only have you forgiven that person for what they've done, but that person no longer has any control over your thoughts or feelings. It doesn't necessarily mean that you'll forget the incident.
2007-06-07 08:53:48 · answer #3 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We are doing a 3 week study on forgiveness in Sunday School because so many of us have trouble with it - last week we concluded that forgiveness is the decision to turn the matter over to God and move on. I don't think you forget you just choose not to let it affect you any longer.
2007-06-07 08:59:56 · answer #4 · answered by gypz9 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not God and hope my advice is the right advice but I am an God fearing Christian who love God with all my heart, body and soul. I truly believe we can forgive a person and still remember what they have done but not hold any thing against them in our heart and it ok. What I mean you can love a person, especially if it someone you close to when they do you wrong it hurt very much and we can forgive them but will remember what have happen to you. We have to ask God to help us not hold it against them and move on. It important to pray and ask God to help you in this type of situation and always pray and ask God for answer yourself he will guide you down the right path. Hope this help you.
2007-06-07 09:02:46 · answer #5 · answered by mysteryperson 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe that the Christian God wants you to forget.
And, psychologically and physiologically speaking, you won't forget anyway, no matter how hard you try.
He wants you to experience life and learn from your mistakes, not continually forget life's experiences and continue to make the same mistakes over and over.
Forgive? Yes. Forget? No.
2007-06-07 10:16:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't gain Wisdom, by forgetting.
2007-06-07 12:11:28 · answer #7 · answered by Israel-1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋