Why do some people get nasty and rude, over something that doesn't matter to anyone?

Question

I have realized, that some people get really nasty and rude over some little topic, that doesn't make a difference in anything. What do you think?

Answer 1

The majority of People that are constantly monitoring Answers are people with a lot of time on their hand and or are disable physically or behaviorally. I myself have "Panic Disorder", so most are going through a cycle of emotions. It depends on when your question catches them on whether they reply emotionally, happily or angrily. For example: you caught me grieving in an emotional state. therefore I've answered your question more tenderly. good luck, if you get a bad time, just realize that person is having problems at the moment and just move on and put it behind you...Okay!

Answer 2

There are many things around us which act as anchors to stored states; some are positive, some are negative. Examples of anchors are voice tones, perfumes, places where you've had a good time, your team scoring. All of these thing ellicit a state change and make you feel good or bad.

When someone kicks off over something that doesn't matter, it could be that the something is acting as an anchor to a bad state. More likely is that the person is already in a negative state when the little topic is mentioned, and they choose this as a point to make a stand. When someone feels bad, they have a number of available strategies (for some reason I can't quite fathom, the idea of feeling good is not often one of them) - and the two that people use most often are to make themselves feel better by beating on someone else, or make everyone else as miserable as they are by dragging others down.

So nasty and rude over something that doesn't matter is an attempt by someone who is already in a negative state, to make themselves feel better by making someone else feel worse - the pass it on strategy.

As you've probably guessed, 'pass it on' simply generates more anger and rudeness & does not fix the problem.

Answer 3

Yes, they are just drawn into the argument, usually because they don't like the other person, what they said, or how they said it. They lose sight of the big picture.

Are you referring to the people on Yahoo Answers?

If so, I think it's the forum. We are online, so it doesn't feel like the other person is "real". It is easy to talk about someone when you can't see their reaction/ hurt feelings, because you don't experience any guilt.

In Life, the same situation occurs, and people justify their rude behavior by making the other person less than human in their minds. The rude person thinks, "He won't care anyway. He is a jerk." Or, the person thinks, "He is an idiot, so I don't have to treat him with respect."

Humans have all kinds of clever little ways to justify their evils.

Answer 4

I think sometimes people have a bad day and let it build up inside of them and then they take it out on someone else who had nothing to do with it to begin with. You never know what someone;s day or week has been like and often people take it out on the first person they come across. Other people are just rude and nasty and treat everyone like that. People like that are miserable in their lives and I guess misery loves company.

Answer 5

Because they are nosy and don't have a life. Seriously.
Whenever that happened to me, they were trying to up their status by bringing me down.
My own children do that to me all the time. Evesdrop and tell me the facts I am stating are wrong. It makes them feel better to bring me down.

Answer 6

It must mean something to them if it strikes up that much emotion.

Answer 7

some people just love drama....maybe thats why?

Answer 8

Small minds....