My wife hugs me kiss me & lie over me infront of my children. woult it made any bad impact on my children?

Question

She also used to take bath naked without closing the doors. Moving in around in the rooms without clothes. This is not new to us. Siince married days and still it continues. I have one daughter 16 years and one son 13 years. I & My childredn never bother about the attiud. and do not care. But I feel bad impact may be occured to my children. Pl suggest how to tackle the problem without violence.

Answer 1

THE GIRL NO WORRIES BUT SHE SHOULD NOT BE NAKED AROUND YOUR BOY. AS FAR AS THE KISSES AND LAYING ON YOU. I THINK THAT WOULD BR OK. MY HUSBAND AND I HUG AND KISS AND SHOW EACH OTHER AFFECTION ALL THE TIME. THAT IS HOW THEY LEARN TO BE AFFECTIONATE.

Answer 2

I'm assuming when you say violence you don'e actually mean physically attacking here but are actually referring to an arguament? On that basis I would say thats it's a cultural thing, in some parts of the world it's not acceptable, in others it is. I'm not sure where you are but here, in Europe, it's quite normal and considered healthy - some parts of Europe (northern/western) more than others (southern/eastern).

As a family we often walk around naked, not intentionally but rather we just don't bother to dress up simply because the kids are around. They, aged 2 to 11, act in the same way. Nakedness and showing of affection in our family home is normal and not considered y them as anything bad. Clearly nothing innapropriate (i.e. sex or arousal) is ever shared in their presence!

I am pleased with how we are and feel it is the right balance - it means they are not embarrased by their bodies and there is no mystery about the opposite sex or sense of nakedness being 'dirty' which can and often does really screw people up later in life.

I'd be interested to know if your views are based on local culture, religion or because you were brought up to believe being naked or showing affection in front of others was dirty? I respect others beliefs, so thats your decision, but if it's the last option you might consider that passing on the view it is 'dirty' can only harm them and certainly will not do them any favours in life. I say chill out and relax about the whole thing.

Answer 3

Hmmm I don't see it as a problem. My mom did the same to us as we we're growing up. Of course my dad felt like you do, my other half feels the same way. As I child I'd be like gee mom! put some clothes on but she'd say if she can't be naked in her own house, where can she be naked? She wasn't harming anyone. My siblings and I haven't had any bad impact by it. If anything it taught me that its OK to be open and have no shame with your family...meaning kids and other half. Also, as long as shes moving around and not sitting in one place, doesn't seem like a big deal. I'm sure others beg to differ. But anyhow this is my opinion. Take it as you wish. And I hope it all works out. Take care.

Answer 4

Why would you use violance. If she is kissing you and hugging you infront of the children then its a good thing. Its showing the kids that there are people who have loving relationships and gives them a positive outlook on the future.

As far as moving around a bit without clothes it shouldnt be too much of a problem, its not like she is sleeping naked on the couch with her legs spread open (can imagine that would be sexy tho).

If you are concerned about the nakedness then just talk to her, communicate.

Answer 5

no it will not impact ur children badly. they will grow up used to a warm loving environment and be better in their own future relationsihps for it.
walking without clothes or bathing with the door open also should not be a problem, as long as she does not do anything sexual in front of the children.
i grew up seeing my mom naked, it has not affected me in any bad way, it just gives confidence that ur naked body is not something u need to be ashamed and embarrassed about. its all perfectly natural and in the comfort of ur own home u can do whatever u please.
why dont u just let her be comfortable as she is and accept it.
be happy she is so loving and warm towards u.
and also be happy she is probably alot more fun to be married to than some of those women who will not take their clothes off without turning off the lights first!

Answer 6

Maybe she is so used to do that, but you can politely tell her that there are teen age kids in the house now. This is ok if the kids are still very young, the family bond strengthens, but teens, they might get the wrong impression and try to walk naked in a friend's house. Just have a talk and explain to her that the kids might get influenced, and do this in other places because they see their parents does this. Tell her that you can still do this when the kids are out or if you have a romantic getaway.....and buy her a nice bath robe.

Answer 7

What the hell is the matter with you? Of course, there is something wrong with her walking around naked, but it took you 16 years to ask that question? She walks around naked in front of your son, 13 years old? That's sick.

You asked about her hugging and kissing you, there is nothing wrong with that, but lying over you? What is she trying to do. Is she trying to have sex? She already seems perverted.

Hey, you got a problem buddy. You seem to live in a very strange household and you did nothing about it for all these years. It's too late now. Weird

Answer 8

u need to think what they will store in there memories by seeing that, do u know what it is??

to be openly affectionate, and to be comfortable with yourself.

i have a friend whose mother is like that, he is the most affectionate guy i know, and he is a metro-sexual (a man that takes care of his appearance not gay)

yes there should be some restrictions like if she walking naked into the other rooms and not closing the bathroom doors. but if she is naked in her own room what is wrong with that??

if children never see there parents being affectionate they will learn how to hide it, not show it to others which some people are that way.

so what do u want ur kids to be?? comfortable, or conscience??

Answer 9

I am sorry but violence is not the answer. I think the show of affection is good for your children. It has shown them that the 2 of you have a loving marriage. The nudity, well, at least she isn't teaching them that their bodies are disgusting and dirty. Would you feel differently if she convinced your children that to like your own body was wrong? She has confidence and self esteem and by having her own she is increasing the level in her own children.

Answer 10

It sounds pretty normal to me, I am a bit funny now Im overweight but when I was slimmer Id have baths with the door open and my kids would come and talk to me (moan to me lol!!) I also pee with the door open because Im clostrophobic (hate small places)

Its good for kids to see parents hug and hold hands etc, not full on groping though thats not too swell but its good for kids to see thier parents showing each other affection now and then.

unless it gets a bit too carried away I would not worry about hurting your children etc, but if it makes you uncomfterble you may need to talk to her abotu limits, perhaps just hugs and kisses and holding hands and sitting on your lap, but not all at once.

It is normal for kids to see thier parents naked etc, now your children are older however, your wife should probably be a bit more careful not to embarrass them and make sure when they have friends over she keeps it on the low side...

goodluck :)

Answer 11

its good but it shouldnt be that way you do it in bedroom,there must be some diffrences.its good because kids learn to make love to their lovers and its every humans need,but when you do it as you do in bedroom it has bad effects on your kids they want to tes it befor the suitable time arrives,and moving around naked is the worst thing your wife can do to your son,he is only 13 and he must learn to respect his moms body,its the time that boys undrestand their tendency to opposite sex so your son may want to have sex with your wife its horrible but its a fact,its a fact and you have to prevent your wife doing it .also dont forget that violence infront of children can have a worse impact,so talk to your wife she may doesnt know about it,im worry about your son because im a boy and undrestand what the image of a naked woman on those years even if she is your mom can do