I have been a good son, I think , over the years. I have always supported and helped my mo even though I have two sisters and one brother (all older than me) who have fallen out with her over the years. Maybe my mom was a at fault too sometimes.
Anyway I got married a few years ago. They never accepted my wife into the family, and I got more distant from them, including my mom until basically we ending up getting racially attacked (my wife was my sister's target) - we went to the police to protect ourselves because they threatened us....we then ended up in court taken there by my sisters.
A long story...anyway, with the court case behind us we thought that would be the end of it. But my mom who lives alone
has continued to put pressure on me and my wife, and not giving me much time and peace for myself. I have worried about her alot but tried to give her help where I could.
Anyway, my sisters, after years of blanking my mom out of their life, are back on the scene, and they now have a common intereste - their hatrred of my and my wife. My mom has said she does'nt wanna fall out with me, but her actions say different.She called them - my sisters for help. And to be fair - they have given hher some help. But I have given her help over all my life, they turn up and now the smallest thing they do seems great. I feel unappreciated. And now, the money I banked from my mom, fo r my mom's bills was designed to make it easy for her to not worry about her bills. I would bank the money, then pay them on line when they would come in. My mom has gotten increasingly agoraphobic so it seemsed the best way to help her. I would not do her or anyone out of a penny. So when my sister called me I was shiocked - they have a lot of balls to call me after what they put us through, and now they pretend to show care for my mom.
I told my mom this morning that I dfid'nt want my sisters back in my life, and now she was the cause of it. I also told her I would send her every penny back this week. But this has really hurt, I feel she has sided with the devil, because my sisters have no good qualities.
Have any of you ever been threatened / challenged by your sisters or family member, what did you do, and what would you advise me to do? I just want a quiet life, but my sisters threatned to make life hell for me and they are delivering on that promise.
I told my my mom to contact me when my sisters let her down - because they will - but otherwise I wanna be left alone. I also told her that there were laws in this country and if my sisters or brother try harrassing me or my wife, then I will take it further. If you think I am too harsh, tell me so, but I just want to protect me and my wife, because the whole family seems dead against us.
Thank you
2007-06-06
23:40:53
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I wish I could get on without them, but I think they won't let it lie. A family friend (a priest) called me to say my mom was basically feeling very boken down, and he was worried about her. He hoped I would make up with her, but I feel, what is the point? These two daughters have had no care for her in years, and now, it seems what they do is more impressive to my mom. My mom, in turn, does not wanna fall out on me because she knows I am someone who can be relied upon. But I do admit that my marriage has to come first, and I believe everyone has their place. My mom never accepted being no.2, and so this is why she has been so difficult to bear with over the last few years. I just wanna break from her over dramatising everything, and I certainly do not wanna be used. I just think I have a right to live my life without fear or harrassment. She won't change, so why would I make up with her and put myself through more misery?
2007-06-07
11:33:12 ·
update #1