when you think about your father, what comes to your mind the most?

Question

youre biological relationship with him
or the person he is to you
or the person you want him to be...

Answer 1

A lot of mixed emotions. When I was 4 years old, my father killed my mother, he beat her to death. I was too young at the time to realize what had happened, so I grew up believing my dad was my hero. The older I got though, and the more I started looking like my mother, I started getting beat for whatever I did wrong. When I was 25, I researched and found out the truth of what happened to my mother and it just TOTALLY messed up my mind, there was hate, anger, love, pity, compassion and emptiness left inside me. I was old enough by then to forgive and still love, but was angry that I grew up without my Mom. So to answer your question, I think what comes to mind the most is a memory of violence, but yet love.

Answer 2

My father passed away when I was 13. I am now a mum and at the same age he was when he died. I think about how wonderful a person he was. I think about how he would always show us a fun side of life and how social he was - everyone knew him - or so it seemed.

I guess I never have thought about the biological thing - Even about my mum - I just accept that they are my parents and never questioned it.

I always treasured him and feel alot of loss, even still, for him being taken away at such a young age.

Try to find the best things about your dad's personality. Find something you have incommon with him and spend quality time with him. I am sure he loves you and doesnt think about the biological thing. I am sure you love your dad. If you havent had a good relationship with him just start out small with small talk and keep at it until he sees that you are making an effort. He will change soon enough and Im sure you will eventually have the relationship you want.

Good luck - remember your parents are always doing the best they know how to - why would they intentionally make your life crap? Dont ever question their love - it may be complicated but try to accept them as the people they are.

God Bless X

Answer 3

When I think of him, I think about how when I was younger, we used to bake together at his bakery. The person he is to me now is nothing. I don't see how a man can walk away from his family. I can't even imagine my own life would be without my son, and here he is, never once called in many many years.

The person I want him to be? At least a good father.

Answer 4

Whenever I think of my father, I feel very very sad. He was the most affectionate, loving and caring person in my whole life. Despite his being a strict disciplinarian, his sometimes overbearing manner, he was always there for us: to help us in our school projects, to tutor us with out lessons, to encourage us not to give up, not to be like the others who only live for the day and did not think of their future. He was a good family man, the kind you would like to have as a husband. When he died, I was 6 months pregnant with my third child. I miss him very much and wish he was here with me today. He would have loved to play with his greatgrandchild.

Answer 5

I always knew that my brother and I were the most important things in his life. Not to say that he didn't work hard. He did. He was a workaholic but the time he spent with his family was quality time. He worshipped my Mom and always said he was lucky to have found her. He was 35 when he married Mom, his first and only marriage, so good things do come to those who wait.

Answer 6

the person he is/was to me ... i miss him so much ..

My dad God bless him was an alcoholic most of his life but he tried so hard to change , we had a very special bond even though he could often embarrass me if he was drunk and i was with friends but i would never change him for the world . He passed 14 yrs ago this year , a year after i married so i am so glad he gave me away on my wedding day . He had his problems but its fair to say everyone liked my dad .. I just wish my children could have got to meet him and know him , he would have spoilt them rotten and i am already sure he probably has seen them and loves them as much as i do ..

R.I.P Dad ..love u xx

Answer 7

Musician. World War 2 Vet. Had heart problem all his life. Didn't have to serve in AAF but he went anyway. Good father. Good man. Worked hard all his life. Always held two jobs. Civil Service and musician. Died young. Had a nice smile. Always looked after his family and friends. You would have liked him.

Answer 8

If you look close enough all idols seem to have feet of clay. Once you realize that the relationship is more honest. My Dad is very old and won't be around much longer and I'll miss him terribly.

Answer 9

How much I miss him. My dad died more then 10 years ago and I still miss him everyday. He was my hero and is still "the wind beneath my wings". He never met a stranger, had a great sense of humor, and most of all loved my mom and us with everything he had. He taught us all to love our country and to give back to our community thru service which we all do. He was a good man who I love dearly and will miss always.

Answer 10

What a great question and look at all these responses!

I guess as we get closer to Father's Day we always get a little sentimental about dear ole dad. My dad is just such a unique guy. He's so very quiet socially. But if someone addresses him, wow...... he comes out with the most hilarious comment that you would never expect. He has such a dry sense of humor. He's so quiet that you just KNOW he's observing everything around him. I think that's what makes him so wise. So when he does speak........ watch out!! It's worthy of EVERYONE hearing.

He's an amazing actor. Just amazing!! In fact he and my mom met on stage. They were doing a play while in college and fell in love. *awww* If you are familiar with Johnny Cullum the actor, he used to act with my dad in Knoxville. Said he hated being on stage with my dad because when he was he knew that no one was looking at anyone else but him. Johnny went on to be famous on Broadway, in movies and on TV. My dad chose to stay and teach. Sure...... part of me would love to say, "Wow...... look at my famous dad!!" But the other part of me wants to say..... "Wow... look at my famous dad!" He chose the life that fit him. He said he could never have led the life of an actor. But to teach and pass on his gift...... wow... I just kind of think that is amazing. I'm so proud of him!!

He's soft spoken....... wise...... so modest...... so funny...... so much my dad!!