There is just one thing I don't understand. Why people are mean.
It's so much easier to be nice. Why would anyone want to go out of their way to be nasty and to make someones life hell? Espcially when that person has never done anything to that person.
I recently got a new job. (With a girl i've known since primary school). She is the nastiest person I know, she will go way out of her way, use up her own time to make someone feel like ****.
For example she rung up my best friend and said she was going to break into her sleep out and stab her to death.
Does this girl actually 'get off' on being a complete b*tch? I don't get it... Does she feel better about herself?
Please explain...
2007-06-06 22:28:04 · 5 answers · asked by ★☆✿❀ 7 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
It sounds like this girl has some real issues and is very jealous of the other girl. The mean girl wants to have control over something and somebody and that is why she is threatening people. After this happened, I bet everybody was talking about it, right? That's exactly what this mean girl wants....attention and control. This individual sounds like she needs some help. If her threats get out of control or her actions get worse during the work day, she should be reported. No one should have to endure threats and being treated this way.
2007-06-07 01:51:42 · answer #1 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Many reasons
2 main reasons - a sense of control, they want power and control over another persons life and if they think they can affect someones self worth they are thrilled. They get a high. Its amazing what some people will do to get power because they lack it.
jealousy, they must feel inadequate next to the person so if they can find something wrong with them they are happy. Hell they will even invent stuff to make themselves feel better and make the person look less perfect. Thats the extreme.
Other reasons:
1.they are unhappy with their lives, they have most likely been put down, abused, the victim of something and it makes them feel good to take it out on others who they see that are above that or have a better and happier life than them. If they can bring that person down they achieve a sense of relief and power and they are 'Somebody' now.
2. they are seeking revenge on someone for a percieved wrongdoing whether it be real or not. Revenge or punishment against a whole group or one person.
3. they hate someone for ignorant reasons and dont know nothing of them, just what they heard and want to feel cool or big so they give the person a hard time to obtain approval from another.
4. I just think some people cant stand to see others 'happy'. Either its jealousy, hate, unsatisfied with their own lives, it really baffles me.
5. Some people operate from a position of if i dont behave this way they will take advantage of me. If they arent in control they will be the ones controlled. Its fear.
Just keep in mind that the person who is mean to you must live a hellish existance. If they tell you theres no reason they do it they are lying. They are such little people that the only way they can feel like theyre somebody is to put somebody else down.
It basically comes down to this- they feel low and worthless and if they can make you feel that way too, they have a sense of relief. They have ''accomplished'' something. Then they wouldnt be so alone. Well, look what ive done, ive knocked this one down. Thats the only way they gain pride and accomplishment because they cant get it from good things. A real winner builds ya up. A real winner in life will want you to rise too. They want to see you be happy because they are.
2007-06-06 22:40:55 · answer #2 · answered by broz215 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
some people, as you may have heard numerous times before, seek a sense of validation by unconsciously projecting the anger they feel toward themselves outward at those close to them...the reasons for this kind of psychological or emotional projecting can differ among individuals though...sometimes people simply know they are being mean and taking their anger out on others because they feel the need to vent...if you cannot find any apparent, solid reason for why the person is being mean, the reason is either of the two that ive given...
2007-06-06 22:38:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
She's getting off by putting others down in a lame attempt to make herself look better. Unfortunately it does not work, and only shows you and other people how lame she is.
People who behave like this usually suffer from low self-esteem or find it okay to dump their dumpster bin (issues, anger problems etc.) on others.
My advice is to not participate in this and ignore what she sais or does, make her look like a fool by not engaging in this battle field.
2007-06-06 22:55:56 · answer #4 · answered by Soybella 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Stand up for yourself, and the community guide lines here and make the best of a cr*p world.
2007-06-07 19:55:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋