Personally, I don't believe in prenups. This is like signing a contract hoping to get divorced. Isn't a marriage about sharing and compromising? If you don't trust the person you are marrying, why would you marry them? Don't give me the "just in case" crap either. What are your thoughts?
2007-06-06 20:06:56 · 19 answers · asked by JuDyLicious 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I just clicked on answer saw this question and had to repond. Didnt even realize it was you. When you get married you are signing a contract. Take a marriage contract to an attorney. He will tell you this is the worst contract you can sign. A prenup is an amendment to the marriage contract. It is written to cover all of the loop holes in the original contract without rewriting it. These days getting married without one is like betting half of everything you own on black at the roulette table. And at your age its more like betting half of everything you have on 4 ot 5 numbers on the roullete table. 4 chip minimum..
2007-06-06 20:20:39 · answer #1 · answered by mrcarl92807 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
A good prenup is always a good idea. It isn't a contract hoping to get divorced, its more of a reason for the other half of the marriage to not do anything stupid. In an ideal world, two people that get married wouldn't have any problems but this isn't an ideal world. Lets say that you have $500K in the bank and you have no prenup - when your spouse has a breakdown years in the marriage and cheats on you (the old "grass is greener on the other side" idea or simply too much alcohol with too little self control) then the ensuing divorce will result in you splitting that money with the spouse. If you had a prenup that stated a divorce related to infidelity resulted in forfeiture of the above mentioned cash then your cheating spouse gets no money and you can sleep a little better knowing that at least you didn't give them and their new partner a little free money to start life. Anyhow, this is the extremely shortened answer as prenups get very involved - Hope this helps....
2007-06-06 20:27:10 · answer #2 · answered by S G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe there is no 'just in case' at least there shouldn't be in marriage. Marriage is supposed to be very deep. One should know the other so well they can trust them with their life and their children and their money. Signing a prenup is like saying 'til death do we part unless something happens before then' like there is nothing permanent about it.
However, in this day and age money is a powerful force and people who have it don't want lose it. Some folks marry just for someone else's money but their game is so tite you can't tell if you're being played or not.
It's a sticky situation and I'm glad I have no money. It's bad when you can't really be sure if your partner loves you or your money.
2007-06-06 21:04:53 · answer #3 · answered by kwazeeme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel that if you really love someone and you are really serious about having an enduring life together... a prenup should not be in the equation. I feel that prenups are for people that are unsure of the choices they are making... and already know that the marriage will not last. I wouldn't want to marry someone that wanted me to sign a prenup... because if taking the step towards marriage is not a significant vow of unconditional love itself... then, why bother. I don't agree with it and to me... if someone worries that much about the risk of losing something in a marriage... they shouldn't get married.
2007-06-06 20:38:29 · answer #4 · answered by Candy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the just in case crap is my thoughts lol u never know what can happen these days and if you are well off then having a prenup signed can be best for anyone...if a couple loves eachother enough to trust each other fully thats fine and if they choose not to sign a prenup thats good for them but if they later on down the road dont make it and one of them is vindictive and decides to take the others hard earned stuff thats their own decision....for me personally i dont think i would sign a prenup or have my husband sign one because for me when i say i do... i will be in it for forever....but if i got divorced all i would ask for is that we both take what is rightfully ours and i think that its all up to the two people in the situation life is hard it sucks and i wouldnt want anyone to take my stuff so i guess im not really against prenups but im not really for it too....its complicated.....
2007-06-06 20:15:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are asking for our thoughts, it's unfair to give us guidelines of what we may say. You may not get a truthful answer that way. Anyway....
If both parties are fairly equal in wealth, there should not be a need for a Pre-Nup.
If each side is quite unequal, use a pre-nup to even the score should there be a divorce so you could both start out again on equal footing. If you aren't going to get a divorce it shouldn't matter anyway, right?
A senario to think about: If this were a second marriage, you had been suddenly widowed the first time and were (thankfully) left well enough off to be able to comfortably take care of your children and home. Would you risk your children's future to wed someone without the protection of a pre-nup? I couldn't risk my children's future like that no matter how much I cared for someone. The person would get half of everything I owned even if HE decided to walk out for no reason and I didn't want him to.
Children change everything.
2007-06-06 20:27:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, i would not sign a prenup incredibly if we the two have no longer something first of all. despite if my considerable different is the bread winner, i could wish i performed some section interior the relationship. i think that signing a prenup is an settlement of what could ensue once you separate. If i became into to marry for romance then i would not have self belief we would separate. If i assumed we are able to separate then i would not hardship to marry.
2016-11-26 21:56:17 · answer #7 · answered by mulholland 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two marraiges that everyone thought were the things that would last forever has now both ended in divorce - in one case were it not for the prenup she would have nothing, not the house bought with her money, nothing. Everything they have overseas, he would have been able to take, for putting zero in.
Prenup is the smart thing to do. If you have a mind to want to keep anything you have had.
But by all means forgo it - and see what happens yourself.
Myself and my partner have worked out we are each going in with what we individually have, and that's how we'll come out.
2007-06-06 20:13:15 · answer #8 · answered by Unicornrider 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe in pre-nups. If there is property or investments that need to be protected for your blood family or children. This is not so much of "just in case" of divorce, but also in terms of death. It can also function as a guide should a Will and last Testament not be present.
I know several people living on Trusts funds. These people need their Trusts protected. Not so much from their spouses, but from their spouses families.
2007-06-06 20:26:03 · answer #9 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats something that I worry about also. I think it can be a good idea if you are the financial provider because you have no protection of your assets if your significant other decides they want to leave and take half. I don't think about it like trust issue but more of a reason to stay together.
2007-06-06 20:10:49 · answer #10 · answered by Dunkel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋