teen prgnancy?

Question

Hey i just wanted to know how many teens are on here that have kids or are pregnant.I'm 19 and i have a 2 month old son.And to all the people that say that teens are stupid or not good parents.Your wrong.I'm a very good parent and have everything my son could ever want.I have my own house with my husband who is 22.I stay at home with my son and my husband works.And i did graduate highschool And i'm in collage only 1 year to go to get my bachelors dagree.( I graduated high school early)So do not doubt teens who have kids i know a lot of teens who are very good parents and i know mothers in there 20s and 30s who could be come better parents

For my grammer i'm just writing so shut up back to the really question. Some of you older people need to grow up i think.Once you have a child everything changes.And you grow up so fast.To Chastity M. Yeah i do know maybe if you had kids you would know .Statistics when i look on tv and the internet all i see is that parents abuseing there childern and there always older parents. I only wrote this question because every time i come on here all i see is people talking about how bad teen parents are.And to the grammer stuff i was wirting fast. I go and see my sons doctor every month and she has told me so many times that she sees older parents that are not as half as good as me. I do agree that some teens are not stable But people do need to mind there own business and life there own life and stop ranting about teens and other people.And thank you to all the teens who are very good moms..

Answer 1

Okay, it is not for everyone but it can work out just fine.

I was married a few months after my 18th birthday. We had our first child right after our 19th birthdays. Our second child was born exactly two years later. I was also able to stay at home with my kids while my husband worked. It worked for us!

We are now getting ready to celebrate our 10th wedding anniversary and our children will turn 9 and 7 in a few months. We love each other just the same as we did on our wedding day and despite the numerous people who said it wouldn't last, it has been perfect!

I have gotten my bachelors degree during this time and my husband has excelled in his field of work. We are going to be able to enjoy our 40's traveling and in each others company while our children are in college and starting lives of their own.

Its a personal choice, dependent on a persons level of maturity! Congrats to you and Good Luck!

Answer 2

Hi, I think alot pf people on here have been very judgemental. People used to get married and have children at such a young age (14-16 was once the average age to bear children) and it was not only socially acceptable, it was expected.
I am 20 and the idea of having a child scares the S**T out of me but I do not judge those who choose to have children early. My grandparents had my parents when they were 16/17 and my parents are great so who says a young person is any better or worse than an older person at parenting. It depends on the individual and also on the support they have around them and both theses things are not neccessarily affected by age. If those of you who don't agree with being a young mother are saying "The older the better", the other thing to condsider is, does someone who is older (as in 45+) make a better parent when they don't have the energy and patience to have children around?
Another scenario....Someone might have a child when they are 32, Single, have no family support and are unwilling to seek help from support groups, health centers, GPs or even books! Do they make a better mother than an 18 year old, in a healthy relationship, goes to all the antenatal ckecks, attends support groups, reads about positive parenting, seeks advice from the women in their family etc etc??

Once again, I think you will agree- it depends on the individual and their circumstances. I know plenty of young women who do a beautiful job with their children and I congratulate anyone who does! All the best to you and your child.

Answer 3

I don´t know where did you heard that teens weren´t good parents.
I´m from Chile and there teens are getting pregnant ate every second. I´m 25 and when I was in my last year of high school there were 4 pregnant girls in my class, and a lot more in the whole school. That just to give you an example, and since abortion is illegal there, all the teens have to raise their babies because give in adoption is never a choice for them and NONE of those girls are bad moms.
Often they don´t even count with the father of the baby, so they make everything with no help.

You are lucky that you were able to finish the school and have a responsible boyfriend that after that became a husband that keep supporting you and the baby.

Maybe you should think in join some kind of organization so you can share your experience with other teens and give to the hopeless ones a little of advice.

Congratulations and good luck in your new life!!

Answer 4

I agree with you.

I'm not a mother and probably won't be for at least another year, but I'm 19 years old as well and I feel that I could be a better parent than a lot of people who are much older than me. So I don't think that teenage mothers or parents are stupid. In fact, I applaud them for going through with having the baby instead of having an abortion and ending an innocent human life. The only things I worry about with teenage parents that I wouldn't as much with older people is making sure they are financially stable, make sure they are able to get through school, all that stuff. But I think that teenage parents are some of the strongest people, because first of all they are raising a child, second of all they have to deal with all that criticism and judgment.

Answer 5

I just want to congradulate you. You seem like a wonderful person and mother. Your child is very lucky.

I hate people who just look at stereotypes. I am 19 and I'm not a teen mother, but I am the daughter of a teenage mother and my older sister was a teenage mother (today is my sister's 22nd birthday and she is married and has 2 little girls who are 5 and 1). I had everything when I was growing up, and my mother turned out to be one of my best friends. She did an amazing job raising both of us and I couldn't have asked for anything better. I turned out great, I graduated high school when I was 16, I'm finishing up my 3rd year of college, and I am one of the most level headed and mature 19 year olds there is.

Answer 6

First, congratulations!!! =] I'm a teen mother as well. My fiance and I are due in July and we, too have bought a house. I graduated high school (not early like you though.) and got pregnant in college. I plan on attending college still after the baby is born.

I also agree with you. Not all teen mothers are bad mothers. There are a lot out there that are good, but also bad. and i most definitely agree with you about women who are in their 20s and 30s that could be better parents. I know some that aren't very good ones at all.

So congratulations and keep on doing all you can! =]

Answer 7

I had my first child when I was 17 I have been married for 26 years to the same guy and have had 5 children so I agree with you not all teens are bad parents but some are they need to not judge all on what some are like good luck to you and I hope you have a good life and marriage.

Answer 8

i asked a question similar to this a few ays ago = p. im 18 & pregnant, although i will be 19 when my baby is born. people automatically think that because we are young we cannot support a child. i graduated highschool & i am studying to be a nurse. my boyfriend & who is also 22 have just built a house & we own 2 cars. i think people should stop stereotyping us.. i know of people who are in the 30's & they are not good parents.... they cant even support their children financially..

Answer 9

i completely agree with you!!!
i was a mom at 18. i finished h.s at 16 and college at 22 because i took a year off for my lil girl. and my husband and i own our home. your little girl is 5 and starts school in the fall and her little bro or sis is due tomorrow (hopefully my kidneys need a break from the kicking lol but loving every min of it). i did and do not regret or think that i have missed out on anything i am completely happy with my life and the way it turned out. i do have to say that there are some bad teen parents but not all of them and it really makes me mad when people stereotype teen parents = bad parents. my daughter is happy, healthy, and does not go with out anything.
now that i vented
congrats on your son.
~~~hope that i don't offend you or anyone~~~

Answer 10

I'm not a teen, but have been mistaken for one many times during my pregnancy (I have a very young looking face).

I'm 25/married/financially stable and 36wks pregnant. There have still been people who have been nasty regardless.

People stereotype everything they can and are quick to be judgmental (especially on sites like this). Try to not take it to heart.

If you know that you are a good parent and take care of your responsibilities then there is no need to justify yourself to anyone.

Maturity, respect, patience, love and financial standing are some of the most important values in child rearing.

It's when a person does not care for their children that I get upset, but that is regardless of age.

:)