How to tell a man to get a job without hurting his feeling?

Answer 1

Don't worry about his feelings. Just tell him and be blunt.

Answer 2

I learned long ago that men who have trouble getting a job are not necessarily lazy. There are often issues going on there that are below the surface, something we don't pick up on just by interacting with these guys. Sometimes there is a fear there that we do not know about. It's not wise to delve too deep into that possiblity, however, because men do not like to admit they are afraid of something. Your man might actually be afraid of something that happened at work or he fears embarrassment over something in the workplace.

We don't know if you are a spouse or other relative or a friend or roommate. Here's some general recommendations though:

1. See if he would be interested in going the part-time job route first. Men who feel threatened in past jobs often feel better experimenting with a job with part-time hours or even a temporary job or a seasonal job where there is definitely a beginning and an end to his employment. Your guy may need some sort of transitional job to get him back into the labor force.

2. Some guys who appear to have trouble at work might do better by working two part-time jobs. (They are not necessarily exposed to the stress one can have with full-time work at one workplace.)

3. Have him help you with little jobs around the house. Give him definite tasks and chores that he is responsible for (and you are responsible for others). When he completes a job, praise him but don't connect that praise with him getting a paying job.

4. Check into home-based work for him.

5. Make sure he gets a thorough physical exam and make sure (if possible) that his medical and dental health is taken care of on a regular basis.

6. Strange as this may sound, check to see if he has not only given up on productive work but also on hobbies or other free-time acitivities in his life. Could depression be part of the problem? Could talking to a counselor help? Should he be on medications and he's not or is he on medications that you do not know about?

7. Have a discussion with him on what kinds of jobs he liked in the past and what kinds of new ones he'd like to have.

I hope this helps you and the man in question.

Answer 3

If you are the only one working in the house there is no subtle way to tell him. You work, cook, clean and make dinner and wash clothes you have to stand up and tell him times are hard and if wants to stay he has to get a job and help out. If the bills are behind and he's part of making them bills what will it hurt telling him that he need a job. Think about it how long are you willing to take care of him when he is not taking care of you like a man suppose to. If he can't get a job find someone who will your a woman and you deserve better. You do not need to be taking care of a grown man if you got kids what makes you think you need another. Tell him to grow up.

Answer 4

It depends on how close you are to this "man" - try asking him what type of work he's lokking for, then ask where he has applied lately - if he hasn't been looking, there is no harm asking him why not - if he is your live in bf or husband, simply tell him the vacation is over now and he needs to find work - now please. Don't worry about his feelings - if that hurts his feelings, than I can understand why he can't keep a job!

Answer 5

If you hurt his feelings by telling him to get a job then he needs to grow up and become a MAN.

Answer 6

Tell him you think its in his best interest to get a job. If he sits on his *** all day what does he expect?

Answer 7

You don't. We have some primative instinct in us that always gets burned when we hear that.

Answer 8

Don't know enough about your situation to advise you. Is it your boyfriened? husband? brother? Is he depending on you to support him?

Answer 9

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