There is a woman in another state who I've known for about 17 years. We recently started talking and corresponding by way of the internet and we went from hot and heavy to cooled off (for reasons I'm not sure of) and now she want to add me back into her life by way of internet. She's married also. What should I do. Needless to say I sure want to do her and my wife doesn't put out unless there is a full moon. LOL In other words not very often. Should I go for the one nighter? Noone will ever find out! Like I said before what should I do? By the way, I'm using my friends e-mail address so that I won't get caught.
2007-06-06 17:35:33 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't think you're an idiot like most people are pointing out, you're just sexually deprived. still. DON'T GO FOR IT. talk to your wife to fix your issues... do you have any kids? this could end your marrige and your family, even if you don't think you could get caught. weight pros and cons... is this really worth jeoperdizing your marrige over?
2007-06-06 17:40:10 · answer #1 · answered by schizometric 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you are miserable in your marriage, than be honest and do the right thing-leave. Before you have your fling.
Can you tell your wife that you are not satisfied? What have you got to lose by asking for what you want and need? If you are going out and screwing somebody else (which may lead to messy emotional entanglements you are not counting on!)
then you are breaking a vow, a self appointed rule so to speak. Once you do it, it will be easier to do it again.
You are opening yourself up to consequences you may not be willing to take on! A one nighter does not satisfy- you will want more. And maybe so will the woman that is the other half of this one-nighter equation.
As a woman, I can say go to sex therapy with your wife or marriage counselling. If you don't help out around the house - make the effort so she is more willing to be soft and warm with you. Why did you marry her? Do you remember what it was that made you say I Do? Does she?
If all you are looking for is to get your rocks off, hire a hooker. Or masturbate. You want the excitement of physical relationship, work it out with your wife.
2007-06-07 00:51:31 · answer #2 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't care if you lose your wife then go for it. Just remember...everything comes out eventually. If you would want your wife to do that to you then I see nothing wrong with you doing that to her. It seems to me that you are spending too much time on the computer dreaming about this "friend" and not enough time with your wife. Why don't you try giving your wife some of the attention you are giving your so called friend and see if you can't make your marriage better. It seems that if you are using your friends email address so you won't get caught then there must be some kind of feelings still for your wife and you don't want to hurt her. Or is it that you want your cake and eat it too. That don't work in real life. Don't think that if you guys get caught that she will let her husband for you. No way. She won't want you then. Get smart.
2007-06-07 00:46:25 · answer #3 · answered by clueless 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to find out the reason why she doesnt put out very much...
I find it funny how if a woman has an affair and she claims her husband never gives her sex and "a woman has needs you know" its almost just for the woman... but if a man considers it he's scum and an @sshole etc etc...
If there is no good reason for the lack of sex life, well... she needs to consider your needs aswell as hers. I'm not saying i condone cheating, or do it myself.... but if she isn't willing to comprimise, then do what you need to do.
Before you get to that point you should seek some kind of guidance though, be it marriage councelling or what not, you need to talk it through with your wife first.
2007-06-07 00:53:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you already know you're doing dirt. Man If I were you I would leave well enough alone. The grass is not always greener Bro'. Have you looked inside to see if there is something you are doing that makes you wife not want to have sex? Maybe by putting as much energy back into you marriage as you are putting in ways to cheat, you might find a solution to your situation.
2007-06-07 01:26:42 · answer #5 · answered by yo_dre 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Famous last words "no one will ever find out" and "I won't get caught". Just as sure as the sun will rise tomorrow, you will get yourself into deep doo-doo on this one. Honest married men do not have one-nighters with married women other than their wife. If you and your wife are having problems with intimacy, maybe it would be more honest and more productive to talk to her about it and get a little counseling. Re-light the fires so to speak. Might be fun and won't be dangerous. Realistically, how much are you willing to lose for a little extra nookie?
2007-06-07 00:43:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is a reason for not having sex. Maybe she doesn't get enough rest, maybe she is sick, maybe just maybe she has some personal body issues that keep her wanting to be covered up. It could be that her not having sex with you has nothing to do with you. It could also be that you are not very good at it or that together you haven't found how to keep it fresh.
If you cared about your wife you would try to help her have a normal and active sex life not whine and consider something so lower than low for your own pleasure.
Good luck to your wife and this other woman is a pig.
2007-06-07 00:47:08 · answer #7 · answered by New England Babe 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Whatever suits you do it but get ready for the consequences.
Put yourself on her shoe. What if your wife doesn't really put off that much because she has an affain on the side and is no longet attracted to you?
Focus on your marriage dude. One- nighter is not worth it. a night of pleasure is not worth of chaos in marriage which may hunt you for the rest of your married life. Use your hand. be bestfriends with mary PALMer
2007-06-07 01:14:52 · answer #8 · answered by LIA 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you made a commitment to your wife ...the saying to death do we part. Affairs don't only effect you it effects your family , her family and you.The right thing to do is call the whole thing off, if she can't be friends without all the sexual tension then it is better off losing a friend then losing a family and hurting all the people involved.Oh I will add it always comes out .You are already deceiving your wife as it is.
2007-06-07 00:43:49 · answer #9 · answered by boo76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you've named your right hand "Lola" and is married to the other keep to the non-cheating rituals of men all over the world! But on the other hand, your wife would probably be better off with out you - at least have the dignity to leave her with hers before you go galavanting around with your Tom, Dick, and Harry.
2007-06-07 00:46:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, YOU ARE A MARRIED MAN! ARE YOU A CHEATER TOO!
I don't understand people that cheat. If you are unsatisfied with whom you have...move on to another...get free. And allow your wife the privilege of finding someone who 'can' be faithfull to her...and not place sex above commitment.
WHAT YOU SHOULD BE DOING IS GET TO THE ROOT OF YOUR WIFE NOT WANTING SEX SO MUCH. Perhaps she loves you too much to tell you that you do not satisfy her. That is common.
PUT YOUR ENERGIES IN FIXING PROBLEMS, NOT ADDING ON ANOTHER.....besides, how do you know that this woman is not doing this ALL OVER THE US with other men.
YOU MAY BE GETTING MORE THAN YOU ARE BARGAINING FOR.
2007-06-07 00:43:07 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋