i caught my boss with another woman, her wife is Illinois working as a nurse. and he has 3 children... should i tell her wife what happenin or should i keep my mouth close? we're here in the Philippines!
2007-06-06 16:55:05 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i mean is in Chicago Illinois, and working as a nurse there
2007-06-06 16:55:52 · update #1
yes, i am good friend of her wife although she was older that me of about 20 years. i think it because she don't have a daughter...
2007-06-06 17:04:39 · update #2
i think she has a hint on whats going-on here. maybe her brothers or sister tell her.
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3 of my officemates know it too, but i didn't tell 'em!
2007-06-06 17:11:18 · update #3
lol, dats tough one!
i had experience it but in a different way. i am actually the GF of a policeman whom i caught having an affair with his co-policewoman. actually i caught 'em having s*x in his apartment. and later on i discover that a common friend known it long before and didn't tell me at all. i was so upset and feel betrayed that time. later on that common friend of us experience the same way as i did. but the difference is they are married and his wife did it in 3 different man and a woman.
i suggest you tell her. its hard to fight conscience and karma... faith will actually have a reward for you.. be strong and pray to have that courage to say to her what you know! and smile....
2007-06-06 17:27:08 · answer #1 · answered by dark angel 16 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't interfere with their marriage unless you're good friends with the wife. Then as a friend you should hint that something like that happened but not tell her. It could really mess up some things considering they have children and all. I wouldn't say anything if I wasn't friends with the wife.
2007-06-06 23:57:51 · answer #2 · answered by Paisley 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
By all means yes tell her! would you like it if your husband was cheating and everyone knew other than you?
Before telling her though, make sure you have all the facts first. Because after you tell his wife, first thing thats going to come through her mind is denial, then aggression. Either at him or either at you. so before you do anything make sure you have all the facts, because it may back fire at you. And also at the same time, time to look for a new job! lol
2007-06-07 00:05:59 · answer #3 · answered by Lilkryptonite 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
LET IT BE!!!!! TRUST ME ON THIS ONE!!!!! NEVER GET INVOLVED IN ANYONE ELSE'S PROBLEMS!!!
In the case of cheating it is not easy to stay out of it I understand that. Even though it seems like the cheater is the one causing harm to the marriage (and he is) you would be the one to inflict the first pain which is the worst. In time she will find out on her own.
By telling anyone what you saw you may indirectly tear that family apart. Let nature take it's course and you'll see why I say stay out of it. I promise. Besides if it came down to it, it is always better to be an ear or a shoulder for someone who is definately going to need it.
2007-06-07 00:05:20 · answer #4 · answered by kwazeeme 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't tell his wife: it sometimes has a way of turning out badly for you because apart from being mad, she'll be embarrassed. Do however, let him know, very gently, that you know. Say something like, I didn't know you had separated from your wife: let me know if I can help in any way!!! (It's not worth losing a job over). What a scumbag!
2007-06-07 00:10:30 · answer #5 · answered by Annie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you have no friendship with his wife then all you do is jeopardize your own position. While morally saying something could be right, it has very little to do with you and any fall out would be in your lap. Besides they may have an understanding.
Stay out of it unless it effects your relationship or job.
2007-06-07 00:01:42 · answer #6 · answered by andyjh_uk 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do it anonymously with great detail if at all possible. I think a spouse deserves to know that their partner may bring home more than bacon, like a disease, and could have other children. Besides, who wants to be part of a lie? I would want to know.
2007-06-06 23:59:29 · answer #7 · answered by socalmal 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do you want to keep your job? Honestly, it's not really any of your business unless his wife is your sister or really good friend. Keep it closed, she'll find out eventually.
2007-06-06 23:58:16 · answer #8 · answered by n2mama 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
ask yourself this question...do you really want to be involved? If you tell the wife, you could become a witness at the divorce hearings...
2007-06-06 23:58:30 · answer #9 · answered by Big Dre 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
let's put it this way...you count the number of individuals who advised you not to tell the wife and the number of those who told you to inform the wife.. Majority wins..
2007-06-07 00:14:12 · answer #10 · answered by rica 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋