I am pregnant and am just a teen i would like to know if there are any other teen moms or moms to be or even adult moms or moms to be on here that could give me any advice on how to tell my parents {the dad already knows} or what to do about the baby i am really confused!!Any help will be greatly appriciated!Guys can answer too!
2007-06-06 16:53:51 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
ok, you need to sit down with whichever parent you feel most comfortable with and tell them what is going on, they will cry and be upset but eventually you are gonna need their help to tell the other parent, believe me i know i got pregnant at 14, not a fun conversation at all. do not have the daddy there, it will just make it more stressful on you and your parents because they will want to hurt him. about the baby is really up to you, i kept mine because i had very caring and understanding parents that were always by my side to help out. PLEASE do not abort, there are so many families looking for babies to adopt, check out your options before you make a decision, but in the end you need to sit with the daddy and have a good long conversation about what is best for the BABY, not your or him, because if you keep it, from now on out, everything you do will affect your child. I wish you the best of luck, if you need to talk just email me at nascar_cr8zy@ yahoo.com .
2007-06-06 17:04:42 · answer #1 · answered by nascar_cr8zy 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Tell the one that you think will freak out the least - usually Mom but sometimes it is Dad. Let them decide whether to tell the other together or alone. At my house it would be me, Mom, & I would tell Dad alone so he would not say anything he could not take back. Be upfront without making untrue excuses. Keep it to I made a mistake or a bad choice. Remember the "I am sorry for embarrasing or disrupting your lives" - it will make both of you feel better.
As for the baby, you must make the decision & no one else.
Even your parents or the Dad can not choose this. You do not say how old you are. Is marriage a resonable option? If not adoption can give your baby a wonderful life. Some families help you keep & raise the baby - I personally do not favor this as you lose your childhood & your parents help raise another child. I am morally opposed to abortion as I feel children are gifts from God. Good luck & try not to get too stressed as it is bad for the baby.
2007-06-06 17:14:38 · answer #2 · answered by Wolfpacker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what kind of relationship you have with your parents, so that part is hard. The responsible thing is for you and the father to tell them, but it might not be the best scenario for you. Is there another adult you can go to to help ease things along.
Teen pregnancy is not the most horrible thing in the world. It's not exactly wonderful, but I've seen a lot of teen mothers do excellent and make wonderful mothers, even better then some of the older mothers I've met. I've seen positive adoption experiences as well.
I know this is a hard and very confusing time for you, but God gives us 9 months for a reason. It gives you opportunity to make important decisions and prepare yourself and surroundings for this big change.
Take a breather, it's not the end of the world, and come up with a plan for you and your baby. Approach your parents with your news. You can expect drama and heartbreak, but their input is also important for you and this baby, whether you keep or adopt your baby out.
I'm pro life, and don't advocate abortion, but I do realize it's a personal choice. These are big decisions you face, and you're parents input is important. It's also important that you educate yourself on your options.
It's not a perfect scenario, but it's not the worst thing in the world either, good luck!
2007-06-06 17:19:50 · answer #3 · answered by Tikled_Ivory 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm pregnant also. The only difference is that I'm older and I have a father who still wants to believe that I'm still a virgin at 32yrs. (he's needs to stop playing!!) Because now it's different. I was afraid to tell him because I'm still his baby. But after you tell your parents, it would easier on your pregnancy. Of course, that whole "I'm so disappointed in you" speech is going to surface. Trust me the sooner the better. Bite the bullet and tell them. That is you are prepared to keep it. My life is all ready changing. I feel weird and crazy things. you are going to have to be stronger then ever now if you are going to be a mother. Now, to choose other options besides adoption is a very hard and life changing thing also. You must grow up now and decide if your time as a teenager is over. Or If it's just some thing to get over. (If you know what I mean.) Tell Someone older like a close relative. Either way the deed is done. What doesn't kill you will make you stronger and braver then ever before.
2007-06-06 17:20:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get your parents together ASAP and tell them you have something important to talk to them about, and you need to talk to them now. The sooner you tell them the better. Your parents can help you with your decision, and because you are a teen you are having a baby for your parents until you reach the age of 18 years old unless you live in a State where you will be responsible for your baby as a minor. Tell your parents so you all can decide early what to do. Never hide a pregnancy from a parent because it makes matters worse. Good Luck.
2007-06-06 17:01:55 · answer #5 · answered by joi w 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well when I was pregnant I was 21 with my first kid and of course I had no trouble telling my parents. You should tell them because if you don't they will find out any way. Don't be affraid. What can they do nothing you are already pregnant. The least they can do is be happy for you. By the way I am a 26 year old mother of 2 girls. Ever have any questions just ask me ok.
2007-06-06 17:06:37 · answer #6 · answered by Amanda P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right, its not a typical stupid question :)
I got pregnant at 14. My family found out after i was in my 6th month. But here's some advice. Tell them together, and try to have someone else there (family friend, aunt, etc) to mediate in case things get sticky. better for you to tell them than they find out on their own.
And be sure to finish school! i finished school and am in my senior year in college, and have a really good job in financial services... Your doors are still open, just be sure to do what you have to do to take care of you and the baby. Dont let people tell you it cant be done or that you made a mistake. Your baby will be a blessing, trust me!
I wish you all the luck in the world :)
2007-06-06 17:17:25 · answer #7 · answered by vixalle21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got pregnant when I was 18, I basically waited til the last possible second to tell my parents, I was four months and waited til my mom had the check made out for me to go pay my college tuition the last day I had to pay it, and I broke down and told her. I would not suggest that. Parents are alot more understanding than you would think. I thought my parents were going to kill me, they wanted to initially until they realized they were going to have a grandbaby to spoil. If you are a responsible person you should have no problem. Plus their are alot of programs out there to help teen moms. Me and my husband are doing it all on our own though so it is verry possible. If you are scared to tell one parent and are closer to the other. Tell your mom and then let her tell your dad or vis versa. Maybe not the most appropiate way to tell them but alot easier then sitting them down. And if you sit them both down chances are they are going to figure it out before you even open your mouth. I wish you good luck...it may suck but baby's are awesome it will all come to you with time.
2007-06-06 17:09:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how young of a teen you are. Be prepared for the fact that your parents will not be overjoyed with the news. Hopefully your parents are the angry-sad-numb-acceptance variety rather than the angry-angry-angry variety. I think no matter how young you are, you know what the options are. Termination, adoption, open adoption, or making the greatest sacrifice you can make in your life and dedicating yourself to the little bundle. What you decide is entirely up to you, and definatley don't let anyone tell you what to do. Advice should be just that....advice. Do what's best for you, and if you should decide to keep the pregnancy, whats best for the baby. Good luck!
2007-06-06 17:01:02 · answer #9 · answered by Mara 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
As for telling your parents, the best thing is honesty. Just sit them down, explain that you're pregnant and that you'd really appreciate their help and advice, and just be honest!! If you're going to carry the baby to term (yes I'm pro-life but not a freak about it, it's your body and your decision), they'll find out soon enough, and it's better if they find out from you telling them rather than from 'suspecting.'
What to do about the baby depends on how supportive your family is, in my opinion. Raising a child is very difficult, but rewarding. If you have a good relationship with your parents and they can help you, my advice is to keep it. If not, my advice is to carry it to term and have it adopted. You have so many choices - open adoption, closed adoption, etc..
But really, step one is just come out and tell your folks asap. They can help you make decisions too. Good luck. :)
2007-06-06 17:02:55 · answer #10 · answered by fuffernut 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋