We used to be inserperable. But now he wants nothing to do with me. He comes home from work and gets on the computer. I don't know what i've done wrong.
2007-06-06 16:04:52 · 14 answers · asked by button 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The truth is you can't ever really know for sure unless he confirms it.
However, what should you do? I would say sit down and have a talk with him an open and honest conversation about what is going on in your relationship. Approach this as a problem that you have as a couple, and tell him that you want to solve it as a couple.
This approach should defuse the idea that he is under attack, it may not be that there is another woman at all, it may just be that he is going through a low point and needs some space.
Talk to him, not communicating is the surest way to destroy a relationship.
Good luck my dear and I hope this helps.
2007-06-06 16:10:02 · answer #1 · answered by Teclis98 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm on the computer 24/7 & i'm not having an affair!!!
but yeah if he's ignoring you 24/7 he may be but don't nag him about it cause men hate to be nagged & even if he's not having an affair you will push him away from you, just try to be real loving & friendly with him without all the drama & just take it from there & see what happens & if he continues to ignor you well then maybe
2007-06-06 16:21:49 · answer #2 · answered by ausblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it is the very typical lack of communications---lots of couples go through this. Time can be a real problem with couples that don't talk--pick a good time and place to start talking about these issues--and they are never one sided--BOTH of you are to blame--tell him you want to talk about this separation anxiety you feel.he may have a few things to talk about with you too..so be prepared. Send himflowers at work, ask him to a nice dinner and see if he can relax and enjoy a nice evening--tell him you are missing him. No yelling or blaming--just a nice easy discussion. Hey if it is over--you'll know--and you can move on--you need to be happy regardless of it all. An affair is cheating and you should go immediately--no discussion needed.Smile and good luck
2007-06-06 22:27:35 · answer #3 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is his choice. He is probably committing on line infidelity. Are you monitoring his email and IM's? Chat rooms etc.....
This is not your fault. He has chosen to commit this sin. He will try to blame it on you, but don't take it on. He is the one doing something wrong. Even if he doesn't touch the other women physically he is still committing emotional infidelity.
Go on line to 'infidelity on line' there is a wealth of info on it. It is happening all over the world to many, many married couples.
2007-06-06 16:14:43 · answer #4 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hope it isnt but....I bet its computer porn or a cyber affair... check the history and files in the computer!!!
2007-06-06 16:08:05 · answer #5 · answered by vixalle21 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should definitely be suspicios thats how it start i know my husband cheated 4 times and everytime thats how it started we are now divorced do some research withouit him nkowing. good luck
2007-06-06 16:35:07 · answer #6 · answered by pamlar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take the hard-drive or whatever it's called [during the day] and have a computer expert tell you what's on it,
2007-06-06 16:12:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The key to your marriage is COMMUNICATION. Never assume anything. TALK TO HIM & ASK HIM DIRECTLY, that's the only way to find out.
2007-06-06 16:29:12 · answer #8 · answered by sugarBear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look at the cookies on the computer... then you can tell where he is going online... maybe that will give you some clues.
2007-06-06 16:10:42 · answer #9 · answered by Allison 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you're seriously that concerned.. hire a private investigator..or ask Dr. Phil
2007-06-06 16:14:22 · answer #10 · answered by cnn360coffeebubbles 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋