if your partner cheated on you and they have a history of infidelity in the past, can you trust them?

Answer 1

I wouldn't be able to but some people are much more forgiving than I am.

Answer 2

I'm in a similar situation where the girl I was dating at the time was fooling around during our whole dating ordeal. Unfortunately I can't blame her since we were just "dating" but it's kind of heartbreaking to find out a lot of things about her past and present situation with other males. That went on for about a year or so we ended up being friends and sometimes with benefits and now we are in a relationship but she still has those bad habits as far as being with other males and lien to me. It is hard to trust that person if he or she has had a very fishy past, I don't know how I do it but I try everyday so I guess it'll be worth it in the end. Just trust your gut feeling and make smart sensible decisions.

Answer 3

Humans are creatures of habits. It takes a lot for a person to make a commitment to wanting to change. Once they have violated the trust it shouldn't be lightly handed back to them. If they truly care and respect you they will either commit to the change 100% or leave so they don't continually hurt you. My guess is that your partner doesn't feel motivated enough to change and certainly doesn't show respect to you bye continuing to cheat. I do believe almost everyone has the capacity to change but they have to want to do it. Do fool yourself into thinking that you could say or do something that will bring about this change. Your choices are to give him the choice to make. Stay and commit to changing which means stop everything now and forever or leave. You deserve to have someone treat you with respect.

Answer 4

You CAN choose to trust them if you like getting Post traumatic stress disorder and anxiety attacks.. Or if you are co-dependant and think you can change them.. Or if you are in denial.. They on the other hand will take your trust and treat it the same they have in the past.. I am pretty sure about that!

Answer 5

Yes and No it all depends. Either they choose to stay the same or they change. Have you heard the song, "some people change"? by Montgomery Gentry? Well it can be true, has your partner shown signs of changes?

Answer 6

It would be hard to do. I would have a hard time with trusting her, ask her if she's willing to get some help.It sounds like she's looking for something & she will never be happy till she deals with her problems. try talking to her if you really love her things will work out but, i think she needs help.
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Answer 7

The answer is NO! Not only did they cheat, but this is clearly a pattern of behavior that has formed. Don't give a drunk your car keys and then ***** about them wrecking said vehicle!

Answer 8

You can't trust them any further than you can throw them. Dump this partner. He'll be nothing but a pain in the butt for all your life.

Answer 9

You have the best answer in all these people above me, and it is NO.. you know the first time is always the hardest to cheat and if that is over it is game on and no worries..

Answer 10

Why would anyone put themselves through that over and over? You can try to keep a dying plant alive, but it's dying anyway. Give yourself a break and get help. Use your energies and resources for something with real hope.

Answer 11

I am very sorry to hear this....

Simple answer.. No..

You know what you need to do. Build a case and take him to the cleaners in court. You have no idea how much you can mess with his life this way if you know what you are doing...