because im 8 months pregnatn. for one, i keep missing work for doctor apointemtns they get all mad @ me becuase they have to carry the work load - i cant help it though! and usually they have me doing extra so they can stand around and talk. and now im nto wroking as fast they expect me to work like as fast as i used to be and ijust cant. they both are being rude, irritable and etc.. i have about one month til maternity leave. how to deal with this and do u think they will be over it when i come back to work in full force ( after i have the baby)??
2007-06-06 15:14:12 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
If this is your working environment before the baby, then it will be multiplied after the baby comes, because you will be even busier. Employers like to know they can depend on workers to be there for them. Being pregnant is not the same as having to miss work because of illness b/c illness is not something we can control, but women decide to have babies and expect their employer to just accept all the inconveniences that come along with it.
Consider not working after the baby comes and you can devote all your time to him/her.
Congratulations on your pregnancy!
2007-06-06 15:18:43 · answer #1 · answered by Veritas 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
No, they won't be over it! Why? Because then you will have sick baby days, pediatrician appointments, no babysitter days, etc.!!! Once you become a parent, it changes how you work. They just have to live with it.
Of course, if you are rubbing their noses in it, by always talking about your tired back, or how big you are, or what the Dr. said., I am sure you have worn them out! Do not talk about the pregnancy at work! This can lead to the resentment, unless you have a sincerely close friendship with your co-workers, which apparently you don't.
So -- keep the pregnancy talk down, work as hard as you can in whatever way you CAN, make up for not being able to do certain things by taking care of things you can, don't complain, and thank them for taking up the slack for you if and when they do.
And then continue this after the baby arrives! In other words -- pull your weight and don't complain. Then if it doesn't stop the bad attitude, at least you know you've given them no reason for it! Good luck!
2007-06-06 22:25:08 · answer #2 · answered by Still Me 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
At least you still have your job. I have been let go of 2 jobs in the last 2 weeks becuase they found out I was pregnant and I am not even due until December.
Just think about the little one you will have in your arms and how you get to be off for the summer! That is probably why they are jealous. :)
2007-06-06 22:25:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
They are not mad cause you are pregnant...they are acting like that 2 year old that has to give up his/her parents 24-hour attention for the newborn baby.....you get what I'm saying.
They have to work harder and your the only one they seem to choose to take it out on. (but it's still not right)... When you come back things will naturally fall back into place. And I think the work flow will return to normal.
Congrats!
2007-06-06 22:20:31 · answer #4 · answered by parti18t 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Regardless of the situation you should not have to work in an environment that, in my opinion, is hostile. I would calmly have a talk with them and explain how you feel. It may simply be a miscommunication problem. If that doesn't work than you need to get your Human Resources department involved (if you have one).
Good luck to you.
2007-06-06 22:28:38 · answer #5 · answered by Rene 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i know a fine lady, bev her name is, brown eyes....ahem anyway, she had this problem, turns out who gives a **** what they think, u have rights as a mother to be and a new mother
if u need time off thru pregnancy related issues...so be it, take it,..same after the birth, if ur kids sick and u need time off, so be it, u dont go to work...no law in the world is gonna get u penalised for being a good mum
2007-06-06 22:25:03 · answer #6 · answered by british_soldier2 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You can't imagine how much you'll change when you're baby is born. If you do not detach from your baby, you will not even want to return to work, as you will know it is harmful to both of you.
2007-06-06 22:47:36 · answer #7 · answered by cranberrychutney 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
More than 10 hours a week separation from mommy is so harmful to babies in social, physical, cognitive, and especially emotional ways. Babies need 2 years of mommy's milk on demand. In other words, just sing lalala in your mind when these folks bother you and focus on not leaving your baby just when she needs you most. The research is solid - she needs you, who cares what they think?
2007-06-06 22:26:34 · answer #8 · answered by cassandra 6 · 3⤊ 3⤋
you should bring it up with your boss. There are always ways of handling certain situations. And you should not have to figure it out alone. good luck
2007-06-06 22:18:52 · answer #9 · answered by shelly92555 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Just raise your baby and ignore them.
2007-06-06 22:43:54 · answer #10 · answered by master apple 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋